Teenagers POV....

Coming from a teenager (Me, 17) ....

I hate when elders say.... "tu apne bados is tarah se baat nhi kr skte"

but they can speak to us that way.

I hated when anupama said.... "yh tumare jaise bacho ne yh tradition badal diya" (the part where baa says that pakhi is being disrespectful to her mom and pakhi says to baa that she has been rude to her since so many years)

Like what do these elders want us to be ?? To be quiet when they scold us all the time ?? What's wrong with talking back sometimes ?? What if we have a reason to talk back ??

I hate elders think we're immature and dumb when we say "mere pas khud ka dimag hai".

Sometimes its true. And some teenagers are mature for their age. If an adult said the exact same thing, they are considered wise.

I hate that when us teenagers say what really bothers us, the elders think that we are being disrespectful and rude and that we deserve a slap or a punishment or that we say it in a "wrong tone".

I hate that elders want us to be strong and independent adults but want us to behave like kids.

Honestly what do you want us to behave like ?? They'll be a time where we will behave like adults and grow up.

Any person regardless of their age, gender, race and status has the right to state their opinion. You may or may not agree with his views but you have to respect his views. You also have the right to state your views in a respectable manner and try to work things out.

If today you don't listen to your teenage kids, when you will grow old and weak they won't listen to you. But every party should be respectful towards the others while keeping across his views.

As P was wrong to tell Anu home breaker, Baa was also wrong to tell Anu badchalaan. An elder does not have the right to abuse someone younger.

I agree with your points but it applies to normal teenagers. Here we are talking about anupama's kids or pakhi to be particular.

She is not shown as teenager anymore. They have mentioned it that she has turned 20. I agree that 20 is also not that mature age but still what pakhi does are not teenagers tantrums or she is not a rebellious teenager. She is just worthless useless character with no ambition in life. Her only ambition in life is live like rich persons, spend crores of rupees, have lot of servants around thats it.

And she is not just disrespectful towards anupama. She butchers anupama's character, do mud slinging, calls her names like "kalank". She is not a daughter, she is anupama's pichle janam ka paap.

I am sure no normal teenager, no matter how angry he/she is calls their mother such names or characterless or is ready at every slightest of trigger to blame her for everything.

And to answer your question regarding normal teenagers (me, now 30+, been there, done that), yes sometimes its frustrating when elders keep underestimating us, makes fun of us and belittle our work or wisdom. They do shout at us and sometimes even calls us names but at that same time we cant reply to them in their tone. Dude, they gave us birth, food, shelter, love, affection. They have their own problems to deal with and most of the times their problems are worse, more serious than ours. And more importantly, answer to one wrong cant be given by another wrong. If they shout on us and we equally shout back or insult them then it wont ever make things right. plus if we insult them then being elders, its atleast 5 times more insulting getting it from children because it comes with the feeling of being betrayed by your own for whom you have made innumerable sacrifices right from their birth to grow them up.

so yes teenage is frustrating and everyone is ready to give your free advice or thinks he is wiser than you but you have to maintain your calm. Never disrespect parents. If you are itching to shout back then do something good with your life, be a person they have to respect, make them chew their words, make them praise you by your good deeds.

I agree with others. No everyday teenager will stoop so low in degrading their own mom. Let alone a parent, such words shouldn’t be stated to any human being. Especially someone who is already in so much pain. One should know how to respectfully get their point across or to at least know when and where to stop. Doing character assassination of parent at every inconvenience is not the way to go. Instead Paakhi should stick to the issue at hand and be careful with the awful language she uses. Here I don’t have any sympathy with Paakhi because it is clearly shown that Paakhi actually has no interest in living with her mom, but rather the money. Even so, in my opinion she should learn to communicate in a dignified way, even if what she says is not always in agreement to elders. And true elders should also voice their disagreements in a dignified way. Both parties are accountable for their own behavior.

There is nothing wrong in keeping your POV or replying back but there is a way to do it. The way Pakhi behaves with her mom is not that way. For that matter, many of us have expressed our disagreement when Baa call names or insults others. Age does not give one license to bring others down.

To give my own example I was a silent kind of rebellious during my 16 to 19s. I never answered back but used to keep grudges whereas my brother is reverse of me. He used to give it back instantly and it does not matter who it is. My mom used to compare us to neighbor's kids/relative's kids. I used to get frustrated with that but chose to keep quiet as I always avoid confrontation as much as possible. But my brother one day said to our mom that how would she feel if we also compare her to our friend's mom. He was not mean and he did not say anything wrong, neither did he say it in a cheap way. From then on my mom stopped comparing us. Btw this happened when I was 18, like a decade back.

And please don't take reference of this show for real life.

Edit: I strongly believe I do not have to be the same as the other party to present my opinions. There should be a difference and then only you can have a case. If I behave exactly the same way then claim that I have a case here, it would be hypocrisy. How can I say that I am right when I do exactly the same what I am accusing them for?

What you said is correct. Teenagers have the mind and heart of their own. They deserve to be heard. They deserve the space to let their heart out.

I am 19 rn. Pakhi is around 20. We are almost at the same age. I am at the last stage of my teen years. Pakhi is just out of her teen years. We both are at vulnerable stage of our lives.

But, mind you, ( I can only speak for myself) I am not and nowhere as vile, as toxic, as misogynist as Pakhi is. She straight up spits venom out of her mouth. We both are GenZ. GenZs' are known for their liberal thoughts and political correctness ( I would refrain from generalising here). Being a youth, we are aware and sensible about lot of things than our boomers' counterparts when they were at our age.

Pakhi is an exception. The irony is Anupama is more liberal and a feminist (at lot of things and in her ideologies) as compared to Pakhi given the fact that Anupama belongs to a generation that considered women secondary to men. Pakhi and Toshu belongs to a generation that is vocal about equality. Yet these immature and unaware kids have been deeply sexist and misogynist to Anupama all this long. From shaming her on getting a divorce out of a abusive wedlock, to finding love in her 40's, to fostering a kid and priortising herself and not being a docile vulnerable woman, being a silent spectator and not raising a voice when their father cheated their mother, They reflected double standards and sexism all this long.

Anupama is a good parent. She is open minded and is there to listen to her kids, which is a dream for many indian teenagers.

Although Pakhi and Toshu does not owe Anupamaa and Vanraj anything because bringing them into the world was their choice and it was their duty to parent them without expecting anything from them.

On the same note, every good human being is entitled to respect if not love. Any sane person would not want to disrespect their mother the same way Toshu and Pakhi do.

If you want to be respected, learn to give respect.

I so wish karma hits back both Toshu and Pakhi real bad.

I want Kinjal to give her name to her child. Toshu is a useless brat who did not shy away and on a drop of hat called his own mother characterless and refused to parent the child even after deciding on planning a kid.

If Pakhi doesnt mend her ways, she is going to be that nosy and sexist uncle and aunty we never aspired to become. With that narrow mind, she is born in the wrong generation.

If we talk about teenage then teenage mein bache ko realise hots hai ki unhe bhi ghar ki thodi bahut respondblitu nibhani chahiye. Maine teenage dekhe hai aur woh sub ghar ki koi responsibility lete hai aur koi course join karte hai apart from study

Teenage aise nahi hote jo ghar ki koi responsibility na le bus sabse jhagda karna kar dein jaisi pakhi kar rahi

Teenage mein seekne ka junoon hota hai apna decision lensa ka junoon hota hai but ghar mein woh kisi ek kaam ki responsibility bhi lete hai

Aur pakhi kya responsibility nibha rahi hai

Anupama ki shaadi teenage mein hui thi aur anupama ne jitna teenage mein saha utna, pakhi ne khuch nahi saha

Haven't been watching the show so I don't really know the entire story, but not only pakhi but this show itself shouldn't be used for personal life references. This show is just toxic on entire different level and I learned it hard way that analyzing such characters won't take us anywhere but in circles.

Anyway, regarding your concern/ question- no longer a teenager but as other comment stated been there and done that

It is simply hard to explain because it is just complicated. For teens its complicated to understand why their parents are behaving certain way, why they won't just trust them.

and on other hand parents are having their own hard times because they too are confused how to handle a teenager. (Trust me that's very true). Most of parents aren't really trying to discard your ideas or opinions.

Can't speak for all but I truly think everyone of every age should always keep a open mind for possibilities. That goes parents as well and to Children too -that they still have lot to learn and experience. No one has really figured out the entire world.

Now that I have grown enough, I do look back a lot - not only back to my teens but college days as well. And I usually go woh man I was just being young and stupid.

Last but one more thing- parents aren't born parents. They are also learning on how to be a good parent as we grow. And you know while learning anything everyone makes mistakes - no body is really perfect they are just trying their level best.

In dkp shows , they have always maintained that elders can say anything, do anything , and children must listen to them and not talk back. However children lash out anytime and it's an opportunity to correct them .

It can't be compared to the real life infact they r promoting toxicity with these shows . Everyone deserves respect plus its no "ok" to lash out when angry or frustrated no matter what the situation is . This holds true for teenagers and their parents both....using abusive words , derogatory language is NOT ok..disrespecting parents , complete no , parents must also not disrespect their children no matter what their age is...... Kids learn from their parents only and no doubt pakhi is like this bec she has seen vanraj and ba humiliating anupama all through her life.

Having said that , mostly , 99.9% of the time , parents always mean well, they act in the best Interest of their children and if they have to hear "who are you to tell us what to do, it's our life blah blah blue blue " then yes ..they are parents , they have given them this life , and if they say something out of concern which at that time the child may not understand , its for their good. There r ways to come around and not lash out. At some point every parent has to cut the cord and let children take their decisions and face the consequences too..that's the only way they learn..but a parent can never stop caring for their child.