Hello Dear,
I am glad that u decided to share ur own pain to make us all realise here what actually it would feel for someone who has gone through that kind of trauma & yet has emerged stronger out of it & all i am going to say is more power to u girl & more power to every person out there who has seen a situation like that in their life and still have emerged stronger out of it.
Ok, i never wanted to reveal this but since i read ur post decided i should. How many of u while going through my posts or having an interaction with me could guess that I lost my father to covid last year. Ofcrs we all are just a display name to each other but let me tell u i m exactly like the way i have been in my interactions in real life.
All u could guess from my posts was she is maybe someone fun loving who has this funny bone in her, makes u laugh & it's kind of easy to have a convo with her. U would never see me bawling my eyes out thinking ye kya hogaya mere saath when he was very close to me & i was just 23. Don't be more surprised bcz my mother & father both had been fighting against covid a year ago together while my mother could emerge out, my father couldn't. So, i was this close to being an orphan with the responsibility of a younger brother of 18 yrs.
It has been a year now, my mother & brother end up in tears remembering him once in every week but my brain handled the same grief in a very different manner all together. As I said, i was closest to him in the family, for a person like that I should be crying almost daily missing him right? But no, 20 days past his death I got the offer for my 1st interview, cleared it, achieved the job, then became a complete workaholic, i took care of all responsibilities after his death, the results of my brother's 12th was announced & he was the school topper, we celebrated. Got my brother admitted in the top clg of the city here, my mother completely devoted herself to her music grp (she is M.A Music) & classes.
But I never ever sat down to cry for the biggest loss of my life. Once in a few months, the grief strikes me & it strikes me hard, i m just unable to stop my tears, it just keeps flowing, so i end up crying for hours & eventually falling asleep due to crying. But when I wakeup I feel light & completely at peace than it goes on just like before as if nothing happened. Just bcz my body's way of dealing with grief is different that does not mean I didn't love my father. For an outsider, i know it would put up an image that the girl was not close to her father like her other family members but my family knows what i lost. And for those outsiders i give a damn bcz they will never ever understand.
When people were saying Imlie has moved on, she never ever loved Aryan like the way he did i was laughing my heart here u know why? Bcz then what was the difference betwen those outsiders that judge me & the people that were questioning Imlie? Everyone is same. Just bcz my family & Aryan's way of dealing with grief is more expressive that does not mean mine & Imlie's way of dealing with the grief of her dead child & dead relationship is a facade, it's just that we are not expressive enough to show it to the world.
As i said once in a few months his loss hits me hard & it becomes difficult to control so i try avoiding any triggers that would push me into this realization of his loss, my family avoids talking abt him near me same goes for Imlie, it must be so hard for her that when it sinks in it becomes unbearable no wonder she is not seen having FBs of Aryan.
PS khabardar jo kisine mujhe bechari samjha toh, i am the same girl who wrote that khatarnak post in the morning, would literally put that person on gun point😤
Lots of hugs for powering through your loss and kudos for your strength babes 🤗
And regarding imlie. When Aryan coped through arvind death in same way we loved him, if i remember correctly 🤔
Toh ye partial behaviour kyu hai if imlie is coping in a similar manner this time around?
She actually became what he didn't want her to become (after adini 2nd wedding), she has also become Stone Singh Rathore now.
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