Anupamaa Live Update and Daily Discussion Thread 26 May 2022 - Page 12

Originally posted by: BaAZiGar0

thank you. 💕

i agree, to change habits that you’ve had for 30 years is not an easy task. i guess that’s why she goes back and forth and cannot let go of that house. it’s probably a really scary feeling. she trusts anuj but she can’t guarantee how things will end up. as bad as it was, at least she knew exactly how things were in the shah house. im curious to see what old habits anuj will try to break and how he is going to defend her from his toxic family. 🤢

Agreed to every word! She trusts Anuj with her life. Shah house has been her AADAT for 20 plus years! That conditioning needs reconditioning.. and i hope we get to see that on screen..

One thing i know is Anuj will always be at her side, unless the makers really butcher his character.. but then i know if they do.. GK will not stay in the show for sure..

Originally posted by: ayushijindal

No. My point is its about considering choices and wishes of both.. it should not be a routine coz at times it will become burden for one and graved and for other you make it a habit for your partner& if you are not available toh b trouble hota h. I mean do arrange stuffs in cupboards, make them tidy and organised. If he is not finding, make him inform but not a regular habit out affection also.. kabhi kabhi acha lagta that I will always agree..

Ps: Rani I am tagging you taaki tu mera take padh sake . Isse previous wala b

a routine doesnt have to be set in stone though. as much as you try, things will never be split down the middle 50/50 all of the time. there are times when you might have to extend yourself a little more in a relationship cuz that’s what couples do. but you do it out of love, care, respect and devotion knowing that if the tables are turned your spouse will extend themselves the same way. both people should have that care and concern for one another. anupamaa is in a dangerous place b/c i can see her telling anuj to leave everything and let her do it. if this becomes an everyday event, eventually he is going to tell himself not to bother. but one day when she wakes up after years of, let’s say cooking, every day and decides she doesn’t want to cook anymore, it might be a problem…i know that’s an extreme example, but sometimes it does happen where you have done something for years and cant stop now b/c it’s become your “job”, so i get what you are saying there ayu.

but again that depends on your partner and how much they change after marriage. ❤️

Maine to yeh bhi dekha jub bhi husband kisi office kaam se jaate हर तो wife ko kehte kul mein. Nikal raha hoon mera saman kapde pack kar dena. Wife ko order hota hai ki mera luggage pack kar dena. To yeh tai towel ko dekh kar shock nahi hona chahuye

India yeh sub common hai

Originally posted by: ektag06

totally agreeeddddd!!! it will take a lot of time for her to get out of a habit. something she has been doing for 27 years. but i'm glad actually very glad that they picked this up and yes, it was a very good social message.❤️

Tianaaaaa!!! Wish she was around and reading this ❤️❤️

oh I miss tiana..❤

Yes .. she will get out of it.. Anuj hain na .. but we and more importantly, the makers need to give them time..

Originally posted by: rupsii

Agreed to every word! She trusts Anuj with her life. Shah house has been her AADAT for 27 plus years! That conditioning needs reconditioning.. and i hope we get to see that on screen..

One thing i know is Anuj will always be at her side, imless the makers really butcher his character.. but then i know if they do.. GK will not stat in the show for sure..

I hope so too

On Anuj's character, the thing they have done with the butchering is - moved him from this suave/savage business tycoon to yes ma'am (like he agrees to her everything but doesn't put his point forward or doesn't talk about what he doesn't like or like etc) - but one thing has been constant always, he will always be with her regardless. and now she will too.

Like you too, I hope they show progress and how they grow as a couple who have their fair share of flaws

Originally posted by: BaAZiGar0

a routine doesnt have to be set in stone though. as much as you try, things will never be split down the middle 50/50 all of the time. there are times when you might have to extend yourself a little more in a relationship cuz that’s what couples do. but you do it out of love, care, respect and devotion knowing that if the tables are turned your spouse will extend themselves the same way. both people should have that care and concern for one another. anupamaa is in a dangerous place b/c i can see her telling anuj to leave everything and let her do it. if this becomes an everyday event, eventually he is going to tell himself not to bother. but one day when she wakes up after years of, let’s say cooking, every day and decides she doesn’t want to cook anymore, it might be a problem…i know that’s an extreme example, but sometimes it does happen where you have done something for years and cant stop now b/c it’s become your “job”, so i get what you are saying there ayu.

but again that depends on your partner and how much they change after marriage. ❤️

This is all I am also trying to say. 🤗

Its always a mutual consent and taking a step ahead I am not denying at all, here your partner need to consider and appreciate and reciprocate it in whatever manner he want. Relationships needs growth and most important nurturing and it should be considered always. I would say neither take it a advantage and nor be a slave. Be equals, accept and understand the way of affection of your partner, not make it a duty. Here Anupama clears it that she never stops caring, this is healthy. A relationship need investment and most important understanding your partner..

Even though problem of these kinds will come, then talk it out.❤️

Originally posted by: Kitty584

Loved this discussion today..

So I feel couples can have their routine.. and do stuff for each other but willingly!!!

And no it shouldn't just be the wife doing it..

Like.. on days when my mom has to leave early for work.. my dad gets out clothes from the cupboard and keep them ready for her..

If my dad has to leave early.. she gets his bag ready for him...

Even for household chores.. if one cooks, the other does the cleaning..

But my mom always feels guilty even when she's out at work and he's at home and does some chores which tire him out.. because she feels it's her duty and he has to duty because she doesn't..

And it's not like my family is conservative or my mom isn't educated..

But it's just the atmosphere around.. and the conditioning..

So for Anupama I'm sure it'll be 10x worse..

but could this not be seen as concern as well? she knows your dad is tired and out of love for him and not wanting to see him even more tired she fulfills her vows of a wife (with respect to promising to love and take care of one another). maybe im just a dreamer, but when you love someone you dont want to see them in any other way other than happy and healthy.

Originally posted by: surabhi01

Maine to yeh bhi dekha jub bhi husband kisi office kaam se jaate हर तो wife ko kehte kul mein. Nikal raha hoon mera saman kapde pack kar dena. Wife ko order hota hai ki mera luggage pack kar dena. To yeh tai towel ko dekh kar shock nahi hona chahuye

India yeh sub common hai

Agreed then when Husband Job se ghar aaye, unko paani dena (that is still fine) but unke shoes and socks jagah pe rakhna 😡. Again if they do it out of love and their own will that is different but I have seen people doing that because that is what is expected from them and they have been conditioned in that way "In in laws house whatever husband says it is patthar ki lakeer". People are changing but will take time.

For us, how these things seem ridiculous, in the same way for them it is common and a part of their habit.

Originally posted by: BaAZiGar0

a routine doesnt have to be set in stone though. as much as you try, things will never be split down the middle 50/50 all of the time. there are times when you might have to extend yourself a little more in a relationship cuz that’s what couples do. but you do it out of love, care, respect and devotion knowing that if the tables are turned your spouse will extend themselves the same way. both people should have that care and concern for one another. anupamaa is in a dangerous place b/c i can see her telling anuj to leave everything and let her do it. if this becomes an everyday event, eventually he is going to tell himself not to bother. but one day when she wakes up after years of, let’s say cooking, every day and decides she doesn’t want to cook anymore, it might be a problem…i know that’s an extreme example, but sometimes it does happen where you have done something for years and cant stop now b/c it’s become your “job”, so i get what you are saying there ayu.

but again that depends on your partner and how much they change after marriage. ❤️

U r so balanced sweet girl

Originally posted by: BaAZiGar0

but could this not be seen as concern as well? she knows your dad is tired and out of love for him and not wanting to see him even more tired she fulfills her vows of a wife (with respect to promising to love and take care of one another). maybe im just a dreamer, but when you love someone you dont want to see them in any other way other than happy and healthy.

I agree.. both of them do it out of love and concern for each other.. and I admire that

But.. what I don't like is her feeling guilty of not being able to fulfill her "duty"

Also there's thing I hated about myself too which I'm trying to change.. earlier.. whenever I don't find anything or the food isn't ready or whatever.. I always call mom.. I never call dad....

Have started changing that now.. but Ig it's just that we've been conditioned to believe that taking care of the house and kids is more of the mother's responsibility... though it doesn't fully exist.. it's changing.. but very slowly..

About social messages in the show.. I'm glad the way they casually showed Anupama and Anuj sitting together and eating.. it's a very small thing for us.. and normal in our homes.. but it could be a big thing for some other families.. and showing it so casually and as a contrast with the Shah family can actually be more effective than a speech.. also Anuj's speech might make the smallest difference in someone's mindset.. so I'm actually happy with the social messages the way they were shown today..

No huge bhaashans.. just implementation ..

Just like we were told animal stories with morals when we were kids?? This is the same.. entertainment with good messages..