My dear, I do have solid reasons for heartily disliking Abhimanyu, those which I listed above in my post.. If these seem illogical to you, I can't help that. They are valid points for me. I certainly do not just hate Abhimanyu because I have some hidden motive. His character that is portrayed as I see it makes me dislike that character. I don't dislike him because I want to whitewash supporting characters like Aarohi and Harsh..they are not my relatives. I can very clearly see Aarohi 's wrongs, and I don't support her in that. But it looks to me like you are bending over backwards to justify every crap that your "hero" does, giving what to me are illogical reasons. If it was so important for him that his mother attend his function, then, knowing how important it was for his mother that her husband should also be a part of the function, he should've been softer and more diplomatic with his father to make him attend.. As Harsh is seen talking to himself that if Abhi had asked me again I would've gone. But no, Abhi just gave his dad a take it or leave it option. And his mother was apologising because he blamed her for leaving him and siding with her husband.. He was angry with her which was why she apologised.. His actions made her do it because she is such a timid and docile kind of person.. He doesn't have to order her to apologise! Giving personal examples like Wouldn't you be hurt if your mother didn't attend some important function is not at all a good point. Because it depends on the situation.. If it was because I had done something to hurt her because of which she didn't want to attend then it would be me apologising to her and begging her to attend. And if she was not attending because I had been disrespectful to my father and so he wasn't attending, then I would beg my dad to attend and coax him and do whatever was needed to get them both to attend.. . Now I have a personal example for you: If your father did not want you to do something and you wanted to very much so going against his wishes you go ahead and do it.. How will you break the news to him? By wearing party clothes and blowing trumpets and going and flaunting it in his face and saying arrogantly that I have done this thing which you didn't want me to do, here have some sweet? Or would you go in meekly, find an appropriate time and try to make him understand in the politest way how important it is for you to do it so you hope he will understand?
We don't know what has been in the past between the Birlas, but one thing is set in stone: One does not humiliate one's parent like Abhimanyu does to Harsh.. This much atleast we can see that Harsh loves his son and wants him to love him too.. So whatever the reason for Abhimanyu's hatred of his dad, which his dad does not reciprocate, he MUST behave politely with him if he was a decent person. The fact that he doesn't shows that he is not.
My point in mentioning that incident with Neil was to show that Abhimanyu always thinks firstly of himself, not of others which is the definition of selfish. I mentioned it because it was fresh in my mind having seen it today.. But even from previous small scenes it is evident that even with Neil Abhimanyu can be selfish.. So what's the difference between him and Aarohi and Harsh who are selfish individuals?
Really, goodness and kindness should only be shown to those who deserve it? So who judges who deserves kindness and who doesn't? Good values that are taught to us from childhood is to be kind to everyone. And to behave with people as you would have them behave with you. Not to hurt and retaliate when someone hurts you. If these values seem impractical to you, then fine..that's your choice.
Oh, and also another thing that is taught us to be good citizens is not to take the law in one's own hands. So if some person is seen misbehaving with another it is not the best thing to do to descend to his level and start fighting on the road. We can report it to authorities.
Edited by austen-eliot - 2 years ago
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