This content was originally posted by: lakshHypocrisy at its best. Patriarchal mindset. Hesitation as it is looked at as a shameful topic to be discussed with son, due to opposite gender too. They are not people who would be even comfortable with sex education or who would be comfortable in imparting awareness in their kids like good touch or bad touch too.
This! This is so problematic. And still they talk about grand children, planning kids and all openly
She was worried that Sai might leave the house because ultimately she doesn't want their marriage to get broken, she wants them to live together forever.
Yes, but at what cost? She herself suffered a lot in that house. Yes, she supports Sai but still Sai is facing a lot there. How long can Virat support(talking about earlier days)? They've taken 'take it one day at a time' too seriously
Sai not returning to the house has many consequences
- people will start finding faults with Sai again, will question if she is even a suitable wife, will trouble Sai again
- she is worried that Virat shouldn't get upset or angry about it because that is what she has seen her husband doing, so she would be expecting that kind of an adverse reaction from Virat as well
Which means either she doesn't know her son or she didnt teach him that it is wrong.. and then expect him not to behave like Ninad?
- can create more rift or misunderstanding between Sai and Virat
- Sai and Virat will not get a chance to sort out their differences, so only if Sai returns is there even a chance for the two to solve their issues
- both or either of them can give up on their relationship after the latest issue.
Kind of agree with all the points. Its complicated. But my problem is, she always knew what sai feels about Virat and his friend. She also knows that Virat is falling in love with Sai. She knows that Sai doesnt want to come in between these two. Yet, she never addressed this. She didnt even hint to Virat about Sai's insecurities na?
Virat has inherited a lot of qualities from his mom, to ignore things and focus only on what is needed to do. All they want is to maintain relationship, do whatever is possible to sustain it, make compromises or let go of some things but ensure that at the end, everyone stay together even if you or your loved one is unhappy about a few things. So Virat wouldn't be even willing to bend in a few things that might result in conflicts between two family members. Ashwini knows it well and so wants Sai to try and understand Virat, so that it doesn't affect their relationship. Virat has a big family and not Sai, so Ashwini would want Sai to understand 😣.
This is completely opposite to the joint families I have seen. Even my mom's brothers stay together but all of them respect each other and their privacy. It's like, since I am adjusting, my wife, who is an extension of me should adjust with me kind of mentality.
Again, Sai isnt Ninad that she can say hanji hanji for everything. And this big family crap ah! Criminal family, I dont even want to talk about them!
But just to add in, does anyone, anyone of them ever tried to understand Virat, her own son? Why make her son and DIL scapegoats just to satisfy elders ego?
Unfortunately Ashwini is the one who makes all compromises in her marital relationship, so she will expect Sai to and also she knows that Virat himself will make some compromises on his own. Virat does exactly this, he makes compromises in the house like his mom and also expects Sai to too.
She should know that Sai-Virat are not like herself and Ninad. Cant she see what such compromises did to her marital relationship? So why expect the same from her children? If u ask me, as a mother, she shouldn't let Virat compromise too. Sai ka compromise toh dooor ki baat hai
Ashwini would have tried to talk to Sai, tried to give some confidence to Sai or make Sai understand how Virat loves her and has no feelings for Pakhi whenever she gets a chance to speak to Sai in private. Also, loha garam hai, she knows that it wouldn't help even if she tries to talk to Sai about her feelings now. It could look like her justifying her son and she wouldn't want Sai to misunderstand her. She would want to give her some space but at the same time want her to forgive Virat because that is the only way Sai would return to their house. Only if Sai returns to the house, can those two spend time together and sort out their issue.
Yes, now is not the right time. But she did let go of many right times.
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