This content was originally posted by-nethraa_99Beautiful analysis with lots of very valid and detailed analysis❤️.
//I am not sure how many Chavans are out there in real life, how many Paakhi's are there but if there are, people like only Sai can survive amidst them who has good values, principles. //
This is actually 100% true. I know we analyse how Sai could be a little less confrontational. While this may be useful in a normal or slightly crazy joint family, it is of no significance in a vile family like Chavans. Any diplomacy will only only be taken as a sign of weakness and an encouragement to control. Only other person who could have survived there was another Bhavani. So while all the analysis and advice on being less confrontational looks good on paper, truth is "laaton ke bhooth baaton se nahi maante".
@blue exactly
Some of the problems with Virat's response ...
When Sai was accused of driving Virat out of their bedroom, he didn't clarify.
When Ashwini asked him what the issue was, he could have lived that they had a fight but they sorted it. No matter it was his mother he was responding to, how could he say these personal things in front of the whole family?
Something even I failed to understand but I think it was more or like him expecting his mom to tell her to not be angry with him and not exactly discuss about the issue. Because when she actually asked him to let the family know why they fought the previous night, he wasn't comfortable. I think he expected his mom to tell Sai to listen to him or sit with him and sort the differences.
And then the comment about learning to live together without trying to understand what exactly happened. Was it that difficult to ask his mother? He knows how Pakhi always tries to instigate the family against Sai.
That is why I had concluded saying Virat actually doesn't pay much of an attention to how much all of these are affecting Sai. He was a little okay until she brought up the topic of their fight from the previous night.
The way I see it Virat has expectations from Sai since she is his wife. As I have said, he expects that Sai lets it go even if Pakhi does something. Also Sai asked her a question like "toh aap Virat sir par nazar rakthi hai". He knows Pakhi instigates Sai but I have always had a doubt if Virat is also being judgmental when it comes to Sai. Sometimes he tries to decipher it from Sai's expressions as what went wrong but when Sai retorts or give such strong comebacks, I guess he stops thinking who started it or who instigated. He only thinks that Sai would have lost her temper, Sai wouldn't have let it go, Sai would have fought with her.
This is exactly why I was very very upset with him during the skit episodes. Because I always had a doubt if Virat has such an opinion about Sai and if that is why he behaves in a certain way, it was proved that day. I really was very disappointed with him. He said that Sai doesn't like Pakhi. Some felt that they didn't find that statement wrong but I did because it is this thought that stops him from empathising with Sai like how one should. It is this thought because of which he actually doesnt take a strong stand for Sai against Pakhi.
He knows and acknowledged during the Mohit's lunch issue that Pakhi is the one who starts all the problems. She is the one who pokes Sai. He knew that she always taunts Sai and doesn't behave with Sai like how she behaves with the rest of the family. Shouldn't Virat think that it is because of Pakhi that Sai actually reacts that way. Sai wouldn't dislike Pakhi, I would even now say that Sai actually doesn't dislike Pakhi, she is upset with Pakhi, disturbed with her, affected by her because of Pakhi's behavior towards her. She only has issues with Pakhi's behavior and actions towards her. She has issues with Pakhi interfering in her life and also the personal life between her and her husband Virat. I think you might know that there can be people who can be disturbed by actions of someone, they need not be disliking them. Virat is thinking it from a wrong direction. Had he thought that a girl like Sai wouldn't dislike anyone as such, he will be able to look at things from Sai's position.
The minute he thinks that Sai dislikes Pakhi, he will be made to think that many of Sai's actions are not just are results of Pakhi poking her or instigating her, it is also because of Sai disliking Pakhi.
Hence, when she spoke to Pakhi, he wouldn't have thought if Pakhi did anything really bad for Sai to speak that way. He would think that Sai lost her cool and in her anger spoke that way to Pakhi crossing all her limits with Pakhi.
As I have said, speaking anything bitter to another family member will only worsen things and that is the mindset Virat has and that is why he felt that his Aai knocks some sense into Sai as not to speak that way.
1. He is judgmental
2. His mindset that for family's peace, Sai shouldn't get into any kind of arguments or fights and should ignore it
I am not sure if I made any sense above 🙈 or could communicate what I wanted to.
I believe that up till this point, Sai had no plans to reveal the vaada part. Her instinct might have been to question Pakhi left, right and centre. I feel it was Virat's public blaming of Sai that drove Sai to a "damn all" attitude.
//"Sabko lagta hai ki mein aapke saath galat kar rahi hoon. Lekin sabko asli kahaani nahi pata na, sabko batayiye ki yahaan kya hua tha. Aapka aur mera kal raath ko khagda kyun hua tha"
Virat didn't like Sai's questions, he doesn't approve of speaking those in the living room in front of everyone.//
But didn't he do the something similar a few moments back? Publicly blame Sai for their personal matter?
I have been calling him a hypocrite for sometime now. All I can see in Virat is double standards these days that too very often.
Also, that is why I said Raja Babu Avatar, he was acting like some child who was complaining about Sai to his mom without understanding the gravity of the situation.
Does he think of it as a public blame? This blame is okay for him but the revelation of the reason behind their fight is more personal.
That could mean a lot to him and he feels that it shouldn't be spoken in front of others. Unfortunately, he fails to understand that speaking "Maine bahut koshish ki yeh samajhne ke liye tayyar nahi. Pata nahi kya kya galat faimiyaan paalke rakha hai" is also like letting down Sai. To him, it looks so normal to talk that way, he clearly didn't think once that it could offend or upset Sai.
I have said again and again, he fails to understand Sai's hurt or pain and it is highly disappointing especially when he claims that he loves her.
Then for 5 minutes, the Chavans were insulting and accusing Sai, and he didn't in all this time, he did not try to diffuse the situation?
At that point in time, Sai had not revealed anything about Virakhi past. So his behaviour of staying mum in the face of Sai's humiliation cannot be attributed to being overwhelmed with his emotions.
No, not at all. The minute Sai told Omi, aap log mujhe jitni taane maarna hai maar lo, isse sacchai nahi badalti, he took offense. He got upset that she had misunderstood something and that is why was saying sacchai nahi badalti. Yes, she doesn't know the entire truth, she doesn't know what he spoke to Pakhi in his room after he returned from Gc or many other times too but does that mean that he should get drowned in his hurt that he will not speak anything against anyone? He does that.
And then, the icing on the cake. He chose to gauge Sai's feelings when Pakhi was humiliating Sai? Given his insecurities, and his tendency to be self-absorbed due to them, I would have even believed it if it happened during the early days of starting to expect something from his marriage. But now, after all that they have been through, the closeness they have developed? Who does that?
That's because Sai has been telling that she will leave the house. He knows how determined she is to leave the house after he gets alright. He himself was confused as why she was upset, what was it that she heard that she is upset and on top of it when Sonali Kaku asked Sai tum toh deal deal kehthi ho tumhe kyun farak padta hai, he also started to get curious. He also wanted answers for that. Both of them never realised the implications of them getting close to each other when one had not addressed the deal part and when the other kept telling that she will leave the house. As Sai said, she had forgotten the deal part after she returned to CN, she also kept telling she will leave the house more as a reminder to herself and I think it was also because she wasn't sure of their future. Sai was initially dependent on him, she had planned to move to hostel long back but he stooped her and at that time she let it go but after her ousting, she anyway had arranged a place for her to live, she started to live there, wasn't dependent on him, has no reasons to stay back even if her heart wants to. She hesitated to move in because of his family, because she probably lost trust on him when he had hurt her self respect. Also, when she freed him of her responsibility, what reasons does she have to stay back. Even if he wants her to, she knows that his family wouldn't be able to understand the need of it. It is mainly because his family doesn't accept her, that she was unsure of staying back.
But her changed feelings or should I say feelings that were buried within her for him surfaced after his gun shot and it is because of those emotions, she got hurt when she saw both of them at the pool. He was so absorbed in his thoughts, in his motive behind finding out some answers that he stood hearing what Pakhi was telling her.
For a minute it looked like him telling "see this is why you shouldnt have told anyone that you are here only to take care of me, you will be here only until I recover". It looked to me for a minute saying "you answer her". I felt very upset but I am not sure if that could be true. If that is true, then it is even more horrible. It is like he was thinking this way in addition to him trying to understand why she was affected so much.
Overall, his reactions during the whole confrontation was as disappointing as it was ridiculous.
It was.
Coming to the vaada....
Virat is very bad when it comes to straight talk. Putting aside contradicting events, Virat believes Sai cares a lot about him but neither does she have any feelings for him nor is she contemplating any relationship beyond the deal. So, the need to clear the vaada doesn't even arise in his mind. He is more worried that any galat famiyaan may close the possibility of anything more than a deal in case he decided to express a wish for a normal marriage. That is how he is wired. My question is if Sai had told him what she had heard, what would have been his response?
Exactly, Virat has never given it a thought that waada is what is stopping Sai. He used to think that she doesn't have feelings but he noticed some changes right before holi. And he had become a little more confident after she came to meet him at the hospital, after he saw her care and concern for him, after he felt that she felt possessive.
He would have tried to clear if she had misunderstood anything. I am not sure how clearly he would have spoken anything or how successful he would have been to clear the misunderstanding 🤣🤣.
Pakhi spoke a lot of things and he wants to know if Sai thought he has feelings for Pakhi or Sai thinks if he has cheated Pakhi like how Pakhi accused him. I was about to write one more post, will tag you in it when I write. What if Sai had heard Pakhi telling that he loves his wife. He also wants to know if that is pushing Sai away by any chance.
He was anyway planning to confess his feelings, I think he might have thought that him confessing his feelings will be enough for her to believe that Pakhi doesn't mean anything other than his brother's wife or a friend to him anymore. But looking at Sai's reaction, he is worried that it has got complicated.
A general question...
Virat expects Sai to ignore all the insults hurled at her just as his mother has been doing. I'm curious as to why SaiRat have never had a fight over it. I would have expected a wife to be livid with her husband for being quiet when she is being insulted. But Sai never fights with him over this? Is it because theirs is a deal marriage and she does not believe she has any right to question him on this as a wife. As a gaurdian, he is not really obliged to stand up for her, but as a wife, he will be expected to do so. For many people, and especially for Virat, there is no motivation to change the status quo unless the aggrieved party calls them out particularly, and demands justice. So far, Sai has been pretty tolerant of his double standards. When SaiRat become a normal couple, will Sai express her anger at his silence? And if she does, will he be forced to change?
@bold Yes. She didn't think that she can expect from him. She even said that "maine aapse aaj tak aisi koi umeed nahi rakhi jo ek pati se rakthe hain" or something of that sort. Actually I wouldn't say that she was tolerant of his double standards, that has also resulted in her getting hurt, her feeling insecured. She has not got that confidence from him.
Having said these I have two more theories
She knows him and the family he grew up in. She knows his mindset. She has heard bua telling kharbooja kharbooja ko dekhkar rang badalta hai. She knows his nature, knows that he wouldn't be able to speak against Kaku. She has been noticing it since her Grihapravesh that he is a very obedient Son, that he wouldn't speak against the elders of the family. She also knows his expectations from her. Sometimes she agrees and does it to not add problems to him and sometimes she will react, tell it straight on his face as what else can be expected from her. Also, Sai is not a person who would actually expect someone to support her or help her. Even if she expects that without her own knowledge like she did when Pakhi used the word Nurse, she will feel let down, hurt but not tell him.
One could be because she doesn't want to exercise her rights as a wife, how can she ask him why didn't he stand up for her and with what rights. Another because she wouldn't want to make herself look weak. She wouldn't want to show her vulnerable side to anyone. She fights on her own, might expect support sometimes and even if they dont don't will get affected, hurt but will try to swallow the pain rather than accepting or expressing her hurt. I think it is her survival method. I think it is to hide the fact that even she needed someone to stand up for her and she couldn't fight all alone. The minute she accepts defeat, people can attack her knowing that she can also get weak.
You know I was thinking of this when I watched the scene where Pakhi immediately seeked Virat's support saying his wife was insulting him and he wasn't asking her anything but standing quiet whereas Sai was humiliated, was being called a liar, accused of having cheap thoughts to have spoken the truth, was actually let down by her own husband but even then the girl never asked him any questions like how Pakhi did.
The accused was acting like a victim and the victim was standing so strong and walked out with her head held high.
I am not sure if Sai will ask him after they become a normal couple, she might express her disappointment, her hurt to him I guess. She will ask him how he could do that or might express it by bursting out after a few incidents I think.
Have tried to answer, not sure how much it has helped.
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