Would Virat apologise to Sai if he hadn’t learned the truth?

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Domestic violence

Would Virat have apologised to Sai or realise what he did was inhumane if he hadn't learned the truth or would he have moved on with his life brushing off Sai as just a bad dream (his dialogue)?

Apart from being very caring and tender towards Sai.. He also carries a male ego, which makes him want to see the alta on Sai's feet, even without knowing the reason of her not wearing it, because of his insecurities he would not like her to dance to someone else's tune and because of his ego he would like to portray to his family that he punished the wrong..however he does nothing to punish doer of a crime is a family member.. He would not have reflected on his mistakes, was busy confessing to himself that he will never forgive Sai till Aai came and made him see that he physically abused her during the hand hold scene as well. He did not see any logic in the proofs presented by Pulkit or the inputs given by Sai in the whole matter, because he was mad of insecurities , rejection and his ego.. So he would not have apologised..

Unlike many believe, Virat does not apologise . Virat has not apologised to Sai for everything he has done, he apologizes when his anger makes him do the unthinkable, and "there is no other way to make it right but apology". Virat does not apologise for his words or his meanness... Actually both Sai and Virat dont do that.. They have never never apologised for the hurtful words hurled each other.. Its just the inhuman actions that Virat has to apologise for ...makes him say sorry ..

Till a conjugal relationship, a real relationship of wife and husband is established.. they would not be able to trust each other..

PS: This is based on what I have seen of the two characters and has nothing to do with how they will turn out keeping in mind the regional versions...

I agree with many points that Asmi have said. He was made to realise by Ashwini even on the day Sai visited PD for lunch that what he did was wrong. He has not apologised for every mean words he has spoken. Sai also has not apologised to him for many things.

Yes, the inhuman actions make Virat apologise but he also did apologise when the ladakh trip got cancelled because he was the reason why Sai got humiliated. So, I think when he is not clouded by emotions like anger or hurt, he will realise his mistakes. The day, the ladakh trip got cancelled, he wasn't upset with Sai, so he could realise that his stupidity of hiding it from the family and Pakhi led to Sai getting humiliated.

So, when his emotions are under control, I think he will be able to look back at his actions.

Yes, he has ego and is egoistic but let me share my point of view. I see him more of a person who is very sensitive, very emotional. He is a guy who gets too attached and with Sai, as much as he is attached, his expectations are also high. His care, love, anger, jealousy, possessiveness, hatred, all will be at peak. It can be extreme many times.

His disappointment, hurt and insecurity plays a big role in how he reacts more than ego is what I feel. Ofcourse, none of these can justify his acts, but I feel that he needs to learn to control his emotions and that by itself will help.

This is just my understanding.

Coming to your question, a friend of mine had asked and the below was my reply to her, sharing it here now.

I think if he had not found any proofs om favour of Pulkit, he might have kept blaming Sai to have spoilt his sister's life for sometime. He might have seen Devi Tai missing Sai, but that also might not melt him much or make him realise his mistakes.

I think that would happen only when it starts to bother him, his act might haunt him after a few days may be, after he feels better that Devi Tai is back home safe. The thoughts might not allow him to sleep thinking what he had done after a few days.

Or may be when he comes across a domestic violence case but I think the above might have happened. His anger is the main problem, once Devi Tai returns home, he might have thought about what he had done to Sai.

As Asmi has said till the time a real relationship of wife and husband is established, they both will keep feeling insecured and that will result in a lot of issues between them.

I think once calmed down, he would have realized that no matter what Sai did, he was wrong to throw a woman out in the middle of the night. I would have preferred to see this than the truth coming out the next day. I wanted to see Virat feeling guilty for his behavior while being angry with her for ruining his sister's life.

I think virat does regret his actual actions and words too.

And Sai also regrets the hurtful words she has used with Virat.

Har cheez boli nahi jaa sakti, some stuff we just need to accept. We have got apology scenes of Virat and Sai. But more of Virat than Sai coz Sai is often the one being at the receiving end of being misunderstood or insulted.

But Sai has often shown her regret in monologues or by realization - when usha/ aai/mohit/devkit/shivani say something about everything virat does for her/shows that he cares for her, Sai recalls and agrees with them. And feels bad about her behavior/misjudgement.

With Virat we have got proper apology scenes but then his "actions" set it up. If in instances instead of flinging plate of food, hand holding, food denial and kicking out he had ONLY said the hurtful words then maybe we would not have got such elaborate apology scenes. The way the makers think and even a large part of the audience think is that its harder to watch someone lets say slap the other n not address it/apologize for it than to watch them just yell at them n not apologize. In reality, in both instances, an apology is needed. But somehow the magnitude of something physical seems more.

When we get angry at our friends/family we say hurtful things we do not mean at all. maybe we have had something flung at us- like a piece of paper, slammed the door , slapped/got slapped , refused to cook/eat, etc- ultimately when the tempers cool down we feel bad about EVERYTHING- both our words and our actions of both omission and commission.

So reading between the lines we know that Sairat both feel bad about their irrational/hurtful words AND actions and each of those instances of fights/nok jhok make them grow together as a couple.

As audience I'm not pleased that they showed virat- an ACP misbehave with Sai by holding her hand forcefully, denying food twice , kicking her out of the house.

But they did it for eyeballs, drama quotient and as blind copy paste from the original show that had these scenes. I think those show downs could have been equally impactful and melodramatic if they had written good dialogues and avoided anything "physical"

The way they have portrayed virat, he'd actually never behave like that with anyone. Especially with a woman.

So if we look at overall picture, we can see that Virat is deeply regretful for how he acted. And i guess the reason they show him overstep his usual boundaries with Sai and to some extent his aai is to establish that these 2 people are closest to him. We can only afford to take liberties with those that we are closest too..with others we are always more formal - whether that is expression of love or anger.

Tbh, personally I think, eventually after some days he would have reflected on his mistakes, and would have realized that he was wrong. Maybe he would have even reached out to Sai because of zimmedari.

But as to apologizing, I am not very sure, but I don't think he would have apologized because in his mind she had broken his trust and put Devi in danger. He would have realized that he shouldn't have thrown her out of the house at night without any support, but the anger would have overpowered the guilt enough to not let him apologize, but enough to let him realize that it was wrong.

Of course, if after some days he would have been driven to deduce that Sai was not wrong, then of course he would have apologized, like it happened in the show.

Don't know if that made any sense, but yeah that's what I feel.

Originally posted by: hedwig_potter

Tbh, personally I think, eventually after some days he would have reflected on his mistakes, and would have realized that he was wrong. Maybe he would have even reached out to Sai because of zimmedari.

But as to apologizing, I am not very sure, but I don't think he would have apologized because in his mind she had broken his trust and put Devi in danger. He would have realized that he shouldn't have thrown her out of the house at night without any support, but the anger would have overpowered the guilt enough to not let him apologize, but enough to let him realize that it was wrong.

Of course, if after some days he would have been driven to deduce that Sai was not wrong, then of course he would have apologized, like it happened in the show.

Don't know if that made any sense, but yeah that's what I feel.

That's exactly what I feel about him apologising. He would have realised that he shouldn't have done it but I am not sure if he would have apologised.

That's the reason I'm not able to warm up to virat completely. He went to investigate the next day in full josh without a care about sai. Where she got money to go back to kd etc.

Can you be so ruthless to someone you claim to love? Is his love so conditional, it's there only when she does good thing for his family?

Let alone love. Are you even a good human when you throw a young girl out in middle of the night without any care?

These are are things I try to forget when I watch epi these days. Let's see what makes sai stay back. Should be something virat does to make her regain the trust not just her feelings for him from her side.

I have one question though: is it not in the nature of a police officer; that too someone who is an IPS officer not just an inspector but an ACP to look for proof and ensure that his decisions are based on that.

I feel the love Virat has for Sai would have made him think about what he did and ask himself WHAT IF; WHAT IF she was right...and he would have investigated it.

am not defending what he did -- NOT AT ALL; BUT when he calmed down he would have thought about what he did

Originally posted by: Magnifique

That's the reason I'm not able to warm up to virat completely. He went to investigate the next day in full josh without a care about sai. Where she got money to go back to kd etc.

Can you be so ruthless to someone you claim to love? Is his love so conditional, it's there only when she does good thing for his family?

Let alone love. Are you even a good human when you throw a young girl out in middle of the night without any care?

These are are things I try to forget when I watch epi these days. Let's see what makes sai stay back. Should be something virat does to make her regain the trust not just her feelings for him from her side.

Me too. I try to completely leave that part out and pretend it didn’t happen lol otherwise I could never watch the show 😂