Sai -- who has always been shown as this impulsive girl with a sharp tongue and very often coming across as ill-mannered, has shown immense restraint during this whole slugfest between Virat and his mahaan Maratha khandaan.
Being called "nirlajj, besharam" at the doorstep of the house where she never wanted to come in the first place but swallowing the insults need so much courage. Her thoughts during the time, "Aaba, aap chahte they main apne pairon pe khadi hokar khoob naam aur izzat kamau aur yahan jiske jo mann me aa raha hai bole jaa rahe hain, wo bhi us galti ke liye jo main karna hi nahi chahti thi" -- it says a lot.
My heart went out to the girl, who has just lost her father, been literally displaced from her own house by so-called Kaka Kakis who did not want to take care of her and pushed on to a man she barely knows personally but trusts from her instinct and the fact that her Aaba has always held him in high regard -- a man, who has married her despite her request to not marry her but told her that he will never be her 'husband'.
Her silent swallowing of the insult that was meted out to her shows that she was expecting this, which is why she asked Virat during the parikrama ritual, how will he pacify his angry family that will ultimately vent out their anger towards him on her. To an extent, because she doesn't really feel an emotional connect with Virat yet and there is no "attachment or looking forward to life together" feeling here, she remained silent. I think in the entire drama that took place, she also felt as bad for Virat as for herself because she has seen that side of him where he can simply slap daylights out of someone uttering rubbish, but one cannot do that to family.
She spoke only for Usha Maushi and for the "fasaana" part because the thought directly meant an insult to her father's legacy of being upright and honest (And, the way Virat replied to that insult was assuring). She was polite but firm in her reminder to them that they cannot just speak whatever they feel about her family -- unlike the way we have seen her so far.
Sai does know now that she is up for a massive mental torture at the hands of many sadists but she will also find her solace in Ashwini --even Virat, you could see the weight falling off from his chest a bit when his mother touched his head after the drama saying, "Bohat sun liya Virat, ab apni Maa ki sun" Oh, I love Ashwini.
But it brings me to the question, which I would love to hear perspectives for -- Virat's conversation with Sai right after their marriage about "meri family ki taraf tumhari kuch zimmedariyan hongi" -- Is the zimmedari about keeping quiet and bearing everything like he possibly does on his own and sees his mother doing?
Asharp officer like Virat, who observes people and their conduct before deciding his next move, certainly cannot be in the dark about the family's real face. Does he expect an aspiring medical student to try to appease his rigid, orthodox, arrogant and uncouth family members while also studying to the point of testing her endurance to be a doctor?
In a set up like this, acceptance of daughters-in-law who have not been chosen by the egoistic matriarch or patriarch are never given that respect. In most cases like these, women live and find happiness in the love they receive from their husbands. In Virat and Sai's case, there is no 'husband' and no 'wife', so why should he force her to live in an environment that can be detrimental to her already volatile mental health? (Unless, Virat trusted his mother Ashwini to be there for Sai) It makes sense for Sai to do this only if it would have been a long term committment from a 'husband'.
WHY should Sai do this when she never asked Virat to take up her "zimmedari"? I felt it was a raw deal for Sai. Her father's pension and compensation for losing life on duty would take care of her expenses for most of her medical studies. She was not actually financially dependent on Virat so to say. He did not tell her about his family's weirdos before marrying her (along with his ummeed mat rakhna comment), especially knowing that she may not understand the dynamics of a joint family like his, having been raised to speak her mind openly. But it is her own understanding of the situation and also for Virat's dilemma that is bringing out her matured side already? But WHY should she be doing this at all?
I would like to see Ashwini encouraging her to go back to being her fiery self and i-take-no-sh*t attitude.
Do share thoughts -- the more the merrier!!
Have a lovely day!
PS: still have only 11 posts so will ration replies but I love to read all kinds of perspectives 🤗🤗
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