Originally posted by: davis56So I have been reading a lot about Mahabharat and lord Krishna's life since a few years and the one thing I have been seeing is the hate and disrespect that the women in his life get, especially his wife satyabhama. People label her as arrogant, egoistic etc and even accuse her of torturing her husband and her co-wives. Even the serials portray her as some kind of a vamp. So if she was a woman of such a horrible character then why would lord Krishna marry her and fulfill almost her every wish. Most of the disrespect comes because of the tulabharam incident and they are so many people who claim to know so much about this incident and some blogs twist the story according to their wish. So can at least one from this highly knowledgeable people come forward and give me the authentication of this incident and prove that this is not merely a folk tale made up by people. You can't cause this incident is nowhere mentioned in the texts like srimad bhagavadam, Harivamsa etc. And as if satyabhama wasn't enough people have even started disrespecting rukmini because of a certain serial going on and have this theory at play that lord Krishna only agreed to marry her because she threatened to kill herself. And the people who don't disrespect her, keep pitying her as if she was a weak woman who was not loved by her husband and tortured by her co- wife. Why would she,the patrani, the first queen, so loved by her husband and her co-wives start requiring your pity. The only reason the other wives don't get disrespect is because people forget about them. People have not even left subhadra and draupadi, they pit them against each other and disrespect the former to glorify the latter or vice versa. For your kind information these women were strong, great and wise, they stood by each other in difficult times and in no way require your sympathy, glorification or disrespect. We are not God so we do have favourites but that doesn't mean you disrespect the one who isn't your favourite. Almost all of these are even forms of goddesses whom you pray. So stop with the disrespect we live in the 21st century for god's sake. Learn to appreciate each and every woman and start respecting them .
I agree w/ your first point. Satyabhama definitely had something positive about her, or else, Krishna could have just asked Satyajit to give her in marriage to one of the suitors he had promised earlier - Akrura, Satadhandwa or Kritavarma. Instead, not only did Krishna marry her, but by some accounts, she seems to have been his favorite wife. Not sure whether this was before or after her discussions w/ Draupadi in the forest.
But the thing that I don't get is the tendency of current serial makers to bismirch other positive people in the story. In Krishna's case, it may be glorifying Rukmini alone, and making the other 7 look like vamps. In Ram Siya ka Luv Kush, they made vamps/villains out of Kush & Luv's cousins, even though they were brought up in Ayodhya w/ the same values that Rama and his brothers were brought up w/. In the ⭐️+ Mahabharat, they made it a point to make a vamp out of Madri for absolutely no reason. In Devo ka Dev Mahadev, they needlessly made Kartikeya a quasi-negative character wrt Ganesh. Every ancient family, according to them, have to fit their saas-bahu template.
In Krishna avatar, he made it a point to be available for every woman who wanted him - down to Narakasura's 16,100 captives. He could have been satisfied w/ Rukmini, but he accepted the hand of every woman who was offered to him, be it by her father (Jambavati, Satyabhama, Satya), herself (Bhadra, Mitravindya) or swayamvar contests (Lakshmanaa). Each of them had 10 sons, so even if Krishna was too busy, they had enough to have their hands full.
As for Rukmini, she did threaten to kill herself, not if Krishna didn't marry her, but rather, if she was forced to marry Sishupala. Rukmi wanted that alliance to win Jarasandha's favor, even though Bheeshmaka was opposed to it. In addition to Rukmini's wishes, there was also the fact that Vidharba, which was hitherto a vassal of Jarasandha, would be a pledged ally of Dwarka as a result of their princess being a Yadava kulvadhu. Not that it worked in the case of Avantika.
The one positive thing that I'd say about these depictions is that it emphasizes the importance of monogamous relationships, particularly holding up Rama-Sita as an example
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