Sorry to be blunt, this is my honest feeling about yesterday's episode👎🏼. I just watched it now, I didn't like any of it barring this:
1. Sona's peacock blue saree is 👍🏼
2. Sumit guy and his friendly ear to his co-star trying to make her see sense
3. Veena's breakdown, I liked👍🏼. She is confiding in her son as to where she stands. She simply doesn't know what to do, where everything is going wrong, can't make that useless husband guy listen to reason nor can she fault Sona for NO wrong doing. She is unfortunately being twisted by the husband guy and putting her in a fix. She wishes for things to settle down, that is it. Nothing wrong in her wish.
Only wrong thing in the situation is for Sona to hear it, as she often goes into an overdrive mode😲 and does the unthinkable. How many times do we say out loud what we wish for, not because we are looking for our loved ones to act on our behalf to fulfill our wishes, but just to sometimes to spell it out to somebody. For example, if I wake up grumpy in the morning and tell my husband, I hope my calendar is clear today or there are cancellations today, that doesn't mean I want my husband to call my secretary behind my back and ask her to clear my calendar🤔. That would be too stupid. Unfortunately, Sona decides to take the ultimate step by overreaching, as usual💔 I truly don't know what to do with her, rather if I had a person like that in my life, I would be very secretive, lest she doesn't go around my back and start rearranging my life😔 I don't know if I am being unfair.
I wanted to give Sona her due, honestly today. Because, most of us ( women/girls ) often face this dilemma in our lives at some point, whether to give up our career, work for the betterment of life, children, family, avoid annoyances etc.... I feel like I am very much tied to my profession, I find immense joy, satisfaction and honor in what I do, I feel my very best when I am contributing to the society, helping and being productive to people around me. But I faced this dilemma a few years ago, my husband, my chairperson and my colleagues looked out for me, refusing to let me go and made all kinds of accommodations. I just had to change my priorities a bit, smoothen out my expectations, bar had to be set a little low for myself and all things worked out and I could have it all now. Anyway, not to digress, because of my experience, I didn't want to write off Sona's dilemma as her Parvatipan. But, what irritated me is her " thandi dimag se socha, yeh faisla Sonakshi ka hai". She truly didn't think it through :
1. the reason she is giving this up : it is not for the betterment of anybody but to satisfy a stubborn, unreasonable FILs ego. What if he gets fixated on something else after this? Like for example, he hates her mother, will she give up on her just because he is insufferable, grumbles, acts as a grouch and a jerk?😡 What if for him to be happy, or for him to be normotensive, she needs to cut it off with her mother and family? Woh bhi manzoor hain kya? This guy for whatever reason is trying to suck up to his friend who insulted his son's wife, his daughter by law, WHILE let alone being cordial and respectable with his son's wife, he snubs her, he disrespects her thoroughly and is downright humiliating in his behavior towards her. Does she really need to bend over backwards for a person like him just to be in his good books? In my world, NO. He will find some other reason to snub her, detest her and complain about her. What is she going to do then?
When she knows what she is doing is " imaandari ka kaam" as she had been lecturing everybody, then, why would she give up anything? If there is a valid reason for his grief, then, maybe thinking ( only a thought ) about quitting a career is reasonable, but not in this situation, according to me.
2. The financial needs of Rastogis are tied to her earning ability. What alternative did she plan for them? It is not like she is highly skilled for her to get into any other vocation and start earning. She herself will be dependent on her husband, which even though not necessarily bad in principle, practically speaking, I WOULD THINK 1000 TIMES before making that decision. If nothing, girls, please take this away from this long write up of mine. We need to have our financial independence. As much as I want to say that our identity and confidence is not tied to our ability to support ourselves, practically speaking it does. 🤔So, please, please, before giving up a career for whatever the reason may be, think thoroughly. My chairperson did this with me and I am indebted to her to this day🤗. Especially if you have a very supportive husband we can totally be blind sided to this eventuality. Moving on......
3. Rohit is cooked if Sona gives up her work and sits home. My goodness, think about it, she will have all the time to meddle with everybody's business and sambhal degiIF I WERE ROHIT SIPPY, I WOULD PUT MY FOOT DOWN FOR A JOBLESS SONA. That is a very scary proposition
I guess now we have to see Raani's psychotic behavior. I am not amused. Sona once again meddles with Nishi and Rani's business. I know we are happy on the surface that Rani failed to get her dirty hands on jewelery, but what business really does Sona have in this? Nishi gives her something, who is Sona then, to say, she doesn't need to? That would now rile up psychotic Rani to act out😡🤢 and doesn't really do anything definitive to Nishi-Rani dynamic. Rani is hella irritating😡.
I am trusting the writer to see how he brings Sona out of this bakwas faisla. Who will make her see reason ?
That is it from me!
Happy 2020 all of you girls 😃
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