Generation gap - who is right children's or parents

How generation gap plays a role in decision making in a family?

Parents always expect good for their kids, they think kids should have. Good education and a career and they try to guide with what ever experience and knowledge they have. If a parent is highly qualified they think almost similar to the new generation kids.

We see the difference how taiji, Tauji and rakesh perception of children and what chacha and chachi jji's percenption towards children.

What kind of experience did you guys have and felt that it's because of generation gap.

The generation gap is a two way traffic and affects both the parties - elders in the family as well as the younger generation. In the 70s & 80s, the youths listened to the parents more that the kids of the 90s, for example lots of people used to break up with romantic partners after meeting with opposition of parents and family. Listening to parents without questioning was upheld and appreciated.

However, in the 90s, kids who often had different approach to life, dared to challenge their parents. If the kids challenge the elder, elders sometimes start feeling disrespected & neglected for which they often reacted by becoming stricter and more adamant in their dealing. The elders who have more experience with life want their younger generation to abide by their rules. The youngster on the other hand start feeling frustrated and become rebellious.

Having said that it is true that Taiji/Tauji and even Rakesh are seemingly more orthodox than their younger brother. But keep in mind even Chachaji didn't go against his elders. However, Naina'a running away indirectly served as a catalyst for inter-family dialogues. Before Bela Chachi, Preeti or even Chachaji would have never spoken up but but after the incident, they mustered up courage to express themselves. Taiji/Tauji and Rakesh probably felt humiliated by their expression but how long can you stop the winds of changes? Sometime it take one family member to go against the grains to change the entire dynamics of the family.

For me, I when I decided to come to the US for my college in the 90s, I met a lot of resistance. I had brothers who studied in the US but the rules were different for me because none of the female family member had moved so far away for higher studies. I was told that the only way I could go to the US to study was if I married someone who lived in the US. I fought very hard and I prevailed. However, when my female cousins wanted to follow my footsteps few years later, my family was very supportive of their choice.

Lastly we all know social & behavioral changes don't happen overnight. It takes lot of pushes and pulls, tug of and lot of retaliatory actions to become willing to accept new outlook to life. I compliment all elders who are willingly to change themselves with time and I also compliment all youths who dare to be different.

Originally posted by: rituriyaakhil

The generation gap is a two way traffic and affects both the parties - elders in the family as well as the younger generation.In the 70s & 80s, the youths listened to the parents more that the kids of the 90s, for example lots of people used to break up with romantic partners after meeting with opposition of parents and family.Listening to parents without questioning was upheld and appreciated.

However, in the 90s, kids who often had different approach to life, dared to challenge their parents.If the kids challenge the elder, elders sometimes start feeling disrespected & neglected for which they often reacted by becoming stricter and more adamant in their dealing.The elders who have more experience with life want their younger generation to abide by their rules. The youngster on the other hand start feeling frustrated and become rebellious.

Having said that it is true that Taiji/Tauji and even Rakesh are seemingly more orthodox than their younger brother.But keep in mind even Chachaji didn't go against his elders. However, Naina'a running away indirectly served as a catalyst for inter-family dialogues.Before Bela Chachi, Preeti or even Chachaji would have never spoken up but but after the incident, they mustered up courage to express themselves.Taiji/Tauji and Rakesh probably felt humiliated by their expression but how long can you stop the winds of changes? Sometime it take one family member to go against the grains to change the entire dynamics of the family.

For me, I when I decided to come to the US for my college in the 90s, I met a lot of resistance. I had brothers who studied in the US but the rules were different for me because none of the female family member had moved so far away for higher studies.I was told that the only way I could go to the US to study was if I married someone who lived in the US. I fought very hard and I prevailed. However, when my female cousins wanted to follow my footsteps few years later, my family was very supportive of their choice.

Lastly we all know social & behavioral changes don't happen overnight.It takes lot of pushes and pulls, tug of and lot of retaliatory actions to become willing to accept new outlook to life. I compliment all elders who are willingly to change themselves with time and I also compliment all youths who dare to be different.

Hey you have put it wonderfully in words and experience. Good to know you were able to achieve your goal to study in USA and I would say they are very proud of you now and also encourage all girls.