Originally posted by Anee2
Since many people have said that these kinds of situations happen in real life, it poses a genuine question about human nature: Is lust/love is unconquerable? That not just teenagers but even the most sane, mature 'righteous' people, when faced with such feelings, may not control themselves and eventually succumb?
sorry for cutting your post short but just wanted to respond to your question -- is love/lust unconquerable?
to answer, first we have to define what love is. think that itself is very confusing for many. for example, people often say "we love each other" but what they actually mean is that they are dating each other. we don't distinguish between dating and being in love. the reason I point this out is many dating relationships casually break up or with drama but often, there is a response that they were never in love. so the words and language we use is confusing.
here's my earlier post on that theme: https://www.india-forums.com/forum_posts.asp?TID=5022574
to look at it from another angle, our society itself is changing. there was a plywood ad that commented that marriage vows these days may or may not be permanent/reliable but our plywood lasts for generations. sounds cynical? but given divorce rates, one could argue that the ad has a point. our commitments whether it is family or romantic these days do have limits. so much so that people are encouraged to be financially independent because one never knows what will happen in life.
so back to your question, why can't people control their feelings? rather than control for some, think it is about how one defines personal happiness and what one needs. these days, lots of people are highly unhappy but are not willing to accept less. before, the mindset was that everyone will be unhappy at some point and we don't get everything we want in life. now, everyone wants the latest phone, the latest upgrade. why? "you deserve more" is the attitude.
so if we look at it that way, kunal and nandini had a choice -- either they remain unhappy or they make mouli unhappy. to put it another way, they prioritized themselves first.
so here's a question -- if he had cleanly gotten a divorce or told mouli his unhappiness and then went after nandini, would it be any different? isn't it still an affair in some ways because he is still leaving mouli for another woman he fell in love with during his marriage?