During my college, I saw enormous cases of cheating, they weren't EMAs but I think that the effect is same as there is cheating underlying in both.
1. Case 1- My Best friend's brother- He loved this girl enormously, for him she was the princess, paid her bills, came to her rescue every time she would be in problem, even took her to home to introduce to her parents & declared that he would marry her (For any guy, it's a huge thing). Things were all good, until that girl found someone else & dumped him & said some terrible things to him. The other guy was none other than another guy from his class. This one thing changes his life upside down. He failed his exams, slipped into depression, resorted to alcohol most often. His parents, siblings, friends & everyone who truly cared about him had a really hard time in bringing him on track. 2 years later, she came apologizing to him, expecting him to take her back & he was just indifferent to her. She was cheated too after few years. (The other guy impregnated her & when she told him about this he simply said how should he believe that it was his, some further complications took a literal toll on her health). It was only later everyone came to know about her habit of multiple timing with many guys that led to out dept. failing her in the final engg. exams. She was collectively boycotted. She never used to come to college on account of being ill & dept. was very easy on her as they understood.
The victim aka the guy is fine now but not really the same person. he has issues trusting people. He tried to enter into another relationship & even there he faced the same thing & now, he finds it difficult to enter relationships anymore.
2. Case 2- A friend from another dept- She was with a guy from her batch in the same branch. They were this perfect couple, always cuddling, holding hands, protective of each other, always together. One look into them & everyone could tell they were really into each other. There relationship went onto 3 years until before final year vacations, the guy got married to someone else & the girl came to know about all this on his day of marriage.
It took her a lot of time to recover from it. It was all the more difficult as they both were in the same class for another year.
3. Case 3- Another guy in college in my batch- He as in love with his batchmate & they were together for 3 years. He showered her with gifts, was so caring & all. Until final year, the girl dumped him to go to another guy from the junior batch who was more rich. The guy went into depression over this, only to be recovered later. For a year, she tortured him. He would ask her for his gifts as he had gifted her some precious things of gold & other & she would always insult him terribly.
4. Case 4- A girl from my class- She was very intelligent, in relationship with a guy from my own class. They loved each other, cared for each other. And at the end of 3rd years, the guy began to mentally abuse her & began to spend more time with other girls. She was broken beyond repair. She failed the exams, went into acute depression that drove her to suicide as the guy & his new girls didn't stop harassing her. She always used to cry & it took many people to counsel her on how to lead her life further. Imagine a topper of class, failing her exams & facing the scornful faces of teachers & her family.
But she recovered, bounced back again with much more rigour. She is doing great but she isn't the same person anymore. A part of her died with that relationship.
5. Case 5- A guy friend from my class- Very intelligent, mature but played by a friend of mine who used him to clean her mess. The day he realized the truth, it literally broke him. Took a year to recover from depression & but became very scornful of certain people.
Now, at a better place, only thing difficult for him is to trust someone. He now is in a relationship & very happy with a new woman in his life.
6. A distant relative in the family- The married woman with 2 young children eloped with another guy & got married to him. She never turned back. They husband & children left behind to deal with the betrayal. The other guy too was a distant relative of husband's parent's family.
And there are a lot of other cases. In overall, these guys/girls went to depression for a year or so, went from top to absolute rock bottom but eventually with support of people around them, bounced back again.
But they are wary of trusting people again, of getting in to relationships again. Guys could move on relatively easily but girls just stopped getting into relationships anymore. They became a little bitter towards love & relationships.
And this is when none of them except the last one were in a married relationship (GF-BF relationships are little easy to break & relatively less strong). Imagine the pain when this is done to a person in marriage. Pain & suffering is unimaginable. But I hope people find it in their life to bounce back for the sake of those who care about them.
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