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Posted: 4 years ago
Hey Nisha!
You do spin a wonderful story.
.. I think there are people who are self obsessed -a Mom like mandira who worries so much about her Son given his past is still a lot better than a Mom that's prescriptive I would think. A person Who wants and pushes till he / she gets what they want does way more damage than an uncaring Mom of an adult. Like Leela and Ashwin are lost souls but still bizarrely secure because they have a loved one to rebel against Mandira for Leela and Dadu for Ashwin.
Rejection causes heartbreak but as it is for Ashwin and Trisha picking up the pieces are even more difficult than the mishap. Wonder how dadu helped Ashwin through his drugs and drinks cycle? Or what really took him into that and later out of it..
these 2 suck you into their world so easily and...
And waiting for more Embarrassed
Posted: 4 years ago

Sometimes I feel was the parenting world a better place where people just procreated 10 to 14 kids where the full fruit bearing cycle of womanhood was put to maximum fruition ? In that world and those times.. the nesting/ care / parenting was just not left to parents but more siblings and extended relatives. That had its positive in a way because parents that generation were then mostly not helicopter parents as most of us are now.

Parenting is always an explosive material that one could write realms on. The fad is slotting most of us as helicopter parents. Hovering over and swooping down to pick your kid up at the first hints of trouble. Are we guilty of doing that. Of course we are .

To be fair...Smoking, alchohol, drugs then and today's contribution is internet, sexting, easy access to inappropriate content ... it's a even more daily hard grind now that it was earlier but then the same social media in today's times gives access for the parents to hover over their children , Skype, messenger , face time where the kid after having left home at 18 is still able to reach you in seconds saying he or she wants you to bail out of the situation he or she has gotten into be it in college, be it at work or be it a pub party.

Then one day the parent not ready to let go is hit with a realization that your daily parenting is not needed any more and that harsh reality comes as a slap from no one but the kid that you kept swooping up.

Mandira is in that state of parenting where there is a huge gap between the fear of unknown and reality. She is going to have to get her head around to learn not to miss the daily grind of parenting.

I have read that raising kids could be the best thing you ever do and one need not be necessarily the best at doing that . Learning never stops.
Posted: 4 years ago
In context I have something to share. My daughter texts me middle of work yday " ma do you have my photo standing under the street board bearing my French name that we took while holidaying" ( in her French class each kid is assigned and called by their French names that's a match with their real names as they sound in English). I replied, I'll check but why?
She goes, "oh the class quiz sucked". I need that for a cultural event pass that will bring my quiz grade up.

It was a very hard quiz and her French teacher said guys I know this is real hard one but this is how this is AP year and this is how it's going to be. Suck it up. But if you can show me something that you attempted relating to learning the culture or language I am allowed to give you a cultural event pass that will allow you to knock off your lowest grade from your PR so far.

So my daughter said to the teacher "well, I unfortunately had to attempt speaking French in a place we were vacationing in the summer and I even have a pic of me standing under the street that bears my French name.
The teacher goes ... that's interesting show me the pic then. But that pic of her was taken from my husband's phone. She said I don't have it right now to which the teacher replies have your mom text it to you then.

So what do I do ? I text my husband who is traveling out of country ... hey do you hv that pic. She needs it. He sends the pic in the next 1 hr and I send it bk to her ... all done in an hour. That's the access social media app gives amidst its perils. We fear it, we bash it and we still use it at every given opportunity.

It's a mad percentage struggle for GPA where success or failure comes with a definite prescription in mere decimals. If decimals ever mattered then it's now though in larger scheme of things in life may be next year ...even she is not going to be bothered about what did she score in what quiz last yr? My daughter was given a window where she could not let her grade drop ...she used it to her advantage and she knew we are there hovering over her. Now does this make me a helicopter parent. May be it does but if somebody just wants to slot me as that... it's a free world and frankly I don't give a rip.

Phew that was a long post but I had to let it out.Edited by Errantnomad - 4 years ago
Posted: 4 years ago
I do hope Mom-Daughter duos like yours stay strong and blessed. And don't worry about who slots you where.. having a Mom to count on is a blessing Heart

Originally posted by Errantnomad


In context I have something to share. My daughter texts me middle of work yday " ma do you have my photo standing under the street board bearing my French name that we took while holidaying" ( in her French class each kid is assigned and called by their French names that's a match with their real names as they sound in English). I replied, I'll check but why?
She goes, "oh the class quiz sucked". I need that for a cultural event pass that will bring my quiz grade up.

It was a very hard quiz and her French teacher said guys I know this is real hard one but this is how this is AP year and this is how it's going to be. Suck it up. But if you can show me something that you attempted relating to learning the culture or language I am allowed to give you a cultural event pass that will allow you to knock off your lowest grade from your PR so far.

So my daughter said to the teacher "well, I unfortunately had to attempt speaking French in a place we were vacationing in the summer and I even have a pic of me standing under the street that bears my French name.
The teacher goes ... that's interesting show me the pic then. But that pic of her was taken from my husband's phone. She said I don't have it right now to which the teacher replies have your mom text it to you then.

So what do I do ? I text my husband who is traveling out of country ... hey do you hv that pic. She needs it. He sends the pic in the next 1 hr and I send it bk to her ... all done in an hour. That's the access social media app gives amidst its perils. We fear it, we bash it and we still use it at every given opportunity.

It's a mad percentage struggle for GPA where success or failure comes with a definite prescription in mere decimals. If decimals ever mattered then it's now though in larger scheme of things in life may be next year ...even she is not going to be bothered about what did she score in what quiz last yr? My daughter was given a window where she could not let her grade drop ...she used it to her advantage and she knew we are there hovering over her. Now does this make me a helicopter parent. May be it does but if somebody just wants to slot me as that... it's a free world and frankly I don't give a rip.

Phew that was a long post but I had to let it out.
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Posted: 4 years ago
Originally posted by SWAN123


I do hope Mom-Daughter duos like yours stay strong and blessed. And don't worry about who slots you where.. having a Mom to count on is a blessing Heart

Originally posted by Errantnomad


In context I have something to share. My daughter texts me middle of work yday " ma do you have my photo standing under the street board bearing my French name that we took while holidaying" ( in her French class each kid is assigned and called by their French names that's a match with their real names as they sound in English). I replied, I'll check but why?
She goes, "oh the class quiz sucked". I need that for a cultural event pass that will bring my quiz grade up.

It was a very hard quiz and her French teacher said guys I know this is real hard one but this is how this is AP year and this is how it's going to be. Suck it up. But if you can show me something that you attempted relating to learning the culture or language I am allowed to give you a cultural event pass that will allow you to knock off your lowest grade from your PR so far.

So my daughter said to the teacher "well, I unfortunately had to attempt speaking French in a place we were vacationing in the summer and I even have a pic of me standing under the street that bears my French name.
The teacher goes ... that's interesting show me the pic then. But that pic of her was taken from my husband's phone. She said I don't have it right now to which the teacher replies have your mom text it to you then.

So what do I do ? I text my husband who is traveling out of country ... hey do you hv that pic. She needs it. He sends the pic in the next 1 hr and I send it bk to her ... all done in an hour. That's the access social media app gives amidst its perils. We fear it, we bash it and we still use it at every given opportunity.

It's a mad percentage struggle for GPA where success or failure comes with a definite prescription in mere decimals. If decimals ever mattered then it's now though in larger scheme of things in life may be next year ...even she is not going to be bothered about what did she score in what quiz last yr? My daughter was given a window where she could not let her grade drop ...she used it to her advantage and she knew we are there hovering over her. Now does this make me a helicopter parent. May be it does but if somebody just wants to slot me as that... it's a free world and frankly I don't give a rip.

Phew that was a long post but I had to let it out.
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Hey. Thank you. Got to count our blessings Smile
Posted: 4 years ago
Oh forgot to mention this kid Leela in this story comes with no strappings of having to be politically correct. That's a great freedom that she gets to exercise at her parental home. She just said it on face to her mom that Trisha a slotted outsider in her mom's book is watching her cry cribbing to her son in front of her DIL. Who would hv expected this kiddo to make such a stmt and show the mirror to her mom.To talk with sweet abandon and get way is not everyone's thing.Edited by Errantnomad - 4 years ago
Posted: 4 years ago
Good morning everyone!
Going for the Dussehra and dandia function at arishka's school
Will sure get connect when and if possible
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Posted: 4 years ago
Love arguments

"You dont think he is serious?" Sharanbir looked at Mandira piercingly

He sat nursing a drink in the giant living room balcony looking out at the thinning traffic
Bangalore evenings were everything natives described

"Umm pata nahi... I hope not" Mandira mumbled

"U think there is no attraction?" he asked

"She shrugged carelessly as if the existence of such a thing was ridiculous

"I mean think about it Papaji"


"U think he went through the trouble of patching up with her and bringing her back all to spite me?"


Mandira looked a lil flustered

"Umm.. I mean... he hardly knows her, she is a student, a simple girl, has family financial issues"


"Vishwas knew less about you when u married him

Mandira's eyes took on a sad expression, she nodded tearing up

"U loved him and he loved you"


"LOVE" she corrected him through raspy voice

Sharanbir swallowed trying hard to speak


"Aaj kal kahan Papaji"


"Uh... hmmm.. u think youngsters are not capable of love?"


"They might be but, it doesnt look old fashioned or straight forward" she lamented the loss of simpler days

"So its not love?" he asked thoughtfully


"I hope he is happy or will be" she insisted

"Kinne din tussi... how much longer do u plan to arrange his life?" he asked

She lowered her gaze

For as long as I live she thought


"Aapke wajah se woh yoon hai, ya aap uske wajah se yoon ho?" he asked

"Its like he ran into traffic ten years ago while I was watching and barely made it alive, so everytime he opens the front door I cannot help but watch" she said sadly

"Dilli rehkar kiwen hoyega yeh kaam?" he asked reasonably


She shook her head

"There must be something between the two" he said with faraway gaze

"she is attractive... she is simple... she has a unique fashion sense, she is very strong" Mandira listed as if she had it all memorized

"Huh" Sharanbir let his gaze rove her face

"Leela is younger... but have you noticed the innocence in Trisha's face?" 

Sharanbir nodded confidently

"She looks very pristine... like she just walked out of the ocean"

"Small town puttar... simple life u know"

"Aap Rachit ke liye usko soch rahe hain?" Mandira felt a dash of envy

Though she didnt like the girl as a DIL, she didnt want her son's "thing" to be snatched

"Mere kayi soch haingey ne puttar" he said cryptically not revealing anything

"rachit and Ashvin are friends... he is not going to like it"

"Onaan di marji poochhan main?" he asked mocking if he shud beg Ashvin for permission before taking Trisha away

Mandira bristled

"she is with him today na"

"Woh gal sahi haigi" Sharanbir gulped down his drink

"How is her father?"

"I dont know pappaji... Ashvin naal gall karo tussi" she said hoping he wud talk to her son

"Its her father I will ask Ms Shanbag" he grinned

"u like saying her last name?" she smiled nervously

"she emailed me... emails me with that name only" he laughed out loud

"Since ur car is gone tomorrow, u can have mine" Ashvin peeked and offered his car to his grandpa

"Ms Shanbag suggested?" he poked his grandson mischievously

He relaxed now... letting go of the serious expression from a minute ago

"i will laugh, if thats what u expected" Ashvin shrugged carelessly

"where is ms shanbag?" he asked

"She is on the phone, talking to friends" he said firmly

"she does not want to talk with u?"

"Another joke? U expect me to smile?"

"Oh no... no.. I am asking a serious question puttar" he said

"If I say yes she hates talking to me, I will give u what u are looking for, not sure why you constantly need reinforcement that you are superior, 
if I say no she does love talking to me, your task of disentangling her from here and handing her over to Rachit will get harder"


Sharanbir looked at him coolly crossing his arms over his head on the lounge chair

"I am going to go to bed" he told his Mom bending down and kissing her cheek

"In your own room?" he poked

"Umm.. yes... if u dont mind... and no I dont need any advice on exercising my conjugal rights" he nodded

"He can argue!!" Sharanbir said admiringly, his eyes sparkling with love

"Beta kinka hai" Mandira said nodding with pride






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