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Ashish - you need to set emotional boundaries with your mother
Ashish the way you treat yourself lets your mother walk all over you. Why do you make your mother's happiness or unhappiness - your happiness or unhappiness? Why do you feel this intense sense of responsibility when you are around her? Why are you overwhelmed with the urge to be the perfect son, her Shravan?
It was obvious to Neela and us viewers that you were taken aback at the thought of having to marry Neela. There was the need to be honest with and walk out of the marriage alliance. But the thought of being exposed to your mother - or having to confess to your mother and fall from the pedestal scared you into agreeing to marry Neela. Now, think about it calmly, does the real you --- the inner you want this marriage with Neela? You were going to talk about Ashudi, Avni and your expectant child to your mom, nah? Then why did you falter?
I understand your mom has sacrificed a lot for you - that is at the core of being a mom. I understand you cherish those moments when you and your mom laughed together in a carefree manner. or when she hugged you and proudly called you her 'beta', and how on the days she is sick you nursed her and willed her to come out of it.
Ashish, I understand that as a child you had to temper your behavior and emotions so as not to instigate your mother or make her sad. Doing this enables us as children to learn to do what is right and good. But now you are an adult - you cannot make yourself responsible for her - she has to be emotionally mature and accept the fact that you have fallen in love with a woman of another faith and that you have a child and that another is on its way. Your mother has to know that she has an adorable grand daughter and vice versa
I know Ashish that you want your mother to be happy - and that some where in your mind you think - that by hiding the truth from your mother, you are making her happy. You think, by making her feel that you are a "good bachelor boy", you are making her happy. You are overwhelmed with the pressure of living up to your mother's expectations. And in order to uphold the image of "ideal son" that she has created - you are suppressing your emotions - your love and life with Asha and Avni.
Think about it - how are you going to handle Neela and her dad - along with Asha, Avni and your soon to be born kid?
Seriously, you are in urgent need of counselling. I know you think you cannot share the difficulties and challenges in your life because they contradict who you are to your mom. But you can talk to a therapist - explain your dual life and the dilemma you are in. Please - wake up, go seek help!!
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