Originally posted by Errantnomad
Vandita Balachandran is conspicuously absent when she is supposed to and expected to be there for II and her absence ironically is a painful presence.
Interesting shades of human behaviour we possess .
When the withdrawal of affection and sharing is sudden, it becomes harder to deny that something is amiss. A growing gap and the withdrawal is the result of a gradual process and perhaps we are only beginning to see what is taking place here.
Her conflict is so raw and recent and Given that she couldn't hold baldie's ceremony in a manner she wanted to. Inspite of every push she did through her sister or her parents she did not get what she wanted.
She is trying to create an emotional distance between her , her sister and Her parents .She feels wronged by her parents and her strife is a direct message of conflict towards her parents saying " you too are siding towards more greener pastures". Mrs. Iyer for all the astute woman she is, she did slip while conveying the seemandham info to her first daughter. ]
II's marraige in to a family that was emotionally distant under certain circumstances has now bridged the gap and is reconnecting and ironically her same marriage to a wealthy family is the very same reason for creating certain circumstances and conflicts arising amongst her own family she was born into creating an emotional distance amongst siblings and parents.
Only one thing is certain, every relationship is always work in progress till you live
Awesome Kalpana very well said