SW Symphony 62 -- Faith & Faux Fur - Page 150

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Posted: 6 years ago
Originally posted by PriteeMisra


Welcome Mira.
Ashu, where are you ?
Putti, Noufi, dristi ?
Kajal.
Kahan ho bhai.
Welcome Mira.
thanks for the welcome
Posted: 6 years ago
There was a lot about paati and the dismissive tones that shravu, vandu and Bala use with her . We take people's omnipresence /longevity for granted and show our frustrations on them.
There was so much familiarity with the way paati speaks endearingly to II or
Trying to pass on advice as to children should not be going to bed on empty stomach.
And the tired caregivers in vandu and Bala are immediately dismissive about paati in her passive and dependent state.
There was a mention of all the dining table seats taken except shravu and there was no mention of thatha.
So bala's father is no more? Can't help but feel a sense of loss.


I couldn't help but smile on paati letting go of her principles of no egg and eating goodies cos it's soft on her mouth now or paati casually mentioning about less salt not being aware of the gravity of situation.
Such dear characters and there so much of familiarity and connect that I feel towards them
Lovely
Edited by Errantnomad - 6 years ago
Posted: 6 years ago
Originally posted by PriteeMisra



I guess it's in context of update.
She is crying coz of shravu' involvement.

Yes...this future problem update was a tough one to face...for me,future was all about the cute MM...but the whole shravu thing and the way he said nandu is his best friend,and how he n II had that conversation about the accident,bala's n vandu's helplessness...all these made my day...couldnt type a word as i was getting late for OP clinic.so posted that emoji...i really wish we could see these type of future glimpses about our life n kids n the problems they might face,as dreams,so that we could prevent those from happening in real...
Posted: 6 years ago
Hey everyone,
Both the index are updated...
I think we will get next Thread very soonWink

Posted: 6 years ago
Patti's situation reminds me of someone close to me whose mother in law recently turned 87. She lives here with them and she was telling me that how difficult it's becoming to care for her. She's  presenting signs  of first stage dementia, and is therefore always confused and also becomes aggressive at times. Life here can be the most lonely, horrible life being alone all day with literally no one to talk to . The kids go to school, coup,e off to their work. She can't even heat her own food lest she forgets to switch  off the gas. The older son or my friend come home during the day from school/ work to heat food when they can for her, at other times it's kept in hot boxes. She goes to india to be with her extended family for about 6 months but wants to return back because son is here. Travelling is now becoming impossible and the mention of a care home is tauba tauba.  She was saying it will become  impossible to care for her as her dementia progresses and they live in constant  fear that something might happen to her. They can't go for family dinners, can't go to people's homes, can't do anything because she creates a big fuss and doesn't let them go. 
Old age can be such a curse and your family who cares for you can only do so much and no more. Hats off to appa, amma  and vandu and bala for caring about periappa and pati so much...but sometimes it just becomes too much.

Posted: 6 years ago
Originally posted by taramira


Patti's situation reminds me of someone close to me whose mother in law recently turned 87. She lives here with them and she was telling me that how difficult it's becoming to care for her. She's presenting signs of first stage dementia, and is therefore always confused and also becomes aggressive at times. Life here can be the most lonely, horrible life being alone all day with literally no one to talk to . The kids go to school, coup,e off to their work. She can't even heat her own food lest she forgets to switch off the gas. The older son or my friend come home during the day from school/ work to heat food when they can for her, at other times it's kept in hot boxes. She goes to india to be with her extended family for about 6 months but wants to return back because son is here. Travelling is now becoming impossible and the mention of a care home is tauba tauba. She was saying it will become impossible to care for her as her dementia progresses and they live in constant fear that something might happen to her. They can't go for family dinners, can't go to people's homes, can't do anything because she creates a big fuss and doesn't let them go.
Old age can be such a curse and your family who cares for you can only do so much and no more. Hats off to appa, amma and vandu and bala for caring about periappa and pati so much...but sometimes it just becomes too much.



True and Nicely put. These are such situations when we feel terribly that life sucks.
I have couple of friends whose parents had dementia and are no more
There's a danger that I've watched from close qtrz and this was in India. Where old ppl on their progressive stages of dementia can't get bk or identify their homes. They forget to take bath or groom themselves. Caregivers have a terribly difficult time giving them care and it's unmentionably expensive to even mention full time costs of a nurse. When they get to the stage of physically getting aggressive, it becomes so difficult to even retain the nurse make or female.

I have my friends telling us so regularly bcos they have seen what their parents have gone through
Asking their close ones to pull the plug on them without a second thought if they were to get it like their parents .

Appa, Amma , Bala and vandu , you can only admire them for this quality irrespective of other fall outs they may have. They have not washed their hands off their parents even under trying circumstances like appa's brother or ambala Anna.

That way they are very resilient , lot of toughness in them even if it's become a duty and it takes a lot of spine to not shirk away. People like Bala have a lot of weaknesses but are not spineless.



Edited by Errantnomad - 6 years ago
Posted: 6 years ago
Twin babies!!!!Embarrassedsuuuperrr!!!!Smile

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