Originally posted by modernfamily
Thanks Nisha for a lovely emotional and fun raksha bandhan update. I have so many updates now to my name
. I'm extremely sorry for not being here always. I have no excuses because when I see you, with your hands full and still being able to churn out update after update, never complaining and in fact participating in every discussion I feel that I have no right to say I'm busy. Not only you but so many of them here.
I just have a 9:30-6 job. That's it. I started working in July last year stayed with at my aunt's place for a year. Food, laundry, etc as taken care of and I thought I'll study. Couldn't do a thing. Staying with relatives started taking a toll on me. You love them but living with them day in and say out is very difficult. You become a part of their secrets their fights the ugliness everything. Moved out a month ago thinking I'll get some time for myself so that I will be able to think about my future goals. But NO! That's another struggle. Half of my salary goes in rent. Rents are so high in South Delhi. Besides, I've been doing cooking cleaning washing too. Uske baad time hi nahi milta.
Moral of this ramayan is that I need time management tips from you guys so that I can be more active on the forum.
I never had the courage to do ANYTHING on my own, guarded protected and pampered by parents until marriage, uske baad pati, life lekin sab sikha zaroor deti hai one way or the other
You are miles ahead of me, love, in doing the "independent" act. I spent over 3 hours commuting each day when I lived in Delhi 20 years ago, I can only imagine how that must have turned now. You seem feisty and independent and grounded. You will do great. You did a great thing by getting out of there
Kisi bhi toxic environment mein zyaada din nahi rehna chahiye. If the toxicity is caused by in laws' side folks after the wedding, phir to koi choice nahi, you have to dive in, and help out, until then... do what your heart tells you to
As I grow older I try to surround myself with people that cheer me up, and not bog me down. Its hard, you cant run away always, especially when someone toxic knocks on your door... u cannot run away
Toxic things make me angry too, I want to fix it but dont know how. Like Salman Khan's travesty of justice, I was angry and upset and murderous. And then Nivi happened... I asked myself "What do I do best?"
The answer was "U make solid contributions to your employer"
I found myself another job
I cannot send Salman to jail or bring Nivi back, but I can hopefully immerse myself in learning new things, it nurtures my brain and feeds my soul
You are way smarter and more mature than I am. You will do GREAT!!!