Belly Button thanks for writing back, this story began as a rebellion, a way to get back at the disgusting character traits of Ishita Bhalla on the show
I veered so far from it, that some traits of II might seem extreme to some.
I only knew ONE thing when I began writing it:
I didnt want my lead to be anything like Ishita Bhalla or Raman Bhalla,
didnt want her dressing up for molesters the night after molestation, at the same time didnt want her to greet her husband's casual physical touch with nausea and puke, no rescuing rapists in the middle of the night, no accusing husband of cheating on her "exercising womanly freedoms, displaying modernity" publicly humiliating him at family events with no basis
Didnt want her to be a "pretend career woman" donning a blue coat once every 500 episodes... and delivering babies, conducting heart valve replacement surgeries because she is a "dentist" so she "knows"
Ms Goody Two shoes, constantly preaching and sermonizing to her in laws, maid, cabbie, auto wala, cop, husband, kids... hubby's ex, her rapist, her hubby's ex's rapist. NEVER DISPLAYING VULNERABILITY, NEVER APOLOGIZING NEVER ADMITTING GUILT
I made II (Nobody likes her to be called Ishita Bhalla) silly goofy, funny, clueless, caring, affectionate, ONLY WORRYING ABOUT WORK.
I hated Raman Bhalla's temper tantrums, constantly verbally abusing his wife and everyone around him, kicking her out of his house at the drop of a hat CONSTANTLY CRYING like a soap bahu. NEVER going to work, enabling criminal tendencies in his brother... had NO BALLS, was allowing his criminal son to manipulate him, his criminal ex to manipulate him... HIS AWFUL ATTIRE😡 pan stained? teeth... a sniggering smile when he believed he was being "funny" when he mocked and ridiculed his wife by calling her names
I totally enjoyed it for the rare moments of romance and camaraderie between the two, Raman's occasional sharp wit (When the humor wasnt about mocking his wife)
I crafted R&B (NOBODY wants him to be called Raman) to be this TALLL guy, TOTALLY INTROVERTED, well educated, says five words in a day... deeply deeply emotional, traumatized by the scandal surrounding his Dad, unable to forgive him, losing his Ma... slowly falling in love and opening up to his wife
I wanted it to be about work, business, venture capital investing, SW deployment, II trying to juggle career and home... CAREER first... I essayed pieces from my own Iyer upbringing merging it with wealthy Punjabi acquaintances during my years in Delhi😳
This story is in NO way a guide book to MEN, WOMEN, MARRIAGES, SEXUAL PHYSICAL EMOTIONAL OR CAREER CHOICES OR FREEDOMS. NO WOMAN is a poster child for anything in my story. I dont care for them, like organized religion, feminists have an agenda too. Every character is flawed inadequate and insignificant
I am no authority on anything. I have no clue what I am doing with MY life 😆leave alone have enough time to worry about if women should be naked or cheat on their husband in the name of "freedoms". Deepika Padukone possesses the luxury of such thought
I worry about paying my bills, caring for my family, keeping my job... and most recently a horrifyingly and tragically losing a VERY VERY VERY dear friend . Her loss is swallowing me at this pointðŸ˜
Women and Women's rights can take a hike... its not going to bring Nivi backðŸ˜
If it were a month ago I would have atleast made a feeble, wimpy weak argument about why Amma preaches certain things and why she is right in forcing II to live like a "good Iyer girl and Iyer wife"
NOW... I write so I can talk to the 50+ family I have here. Cuz if I stopped they would all go about their life and I would be left with nothingðŸ˜
Its a selfish enterprise at this point... not an exercise to bring about ANY social change
I am very happy you read and write here
Feel free to not like most, all or some of the story or characters. Question it as well. But I might not be able to give you a "intelligent or an intellectual" response, I am constrained...ðŸ˜
Cheers!!
Edited by Nisha0604 - 8 years ago
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