Do I need to shout out from a roof top that "I don't hate this tale and I have nothing against Nisha or any other woman out here"
You people pretty much ganged up against me, given that I am new here, I would say I loved it!
So I pat myself in the back to having able to stir a spark.
This story provides a very good platform to dissect and look into various characters; and also learn from the deepest of pits how our beloved Indian community works. I am as a fan here, not to sprinkle my criticism and this story moved me enough to come here and express myself and all the credit goes to the author. So what I said was pretty hypothetical, isn't it? Some people even asked me from which part of the world I belong AND that's why I gave the heart warming example of Ayyadurai in the beginning. And that shows, how much work lies ahead of me.
Maybe I was a bit way too stern in my opinions that led you to believe I was a hater or something. But well fans can have opinions about different characters, cant they?
By showing "What it is" the author has pioneered the art of neutralism because of which everyone can hold different opinions. There is no supposed villain or wrong-duer in her story but by the looks of happenings and how the story affects us, we can develop soft spots for a few characters and raise our eyebrows at others. It completely differs person-to-person.
Amma's teachings did that to me. No there's nothing wrong in being a homemaker and loving it. No theres nothing wrong in Amma teaching II how to cook or giving her tuitions in how-to-manage-after-marriage 101. Amma is not at fault. Its the custom that has been going on. Amma's amma also did it and the list goes on.
But if Amma has a change of heart she can teach II to live the life she desires. She can teach II to cook but not because "this is EXACTLY how returning from work after wedding will be" but to tell her that she can do either of the things she wants. If from the moment of birth you are taught something, it stays with you forever. Similarly, we have been taught to expect THIS life and stay with it and NOT JUDGE the universe for creating women as such. Yes most or maybe every women will crave kids like the men would want to spread their seeds. What the primal motives of the genders are, is not the point.
Its a free world. I am propagating equality in terms of living. No girl has to be pressured from her young teenage years to take up homely responsibilities, she can enjoy like her brother and not be judged if her future in-laws find that she cant cook as skillfully as they thought. Vandu can teach shravu and its evident he will question a big "why" but R&B's kid wont as he would know its survival not duty, because I don't think he/she will be raised to have notions like that.
The customs are not at fault either. Women manage inside while men pioneer the outside world. Thats a shared responsibility BUT it can be molded in the terms that suit both parties. Its not a law, just a path. A thousand other paths of shared responsibility can be created! Give them the power to decide. Thats all I want.
As for creating an argument to counter this, you can. But just reflect on this for a while. I am not a lawyer. You guys can defend a criminal if you desire but this is not it. Its a thought for a slight change in the way how you raise your offspring. Teach them equality, not the prehistoric biases.
Edited by Belly_Button - 6 years ago