Originally posted by Nisha0604
My Amma is a wise woman, she has never been employed, never set foot in an office except to Appa's or ours later in life (mazhaiki kooda odunginadu kedayadu, taken shelter for rains) but she said one thing to me when I began working as a "married" woman 16 years ago
"If u give up ur personal time, family time, time to take care of your health and work away day and night, eating frozen, ready to eat meals, letting your house turn into a dump, going grey haired at 30, and having ur first BP visit to the doctor at 28, you are the loser. Tomorrow if he decides he doesnt give a damn he will let u go. Yaaruku prayojanam (What use is all of it is)"
I never gave up cooking two full meals a day no matter what the earth shattering emergency was/is
I totally agree with u Nish...It is a married woman's perspective...
Lets take myself...I am 25 --- highly ambitious and unmarried...living alone...independent woman...simply put as "work hard, party hard" types...and I have a seen a lot of ppl like me...I work atleast 13 hrs a day...I have the time becos I dont have a family to manage... I go to gym daily...definitely cook atleast once in a day...love eating food outside...have umpteen number of friends...have visited every bar in my place...have both worked on weekends and also done a lot of hikes and outdoor activities during other weekends...The perk of being single is u r more flexible...u could afford more time...and it definitely gives u an edge at work where u finish things faster...and ur boss appreciates it...Its like a kid trying to impress someone and being handed a candy for the achievement...U still get the candy right...does it mean ur boss is taking advantage of u or u letting ur boss to take advantage of u...I dont think so...I see it as a mutual benefit to both of us...
But tomo if I get married, it would not be like this...but it will definitely take time for me to understand that...that I am getting happiness from my better half and the small edge I am losing at work is not a big issue...becos u lose the candy from one place or u get the candy in another form which is new to you to understand/accept...
But in all this, I truly accept wat my mom says...that one life is not superior over the other...u get candy in both the cases...just that ur taste of candy changes over time as u age...