(Shilpa: ladayiyan to dher saari hain meri jeb mein, you should not be embarrassed to share, every family has a scape goat, every family has someone that is wealthy, there are underdogs and people with evil designs everywhere. Kaise bacha jaaye? You are totally right. I have this debate with my friend a loved, she moved out of town now. "OUR GENERATION FEELS the most and cares the most for parents, the one above us, werent allowed to, My Mom couldnt do much for her family... emotionally physically or financially. Our kids will NOT. I rationalize it based on where I live. US ke paani ka asar. U know saal mein do baar aayenge 4 din ke liye. We cannot expect to go move in with our kids when we turn 70 or 80. JUST CANT. Woh din gaye. Why is everyone lamenting the rise of nursing homes if it werent true? batao? If people wanted to or could care would there be such a sharp increase in every city? )
Very true Nisha, what u have written is very true, exceptions are also there...
My mother couldn't do much for her parents, when my dad is frustrated due to some financial squeeze then he used to shout at her, what have they given you, both ur brothers took everything, sold all the property worth crores, let them look after , now my uncles after their death do the anniversary puja? I always feel, whats the use doing that now, when they were alive they didn't give them peace of mind.
The emotional attachement is reducing I think, old age homes are increasing in Bangalore, we as parents should take care in how we treat our parents and in laws.
One Iyengar aunty our neighbour, died and her daughter didn't even come and she was an only child, first that aunty lost mental stability, then she partially recovered, and after 2 yrs passed away. The daughter didn't turn up for the twelfth day ceremony also I think.
Enough of my morbid thoughts...each to their own I guess, just hope I give my kids good values and life doen't throw unexpected googlies.
Loved the last line or thought of R&B '''Where else will I be?"
So when is the next update? Let it be long yaar,
And Nish, can u write something abt their wedding memories, like watching the album or video and from the sangeet day I wanted R&B to reminsce abt the dance. I loved the song. It will be better if he is watching it on the TV instead of the backpacking photos. II was so upset he didnt tell her anything. Either it shld be loaded on his phone or anything. II shld go to her parents house for a day atleast. Just a wish, would love whatever u write...