Originally posted by Nisha0604
Originally posted by swathi1990Swathi
Very touching update Nish !!
Her giving a kerchief to him... kind of came out very naturally...a progress for them..
He seeing ma in Amma...Sam being a vanditha for II...wah ... u just brought out a beautiful family emotional scene..Wat the parents would go through when their girl is getting married..I have always noticed that...
But the feminist in me doesn't like or accept the title
It is not power somehow that sounds wrong but I dont know the right word as well...
Its HOW you take it
NO man wants to control dominate and suppress. They want a good marriage as much as you do. Havent met ONE foolish power hungry one like the feminists describe in the last 20 years, its a HUGE generalization to assume that men are out to destroy women's lives.
I know 10s of women though that have systematically ruined their marital life.
Its my personal opinion that 20 somethings, not all... but certainly many 20 somethings (not you at all) are TOO WRAPPED UP in their sense of academic and professional achievements. there is a certain hubris in their approach to marriage.
"Oh! I am too smart for any man"
"Oh! I am an over achiever I cannot cook"
"Oh I need a promotion so I will not have a child (II)
Men are CONSISTENTLY doing more, I married nearly two decades ago, my Mom married over 4 decades ago, my paatti married over 6? 8? decades ago
I have not heard of one marraige in the last 5 years where the man does not know how to cook or fold laundry or wash toilets.
There have been good and bad men in every era, men that contribute willingly dont have the urge to be Hitler, in fact 99% of them dont care to be Hitlers.
Many women I find are suddenly very unmanageable and prickly and unwilling to "give" and overcome with their sense of self.
Traditions have a reason, they dont apply 100%. Never did even 100 years ago kanna
So dont get caught up in that... Dont let feminists run over you with a 18 wheeler.
They derive orgasms from butchering men, some of us get it FROM MEN
(Sorry! no offence to feminists)
This calls for a debate Nish
I am in no support of feminists.. Infact I hate all this special women meetings / empowerment ...they are just BAKWAAS... They say that they wanted women to be treated equal but in actuality they themselves have no clue of wat they want...to be treated equal or to be treated like a god...Thats not wat I meant when I used the word feminist...
Oh I need a promotion so I will not have a child (II)
But wats really wrong in II / any girl thinking this way...I dont support all demands..But I feel that women have the right to make their choices /decisions as well... I am doing my PhD now...Ofcourse during paper deadlines I will be late home...I dont want a kid till I finish my PhD...wats wrong in thinking like that??? I am not being a feminist here..I am just being a person who follows my passion in life
and BTW I totally agree taht the guys have changed...more so afte they start living alone in another country where they have to be responsible..But I have also seen guys who live with their parents throughout and have backward/stereotypical thougts...Infact seen many of both the type of guys
Edited by swathi1990 - 6 years ago