Originally posted by: guess_gallery
1) Can a friendship made in forum can last long?
Friendship is
entirely dependent on the persons in the relationship. Be it on
forum, be it in real life, be it in school/ college/ office, if the two
parties to the relationship decide to make it work, it will last and
last for however long they want it to last or however long they nurture
it.
Forum is different from real life in only this respect that on the
forum, we dont see thier face , we dont touch their hands, we dont hug
them personally, which we do in real life. But dont we do those
things virtually? When a forum friend is sad, dont we cry,
when a friend is upset, dont we hug them on IM or forum? Are
those fake? If the intentions behind it is fake, then they are
fake, but where the intention behind it is very genuine, and you mean
every thing you write, you mean every hug you send on IM or forum, then
it is as genuine as real.
I have some
wonderful friends on the forum, who are not just virtual friends.
They are a part of my life, they are an integral part of my
existence. No day begins or ends without talking to them, or
speaking to them on phone/ chat/ forum. I am far more close to
some of my forum friends than I am to some real life ones too.... and
their being a virtual friend has made no difference to my
feelings.
2)
I have seen many in forum they will count some one so closely so
friendly, but again may be with some misconception they will not even
take there name in friendship list, why??? Was it not a true friendship?
Is this only in virtual
relationship or do these things happen in real life as well. How
many times in college did we hear from a third friend that xyz said
something about you, that hurt you, in the rush of emotions, you go and
fight with that person and break it off. Do we stop to think that
the other friend may not have said that at all. Why do we
distinguish between different friends or shoud I say why are there
different categories of friends. Some friends, you will believe
anything you hear about them, but there are some friends, which,
whatever happens, you trust so much that you know they will never back
stab you. This trust is common both in virtual and in real
life. For me, forum friendship, today, is as good as a real life
friendship, because of my friends, who made that extra effort to break
the barrier of the internet.
3)
Quite recently in forum an argument occurred in particular section.
They were good friends but in one case there views were not matching
and they left the friendship.. why???? Is friendship so easy to break
and move on???
Any friendship,
as I said above, is entirely upto the set of friends. In this
very forum itself, there is one person whose views have always been
dimetrically opposite mine. We have always stood on opposite side
of the fences when it came to issues, we have fought bitterly, we have
had our share of heart aches, but that has always been only on issue
related and it has not and hopefully will never affect our
friendship. But yes, there have also been friends who have fought
on forum or other related issues and have allowed the friendship to
wither away. The issue was trivial, but the ego of the two
friends or whatever it is which stood in the way of friendship was so
big that the issue got sidelined and the friendship suffered. At
the end of the day, it is upto us to decide the fate of our
friendships.
I
don't know how others treat this forum but I personally feel if I have
some problem and if I tell them they are ready to help me however they
can. Even he/she is in Canada, USA, UK or even Norway… they are always there.
Friendship not only in forum but an over all look..
Relation of love
4) So, why a simple misunderstanding breaks a relation love? Can we feel ego comes in?
Yes. More often than not, it
is the bruised ego which speaks than a bruised heart. Man is far
more resilent when it comes to matters of heart and less resilent on
matters of ego.
5)
Relation of wife and husband, (I don't want to include the topic extra
martial affair coz that is not the only thing a relation breaks) so
excluding that thing why they get separate. when trust is there for so
long time may be they are married for 4-5 years so the 5 year trust is
simply broken in a minute and they first thing comes in mind is ok
that's it we cant be together now,why?
It is the lack
of will to fight for something you believe in. It is lack of
conviction and belief. If the man or woman was good enough to
trust and marry five years back, how have the circumstances changed
during the period, that you suddenly find a lack of trust. When
you get married without conviction or for reasons besides trust and
love and the need and desire to get married, it was never a relation
based on trust, so the question on trust breaking is really
incidental. Man/ Woman finds it a convenient excuse to blame
failing relationships on lack of trust, when the real answers lie
elsewhere. The real answers prick their concience and possibly
thats why they will always be pushed under the carpet and the "Trust"
is given full importance.
Some
one from forum said me few words which I cant forget…."In a relation
many problems can come but it should not effect the amt of love for
each other. Unless trust is broken other things should not at all
matter. Views may differ but it cannot be a reason for relation break up…"
Beautiful words 👏 particularly the words made bigger font. I endorse the view whole heartedly.
Need your views…
can treat text in purple as questions...
Cheers,
Ahmed
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