Originally posted by: Nisha0604
Wings,As a much married woman I would sayIts that ONE moment when you "wont mind"😉 spending the rest of your life with that personDespite all their quirks/idiosyncrasies/bad habits and annoying behaviorsR&B and II DONT know ALL of the bad stuff about each otherTheir dynamics right now is, I would say60% sexual5% Sheer SPUNK the other person displays10% their work ethic/passion, professionalism, intellect10% each others' UNIQUENESS (she is an extrovert, he is a introvert)10% THEIR TEMPER😃5% THEIR ARROGANCE, THEIR EGOSShe still thinks he is uneducated...he doesnt have an ADMIRATION for HER achievementsI could either let them discover ALL of each others' bad habits and worst behavios and then have them accept each other COZ NO ONE ELSE IS BETTER FOR EITHERORGo the arranged marraige route and let the layers peel off slowlyBeing in an arranged marriage situation myselfI FIND IT INCREDIBLY SEXY AND INTRIGUING... the PROCESS of two people discovering each other...WHAT is the fun in spending 10 years with a man or a woman and then tying the knot?WHAT is left to discover?😕Arranged marriage is like this silk fence... around two people... it tugs and pulls and yanks... but the people eventually figure out where the fence is and carve a nice path inside😃I ABSOLUTELY LOVE ITIf my kids allow me THAT'S THE ROUTE I WILL GO for them😆 there's not a more romantic way to fall in loveSince its fiction, I will keep their negatives below or equal to the positivesTHIS IS NOT A REFORMATION/HEALING/REHAB STORY😃
Originally posted by: Nisha0604And oh!
I could very well write a part where R&B is all mushy and gushy... stays up and pines for her and writes love notes on every piece of paper, forgets to eat sleep and do his jobBut that would be boring...I will just let him be inscrutable until the very end... with little glimpses into what he did on a certain day or at a certain time...Little nuggets like how she discovered hes similar to Manny thrown in here and there... nuggets like that and the comment from Sam "One R&B is enough"
Originally posted by: Wings-of-Fire
I wouldn't like that either. Him thinking about her and pining.. that'd be creepy! I just wanna know him. I want info so that I can at least know if I can like him or not.
Originally posted by: Wings-of-Fire
Okay, so I'm going to explain my problems, be prepared! I find both the situations terrifying. Some people might call me a chicken for admitting this, which I actually am in this case but the concept of falling in love just like that or agreeing to an arrange marriage just bits the living hell out of me! I am a control freak. I like to know things. I like to understand a situation based on the things I know. But both love and arrange marriage is such an act of heroism (I find it heroic, I know it sounds stupid) an act of faith, that I'm just afraid of it. I mean, you meet a guy and you like him, but you don't know if he's gonna be compatible with you- if you fall for him it doesn't matter what happens next, chances are your heart is gonna get broken one way or another. And then comes arrange marriage where you don't know much about the person and you agree on it because you trust your parents judgement. But the problem is, I believe that everyone judges a person based on how they are themselves. For example, my parent are very lovely people and I know they judge everyone to be good until they prove otherwise. So the concept of arrange marriage for me is an act of leap of faith. And I'm not brave enough to take it!
(Basically I'm screwed! My mom has started praying to god that someday I'd wanna get married!😆 The rest of my family and friends have given up!😆)
Originally posted by: Nisha0604
You ALREADY KNOW so much about himHes an introvertHes is NOT expressive, errmm.. except in bedHes DEEPLY attached to his sisters (friends in my case since I've got no sister!)Hes HONEST and straight fowardHe has a temperHe is resentful of his DadHe is AS attracted to her as she isHe LOVES his jobHe doesnt have 100 friendsHe doesn't live by the norms of the society, his girlfriend was FRENCH and 6 years OLDERHe runs away sometimes from problemsHes not depressed or suicidal
Originally posted by: Nisha0604
You ALREADY KNOW so much about himHes an introvertHes is NOT expressive, errmm.. except in bedHes DEEPLY attached to his sistersHes HONEST and straight fowardHe has a temperHe is resentful of his DadHe is AS attracted to her as she isHe LOVES his jobHe doesnt have 100 friendsHe doesn't live by the norms of the society, his girlfriend was FRENCH and 6 years OLDERHe runs away sometimes from problemsHes not depressed or suicidal
Originally posted by: modernfamily
That's the story of my life. I can't make myself believe in the institution of marriage. My family can't stop emotionally blackmailing me. I think you just have to be lucky, which only a few of us are. With marriages comes a perpetual fear attached, what if he is not the right one.😕
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