Hmmm, so I was debating whether or not to post a topic today because I had read that today's episode was fairly blah...
I'm going to skip right over that first Nuts scene because...well, you know.
Coming to the heart of the matter, a few interesting dilemmas and thoughts popped into my head while watching the Vineet-Priya track. Apologies for the slightly whimsical approach to this post - there's not much in the episode that I wanted to talk about save one or two scenes, but there are some concepts that I was keen to explore.
Now, we know that Ram is the man Priya will marry, so we know that Vineet mein koi na koi khot zaroor hoga. Otherwise such a seemingly perfect man even Priya will not reject last minute.
But suppose this was not a love story between Ram and Priya. Suppose this was simply a story about Priya finding the right guy for her, and there was no Ram involved. Would Vineet fit the bill? He said all the right things; in fact he said all the things before Priya could say them, before she even got a word in edgeways. But is that enough? Is saying - or even believing - the right things enough? Could Vineet be the right man for Priya? I am the kind of person that believes in the dictum "if it's too good to be true, it's probably false". I think that life would be extremely boring if we all were the "perfect" people - never fight, never argue, never have a differing opinion etc. Chalo no drinking no smoking is fine...many people abstain from those things. Those are not the things that make a person interesting. But can two people be truly, completely, deeply happy when there is absolutely NO conflict of any sort? I am not so sure.
The things that we all love about Ram are that he is NOT perfect; by no means. He is often rude, snobbish, a control freak and has a weird thing about cleanliness. He doesn't like rain, or traffic, or time wasters. But he is sweet, and awkward, and protective. He knows how to apologise, how to tease, how to be teased. He is vulnerable, sad, lonely. He is ruthless in business, decisive and determined. He is all of these things, and yet he is not perfect.
Who would you rather pick? Forgetting the "RaYa" element, just purely on the basis of a deeper question - who would YOU pick? The non-confrontational guy who says all the right things, never argues with you and agrees to let you live your life exactly the way you want it? Or the guy who most probably will agree with you only 50% of the time, will argue and fight his corner, will make you laugh, and cry, and love and hate? I know which I would choose.
Priya is very perceptive. Her hesitation towards Vineet was not due to her leaning towards Ram; I don't think she has yet leant towards him in that way, and neither has he with her. Her hesitation towards Vineet was based solely on him and her reaction towards him. She was blind-sided from the moments she stepped into the house, and confused by her own inertia and her own non-reaction to him. Here is a guy who is pushing all the right buttons, saying all the right things, giving me everything I want. Why am I still not sure?
This is a common dilemma for women, I believe. The "good guy-bad boy" syndrome. Ram is not a "bad boy", but in comparison, Vineet is practically a saint. But he's vanilla. And Ram is swirling chocolate, and pecan, and brandy and all the nice and naughty things. (And here I make myself hungry π). It is endlessly fascinating to me how women - myself included - are almost always drawn to the guy who is slightly "unsafe", or who makes us react in some extreme way, good or bad. Or a guy who challenges us. The so-called good guy who doesn't have any bad qualities can make for a very boring life partner. This is why I don't like mahaan characters - they are too good, and always right. How do you argue with someone like that? Life is grey, not black and white. I have always identified with the grey-ish characters more than those who do no wrong.
Of course, since we know that this is a show about RP, and since we suspect that Ram had sent this guy (as evidenced by his remark "Priya's liked him" in the boardroom), we know that something will happen tomorrow to break off this so-called rishta. What, I don't know. But isn't it strange how these things work? Her entire family is singing this guy's praises, and though Priya acknowledges that he seems to be perfect...uska dil nahin maanta. Her gut instincts, her perception, these are all warning her that this is not the way to go. We all have this gut instinct; the problem arises when we fail to understand it. I hope Priya does not fail to understand it,
Despite all their fighting, their misunderstandings, the way they get so hyper around each other...indeed, probably because of all these things, there is a spark between Ram and Priya. In the precap when they show Ram come and stand behind Priya as she faces out towards the rain...you get a jolt of excitement, a sense of rightness. There is this...chamak that surrounds them when they are together, this bubble of light and sparkles. Life picks up pace a little more, the world is brighter, more vibrant; sounds are louder. Even I can see this - from this side of the screen. I don't know how they do it. There is not a SINGLE word spoken in that precap. But that precap is more exciting to me than anything I have seen today. It's a little thing called magic. And, of course, it's "meta-magic". We, the audience, see and feel the magic but also, don't Priya and Ram also feel that magic within the confines of the show? Isn't that why they get so animated around each other?
As much of a romantic as I am, I would love to believe in the concept of soulmates. Unfortunately, the other half of me is a major cynic. I believe in soulmates, but I don't think they exist in today's real life. Or do they? Does anyone here have stories of their own to share - of their loved ones and other halves? Is there magic in your lives? Is the world a brighter place because you made the right, instinctive choice? Or do you believe that there is no such thing as the "right" choice, only the practical one? Do you think that a person can make themselves love anyone, fit in with anyone, make a home and a family with anyone?