PART#1
"Let a student* who has not violated his vows of Brahmachaarya(student-life), and has conducted
himself, righteously according to the advice of his preceptor, enter married life after he has
studied with their subsidiary sciences, the four Vedaas, three Vedas, two Vedas, or one Veda
only." MANU 3: 2. "Let him, who has faithfully discharged his duties towards his preceptor and received from his
father, - natural or spiritual (i.e., the teacher), the gift of the knowledge of the Veda, sit on an
elegant bed, decked with a garland of flowers; and let his father ( natural or spiritual) honor him
with the present of a cow." MANU 3: 3. A female student possessed of the aforesaid qualification
should also be honored in the same way by her father. "Let a twice-born man (Braahman, Kshatriya, and Vaish) after having obtained the consent of his
teacher and taken the bath ( prescribed for the ceremony of Return Home from the seminary),
return home and espouse a maid, of his own Class, endowed with excellent qualities." MANU 3:
4. *Make or Female"A girl, who is not descended on his mother's side within the sixth degree and does not bear the
same family name (Gotra) as his father's. is eligible for marriage." MANU 3: 5.
It is a fact that "we do not love or value a thing, that we are familiar with, so much as one that is
hidden from our view." SHATHAPATHA BRAAHMANA. For instance, if a person has heard a
great deal about the sweetness of sugar, but never tasted it, his mind is taken up with the desire
of tasting it. Or when we hear a person, who is not known to us, highly extolled for his excellent
qualities, it makes us very eager to make his acquaintance. For the same reason, a man should
marry a girl, who comes from a distant country and is not a near relative either on his mother's
side or father's side.* The Advantages and Disadvantages of Distant and Near Marriages
The advantages and disadvantages of distant and near marriages respectively are:-
1. Any two persons who have, in their childhood, lived near each other, played and
quarreled together, loved one another, noticed each other's faults, imperfections,
ebullitions of temper and misbehaviors, and perhaps sometimes, even each other undressed, if married to
each other, can never love each other to the extent desired.
*At Washington city before the National Medical Association long since in the session there, Dr. S.M. Bewis made the
following shocking statement: "My researches give me authority to say that over ten per cent of the deaf and dumb, and
over five percent of the blind , and nearly fifteen percent of the idiotic in our State institutions for subject of these
effects, are the offspring of kindred parents."
2. The marriage of near relatives does not improve the race from want of interchange of
fluids and essences (such as blood) of the body, it rather deteriorates it,. This is
analogous to the addition of water to water, no new quality being produced.
3. As the addition of sugar and such medicines as ginger, improves the taste and quality of
milk, so does the marriage of people, who are not related to each other (either on father's
or on mother's side), improve the race.
4. As in the case of an invalid, change of climate and diet very often effects a cure, so does
marriage with foreigners or distant people improve the health of the parties and prove
beneficial in every other respect.
5. When the parties are nearly related to each other and live amongst their people, the
sorrows and joys of one family will affect the other and there will be many occasions for family disputes to arise; while
marriages among distant people and consequent separation from relatives lengthen t
thread of mutual love. This is not the case when they live near their people.
6. When marriages are contracted with people of foreign or distant countries, things and
news from those countries can be easily obtained (and consequently relations between
different countries become closely established). This not possible when people marry
near relatives or persons living near their homes, or, in their own country.
In Sanskrit a daughter is called duhitri (from Du - distant, Hit - good), because the
marriage of a girl to a man who comes from a distant country or distant part of the same
country is productive of good.
7. If the bride's people do not live very far from her husband's home, there is a possibility of
her parents becoming poor, as whenever she visits her parents, they will have to give her
something or other by the way of a present.
8. If their people live near at hand, on any slight friction taking place between the husband
and the wife, she, feeling assured that her people will support her, will at once leave her
husband and go to her parents. That may become the cause of mutual reviling and
wrangling, for, women, as a rule, are so easily offended and pleased.
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