12 years ago
I really didn't know where to put this thread, as nothing else seemed to fit. I guess this is sort of a question I have been debating about with myself, and everyone in my life. So I thought it would be appropriate to put it here. I guess views of other ppl will help, as everyone else in my life, well there advice isn't just what I want to hear...
So basically I am finishing up my last year at university, and through some friends I met this guy. We hit it off really well and well, after a couple of dates, I guess it was 'official.' We get along naturally and he is really one of the most caring and affectionate people I have ever met.
Well basically, we celebrated our one year and since his family is very liberal (his mother is Dutch, but spent much of teen and college years in India, where she met his father) they invited me to dinner.
I was nervous to say the least, and he as usual calmed me down. Well his whole family was there, and it was so nerve wracking, but his family made me feel very welcome. His sister asked me at the dinner table, what i was doing? I told her I was finishing my bachelors and I really wanted to do financial economy/analysis in my masters, main goal was to do bank investment as well. She was all like "ohhhh thats great!"
Later on, everyone was just having drinks and talking to each other and his sister asked me if I wanted to go on the back deck with her, and that she wanted me to see the backyard. I was like okay, hoping it would be a chance to get to know someone one on one in his family. As I went outside...long story short...his sister gave me a mouthful!
She was like hes in medical school, and he could probably snatch someone better, there is a bit of too much indian traditional vibe from me and that it wouldn't fit in with their dutch family, and that how I was too young and seemed immature (we are only 2 years apart! im last year bachelors and he is second year med.)
Neways, as we were leaving, she gave me a big hug and kiss yada yada. We were in the car, and i was pretty silent, as usual he picked up on it really quick- but in that moment I didnt want to say anything, so I was like 'no nothing.'
When he dropped me off, he said I was being 'distant.' I told him once again it was nothing. Basically the next day I told him everything on the phone, he said he would talk to his sister and she can be really protective of him, because he has always been her younger brother. He tried to set me and her up for a get together and said we should go shopping. I said sure, willing to try for him.
I ended up meeting her at the mall, and she brought along some of her friends. Nobody talked to me and i just ended up walking around with them, occasionally one of her friends would say something to me. I told him it was okay, and she had brought her friends. He was a furious.
I get a call from her the next day and she is totally pissed at me, saying why would I tell him she brought her friends along. She basically said, I can be with him all I want, but everyone in the family loves her (all the cousins) and they would have no problem taking her side. I said we weren't at war, and that we both wanted to see him happy...so why couldn't we try? She said something 'I had lost my chance, and I will never be good enough for him.' I never told him this.
Honestly, what do I do with this girl? He loves his sister a lot, but she already has this notion I am not good enough...