Originally posted by Nuktaacheen
disclaimer: if you are offended by my post, just ignore it... no throwing brickbats at me... 😛😛
i think most of the actresses who chose to get involved with married men don't have any moral ethics or values... as far as men are concerned, most men are jerks... they love the attention and i guess the flattery gets to them... in any case, most men are not exactly that big on morals and ethics... 😛
i think a lot of actresses got involved with married men to further their career... madhuri, sridevi (mithun almost divorced his wife for her), rani (govinda, aditya), priyanka (akki), etc... yes, the social meetings are there, but c'mon... do they have no ethics...?? why give in to the temptations...? but i guess such is the glamour world...! 🤢
and i doubt it's the experience that counts... it's all about the money... to sustain their living style, they need someone who can pay their bills and maintain a high social standing... in karishma's case, her mom wanted someone who can also pay her bills... she kept her daughter away from her husband, for her own crooked reasons... and karishma, like a dumbo, did her mother's bidding... so really, as much as i can detest sanjay, karishma really made no effort to sustain her marriage...
marriage has become more of a business deal nowadays... specially in bollywood...
ash, kajol and madhuri definitely married wisely...!
It's not really a classy thing to do - going after men who are married but it's harder to resist temptation than you might think. I also don't think it fair to simply lay the blame at a lack of ethics/morality or the corruption in the glamour world. Why not look at the cause instead of the effect? There's a huge pressure on men (at least in football ~ due to sponsors - I would imagine the same is applicable here) to fall under the "family man" image but even the settled "married with kids" life isn't enough to keep a guy faithful as the ever-growing list of cheating male celebrities shows. For some, the pressure to marry goes against what young guys/girls want to do. Face it, how many times do we hear about young male celebs or female celebs living it up while out clubbing? The media makes a better meal of them cheating on their partners (preferably if there are children involved). The cheating scandal sells a lot better - which indicates a greater pressure on taking what is being offered on a silver plate because that's what everyone expects (and afterwards, criticizes them for it) them to do.
The women are another issue altogether. Again, going to draw reference from the football world, it has become culturally acceptable for young girls to go after players to gain a certain type of lifestyle. While this probably isn't accepted in Bollywood, some actresses (as you pointed out) do go after married men/men with status to gain a particular lifestyle. The lifestyle has been touted via media to be something people should aspire to achieve so why wouldn't some actresses take steps to gain it? Look at it objectively -- a slight sacrifie in dignity compared to the oppurtunities and money that would be available to her if she happens to catch the right eye. It is an easy way to the top.
P.S. I am not justifiying/trying to justify women/young girls chasing after men with money or people cheating on their partners but more stating it's not just an issue of morals or corruptions of money and fame.
