Is it wrong???? - Page 5

Originally posted by: carisma2

In Pratigya's case - one has to consider the background of her sasural ad their reactions.

 

In the Thakurs case - ladies living in the TN do not work - hence this could become an issue.

 

Loving family - who called her liar infront of everyone.

 

Loving mother who was telling her to go from the wedding - taking HER Krishna along with her.

 

Always disrespecting the son in law. They don't deserve sympathy from anyone.

 

But if you are asking from the POV of our personal lives then, Yes there is no harm with us trying to help our families. But being mindful of what our background situation is like aswell.

 

There is no right or wrong, it in circumstantual.

Originally posted by: gawker

of course a girl/woman has responsibilities towards her parents and family. after all they have have brought her into this world, educated her.... 👍🏼👏

Agreed 

 

that being said, in pratigya's case, we see a lady who has been unable to fulfill her basic duties towards her husband and in-laws. she's always running to her maika to sort out their problems, sometimes at the cost of her sasural and husband's respect.

 

Mostly with K's prior approval though. I think K does in fact respect what she does enormously for her parents, what he wants though is a wife who as well as being a good beti is a good DIL too.

 

in her case it would be easier to say *yes, go save your maika* after we see her do something noteworthy, caring, loving, big for either her husband or sasural.👏👏

 

finally, it is a question of balance. and right now its definitely, completely off-kilter here.

Agreed - but then isnt it arguable that The Green House Family are in genuine trouble? Would a loving daughter give up on them in their time of need? Its a difficult one.....b/c her sasural will NEVER be happy, even if she made efforts to do so......then what?

 

Originally posted by: Aeryn

Well MMG this is a delicate situation to say the least.....one which would have to be treated with tact ...

 

I agree with Tanthya and gawker here. Yes there's nothing wrong in wanting to help your parents but that said we can't overlook the mindset, the society in which prats lives in.

 

We can't forget that P is a married girl whose actions have a repercussion to her in-laws whether we like or not it's like that. A girl when out is taking the respect of her house with her and before throwing stone at the Thakurs for their narrow mindness, let us not forget that the whole allahabad think alike even the Saxes. P working will damage Thakurs' image. It will be taken as a public humiliation.

 

Plus as gawker said, there is a problem a balance in relationship. Pratigya has been known for always running to maayka at a drop of a hat while often ignoring her duty as a bahu and even sometimes at the cost of her sasural's izzat. Moreover, the son of that house is still there to take care of the family, it's normally his duty. The prof himself is not in such a bad state that he can't work either. Speaking of it, what happened with his job at the university? If they are sensible, her maayka people should tell P that they will handle it (both men of the house are still there) and she must think of her sasural first and foremost.