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Posted: 13 years ago

I don't know whether it is their collective poor performance or the shoddy script but somehow I have never felt any bit of sympathy or empathy for the saxenas. There is something so ridiculous about the entire bunch of them that the moment they are on the screen, a feeling of disgust or irritation creeps into me.

As a viewer, I would have applauded P's stance of earning for her family if I had any bit of sympathy for them or if it was shown that there was absolutely no other option(widowed mother, younger dependent siblings etc) But in this situation, I cannot identify or approve of P's POV. I am of the opinion that parents shd not be too dependent on the son too as somewhere down the line, dignity does get compromised. It is better to live on less than to be dependent on any one else.

Husband's unemployment is a major issue, when are the CVs make P tackle it. Or are they saving the best for the last

As it is the suck-sena are a butt of ridicule, this track is going them them appear more ludicrous. Yet again a wrong call by the CVs. Pratigya is becoming a totally unidimensional character.

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Posted: 13 years ago

Originally posted by: sweet_bhanki
Me too having trouble undertanding what exactly is the problem with P working to help out her family? Is it that some are having problem's because it is HER family??? 😕 if things were reversed and it was the Thakurs (very unlikely) in this situation would people feel that same?

youre right - veru unlikely!!!!😆

No Sweet, ther is nothing wrong with P helping out the Green House Family, but she will have to do so in a tactful and sensitive way - and that is I fear where she would fail.

P is very idealistic and true to her beliefs, particularly in her support of her family, to the extent that she is often blind to the consequences of her actions in their defence, and that is what could cause tensions in her own life.

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Posted: 13 years ago

Originally posted by: ramanbabitha
No, it doesn't come between the marriage....as long as the girl doing it in a balanced way....Like me....Iam proud to be one of them😉

Tht's why I side P sometimes....but I want her to give K his due RESPECT..... I want her to make him confident of her LOVE for him...thn anything is under the sun.... So P...hearing....

anyway I thank U for this thread MMG, even i was arguing this Q to myself.... Now Iam fine ,lub u.❤️

Good for you Babs!👏

We'll rely on you to show P the way if the time comes.....

I really dont hisnk K will have a problem in understanding P may need to help her parents - I think his issues will be born out of his not being on her side as to the way she will do it - i.e working. That will be the real test!

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Posted: 13 years ago

if baba hv no problem with his babu's decision, humko ka??😊 Edited by glitter411 - 13 years ago

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Posted: 13 years ago

Originally posted by: tanthya

Hii MMG,

My pennies worth [if it is worth at all] ... your pennies worth is worth ten times its weight in gold!😃

There is nothing wrong in a girl , a married woman working .. and helping out her parents...it is frequently happening and it is accepted [with few clauses]where both the families are from similar background

But in MKAP ..Pratigya is married into a household which has a feudal mindset , A mndset which forbids Girls to go out alone and is always sent with a chaperon ..In such a case , If the bahu of the house steps out of the house [ A bahu is supposed to uphold Ghar's samman and Adarsh ] and goes out to work for her parents will not be accepted...They will think it is an insult to their standing in the society , A deliberate humiliation [ remember they think that once a girl is married, suk ya dhuk ..it shud be with the sasural only ..Maika shud be forgotten once the Girl has crossed the threshold of Sasural]..So Pratigya working for Maika will not be accepted ..for her action's indirectly reflect upon their status ..

T its great if it happens frequently as it shows a progressive mindset......if your own cant help you in your time of need, then what is life about??

However the practice here in the UK is unheard of, and maybe because it is not so necessary...but i can tell you this that the misconception people have of NRIs being broadminded and progressive is not always the case, if anything having left their beloved homeland whenever they did, some of these people have frozen it in that time and cannot see or accept the progress that has been made and continue to live in an antiquated manner....

speaking purely from my own experience, I can never imagine my in-laws would be accepting of me applying my earned income in my parent;s direction if they needed it, and they are certainly not alone. There is an expectation,particularly if there are sons, that it should be their responsibilty to support parents and not the daughter's, even today! Disgusting really....

Totally agreed with your analysis of how P working will be read by the TNiwasis.....👍🏼

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Posted: 13 years ago

Well I don't see anything wrong in that.Being the responsible and caring daughter that she is it is obvious for her to help them out by working for them during a financial crisis and that shouldn't affect her married life in any which way.And there's nothing surprising in it since this is the very same family for whom she sacrificed her life and future by marrying the person whom they all thought was behind all the harrasing.

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Posted: 13 years ago

Originally posted by: Madmadgirl

T its great if it happens frequently as it shows a progressive mindset......if your own cant help you in your time of need, then what is life about??

However the practice here in the UK is unheard of, and maybe because it is not so necessary...but i can tell you this that the misconception people have of NRIs being broadminded and progressive is not always the case, if anything having left their beloved homeland whenever they did, some of these people have frozen it in that time and cannot see or accept the progress that has been made and continue to live in an antiquated manner....

speaking purely from my own experience, I can never imagine my in-laws would be accepting of me applying my earned income in my parent;s direction if they needed it, and they are certainly not alone. There is an expectation,particularly if there are sons, that it should be their responsibilty to support parents and not the daughter's, even today! Disgusting really....

Totally agreed with your analysis of how P working will be read by the TNiwasis.....👍🏼

You know what sometimes how you do what you have to do is very imp. Ask me, I run a one woman show. My husband is not around for nearly seven months in a year and I single handedly look after our only child, a daughter. I stay close to my parents and there is nothing apart from financial help that i don't do for them . Paying the bills, taxes, caliing electricians, plumbers, running errands etc. I don't ask for permission as I don't believe that looking your own parents is a choice. It has to be done. Iam a Bong married to a UP guy so in a tiny way even I had to face that feudal mindset. What makes me diff. from p is that I never drew battlelines. Never shouted out what I intend to do or believe in. I just did it.

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Posted: 13 years ago

Shy 1111 that's the perfect way to do it. Quietly go about your business.Edited by yummimommy - 13 years ago

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Posted: 13 years ago

[QUOTE=yummimommy]Shy 1111 that's the perfect way to do it. Quietly go about your business

Absolutely!!! One can always be right without making the other person wrong.

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Posted: 13 years ago

Originally posted by: RoKa PraNeev
ya...der is nuthing wrong in prats supporting her family...derz NOTHING wrong...even krishna doesnt have any problem yaar....its just dat the THAKURS proved to be experts in BRAINWASHING...whenever dey get baba alone without pratz dey start saying bad abt prats which is not tolerable for krishu...datz why he said dat she shud also think abt her sasural!

as bab said...they neevr waste any opportunity to balme prats....for not staying n supporting her sasural...so krishu just want her to see her sasural too...only bcoz he can shut the THAKURS up!!

Nechu

K supporting P supporting the Green House Family is one thing...

K watching his wife pack her briefcase and go out to work so she can earn money for the benefit of her folks is another.....

I think he will struggle with the latter.....not the former...

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