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Why did Sita remind me so much of myself today đđ. Her ego is hurt when Laxman says with her they need a safe place. It was fine if only it was both of them.
Why did Sita retort that way. Reason is it is for the first time she felt what is like being in the jungle. She was quite an independant girl. But look at her condition today. Her feet got stuck between boulders. She couldnt take it out alone. Ram helps her. Then he carries her and finally ties her wound. Sita had to become dependant which she doesnt like. And she herself is feeling a little down on whether she is becoming a trouble as they also had a narrow escape from the boulder. And Laxman's dialogue of she needing a safe place rubs salt on that wound. And she retorts. Ram handles it nicely. He knows she will realize herself at the right time the need of dependancy, what her presence is going to land her husband and devar into as time comes.
What Laxman said is true but the time was not right to say it. He should have spoken to Ram in private, and allowed Ram to speak to her. But Laxman is a direct person. He tells what he feels. See these are minor things which needs to be managed in relations.
And now coming to Sita and women general in certain places where men has to take care of them or can be a danger to even men. Yes we feel bad that we increase problems for men, or can bring them to danger also. And girls well they dont like this at all. Let me put my POV on this problem
First we as woman needs to admit one thing not every man is Ram, Lakshman, Bharath or Shatrughna. Not every man is Janaka.
There are enough Ravan's in this world. Yes they have to be cleansed they have to be fought. But the problem happens many times we are unable to understand Ravan. Sita is fooled by Ravan as he comes as a rishi. By the time she realizes who he is it is far too late in the game.
So first and the foremost if a girl need not be a trouble to the men around her what she needs is the knowledge to differentiate between Ram and Ravan. If she has this knowledge she should know how to safeguard herself from such men. She has to be Durga who knows the difference between Shiva and Mahishasura and doesnt need a man to fix Mahisasur. She can fight the battle on her own.
But without that knowledge if you venture out in places with men, you put not only yourself but the men who care for you also in the mess. Like what happened with Sita. Her apaharan, what all her husband and devar went through. Today she didnt even acknowledge Lakshman's apology properly, but this man is going to take Brahmastra on himself for her sake.
The girl in Sita has not gone away. It will go away only in Ashoka vattika when she faces the bitter truth. Her lack of judgement, her pride in her knowledge all going for a toss. Alone in that vattika under a tree with only the hope of her husband coming her life teaches her the most valuable lesson. That at times you have to be dependant. At times you have to listen. At times certain remarks are not to restrain you, but to protect you from the harm. You are dear to someone and that someone may express the love in a way that might be uncomfortable to you.
But the woman who couldnt understand the concern and love of Lakshman, will understand him under the Asoka Vattika tree
Shiv Shakti
