Originally posted by: Rose-13This is what I’m trying to tell even spending so much time with family nd given them selfless love she got this in return,, just one mistake nd she was out from the house nd eventually separated from husband,,, ok beating with thick wood can be dhara’s mistake but she has given her good times to them nd suman didn’t count even one good things before throwing her out,, Is she that worthless..??
for prank I didn’t understand what they wanted to prove by scaring rishita how she would have started to give value to dhara after this incident didn’t understand🙄
Breaking suman’s home,,, she is been with suman for 10 years doesn’t she know dhara why suman has not given a thought of if dhara has not done anything wrong in these years nd suddenly she has done something like this what could be the reason... but nahhh all power goes to suman she is the owner of house one mistake nd i will throw you out,,, isnt it same thing that happen in real life also (at some places) with daughter in laws,,, its ITV trend to show daughter in law worthless even after giving their whole life for sasural,,, suman didn’t threw her sons out but dhara,,, even after spending 10 years with family dhara is still an outsider for suman where as her sons after doing horrific mistake got one slap... to me it is unjustified
If suman consider dhara an outsider then all her love nd affections she gave to those brothers were ehsan from dhara,,, suman should be thankful to dhara for whatever good she has done for her family nd store
Now that ravi nd dev marriage things as i told you i dont watch this show regularly so I can’t comment much but whatever little bit i have seen on instagram i concluded that they were wrong both dev nd dhara
Now that hiding things from family members,,, this is also so ITV things where they hide things from their own people and i dont like these kind of hide nd seek game,,, i can’t comment much only this that dhara was wrong in asking them to hide things from suman
My topic is about dhara’s (daughter inlaw) importance in the eyes of mother in law because society ask too much from bahu they should be loving, compromising, sacrificing, understanding And after doing all these they live a life with fear that they can be thrown out from house if they do any mistake after all house belongs to saas only
I understand where you're coming from. Why does a saas have the power to kick out a daughter in law. Simply because it's her home first and not her daughter in law's. Same way a parent can kick out their kid if they want to. Now it is Dhara's home too, just like it is Gaumbi's, Shiva's, Krish's, Dev's etc. But who's house are they living in? Suman's. It's not Suman who went to go live with her sons, it's her sons who chose to stay. This joint family setting of living with the elders is the culture this story is wrapped up in. So, while the elders are around, they will always have to be held accountable to them. It's the way desi culture works.
It's not that Dhara is worthless, it's that her one mistake is one of the worst mistakes she could've committed. It's because she didn't sincerely apologize for what she did, nor did she have any good reason for what she did. Suman asked her several times, and all Dhara could say was that she was angry. Dhara's beating of S+K is so illogical that Suman can't follow Dhara's thought process, so when Dhara and Gaumbi are saying they did it for unity or because S+R were fighting, not respecting Rishita, it just doesn't make sense. Like Suman said, there were a lot of other ways to handle this. It's clear to Suman that Dhara lost control of her anger and beat those guys brutally. You can't expect a mother to keep calm about this and look at things from the abuser's (Dhara's) POV.
Suman has no reason to kick out her kids, they didn't do anything like this to each other to warrant that level of punishment. Suman realizes that while the prank was wrong, they didn't ever mean to physically harm Rishita. Dhara intentionally beat and caused S+K physical harm on purpose.
Also, to Suman, this is not the first time Dhara has done something wrong. It's true that we can't overlook the good Dhara did for the family but it only takes one mistake to ruin everything. For Suman, Dhara's crime of beating & separating her own children outweighs a lot of the good that Dhara did. Because that's how grave Dhara's mistake was. Everyone has their own limits.
Excusing Dhara just because of the good she did is like saying "My husband only beat me once, but look at the last 10 years he spent caring for me," IMO that's not a healthy mentality to have. We can't just sweep away people's bad deeds with "oh they only did it once" in cases such as these (physical abuse). We can forgive, but that has to be because of serious repentance too. Which, Dhara IMO has not done.
I don't think Suman considers Dhara an outsider, but Suman just has no qualms about letting her go should she step out of bounds. Suman's a tough lady. Suman was hurt by what Dhara did, what other punishment would/could you give to Dhara at that point? Suman knew what would hurt Dhara as much as Dhara hurt her, and she took that opportunity. Also, who else was going to hold Dhara accountable? This is the structure of joint families - you answer to your elders. It's not like Suman kicked Dhara out for no reason.
I don't think it's right that society asks that much of daughter in law. I agree that it's too much. I understand where you're coming from. However, that POV still doesn't give Dhara the right to physically abuse other family members. Her punishment (getting kicked out) fits her crime.
There are a lot of situations where daughter in laws are kicked out for no good reason, where it's not justified. This is why in reality, joint family systems are just not good. But in this show, they want to live like this, so this comes with the territory, for as long as Suman is alive. And then it'll be passed to Dhara.
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