HAPPY PEOPLE ARE GOOD & GOOD PEOPLE ARE HAPPY. This was the bedtime advice that has been passed on from generation after generation at our home. If we google "happy people", most articles will agree that happy people do the following:
- Manage their expectations
- They do not set unrealistic standards
- They do not take anything for granted-
- They are not materialistic
- They do not dwell and let go
- They enjoy little comforts
- Most of all they can adapt
The Point 5 here is what is the most important according to me to live a happy and good life. When you encompass a relationship with kindness, compassion and empathy and love and no room for revenge, hatred or fear, that is how you learn to let go.
This is the most difficult for any of us to do especially when the person before us tosses all kinds of negative feelings and traits at us. Others will even call us a doormat if you do that but let us remember that Mishti is not one.
She did try to explain, then called out Kuhu in her own dialect by yelling and showing her the mirror. Because she realizes Abir and her family are getting upset, she has given in. You should never stand up for a mistake and support the wrong, and she has never done that.
She has done all of the above 7 points plus much more - which was putting herself in physical pain on the back burner, by saving and helping the very person that has time and time again toppled her world. On a fictional level this sounds very ephemeral and altruistic. However, if we pay more attention to the world around us, there are some amongst us who do this day in and day out with a smile on their face, despite their pain and struggles and if you ever encounter anybody like that hold them tight and do not waste a single second letting them know how much they mean to you.
I dedicate this piece to my childhood friend Geetanjali who passed away due to leukemia at 18. Even those that were her closest friends never knew of her affliction and pain, until a month before she passed away. I still miss you Geets and not a day goes by when you are not in my thoughts.
She lived a full happy life, lived her dreams and courageously too, also helped so many around her and then left with a smile. The sorrow and the void that she left us with her passing, stays with a few of us even today and though a decade has passed we still talk about her.
Mishti is that soul. Not that I love Mishti more than Abir because they area single soul dwelling in two bodies, that connect over several lifetimes. The love between Mishti and Abir is real, rock-solid and can be felt sometimes more from Abir and at times more from Mishti and at present we feel it more from the latter. It will perhaps, change next week when we feel Abir’s love flow strong for Mishti. Mishti has to tolerate more because unlike before, Abir now has Kunal supporting him. BP and BM’s love for him is in full form now, but for Mishti the same comes with conditions and that is why Mishti feels alone despite Abir’s presence.
“Sometimes the most evolved souls take the most challenging paths”
I recommend Brian Weiss’s “Many Masters Many Lives”, to those that have not read it. Its about past life regression and souls connected over different lifetimes, planes and different times.
Words of others, cannot rob us of our inner peace unless and until we give them the power to do so and Mishti realizes that today when she lost the strength to argue with Abir. She just simply told him you didn’t believe me when I said Kuhu is hurt why would you believe about the magazine. Iam very tired I just want to end all this. You FORGIVE when you love someone.
In relationships especially that between a husband and wife those that keep a list of that which you did and that which I did, the plusses and minuses, are going to have a disaster on their hands at the end of the day. No winning or losing when it comes to true love because when one loses the other one does too. The pain that Abir carries within himself because he knows fully well that Mishti has taken a whole lot of effort by her sacrifices is going to gnaw at him next week. He will realize how much she does and still has to suffer is going to eat him alive.
Even amongst good happy couples, Law of Karma works. Not that they are right or wrong all the time. Abir hurt Mishti, despite being a good person and now not only her but he too has to suffer. If he knew:
- The heavy weight that she lifted off Kuhu’s foot
- The exact taunts that Meenu gave to her on and off before the break up and the full extent dirty games that she has played with her on a more meticulous level
- How Meenu destroyed the proposal that Mishti set up for him
- Doll house is just one incident but the other atrocities that Mishti has encountered over the years
- The taunting words of Kuhu like “tu bass hai, lost puppy, papa jaise, charity case etc.”
- The torture at the hands of Mehul
The final straw in telling her to keep quiet in her arguments with Kuhu …is going to hit him hard all the way to Timbuktu. Despite that, she came back apologized and patched up things with all of you but the pressure you have put her under is immense and together you have to repent for that.
Abir will understand now why he has truly lost his angry chorni. I think he should drop that title for her altogether. It’s so superficial now Abir. Even good souls sometimes transgress unknowingly or knowingly and they pay the price.
Iam reminded of an Ally Mc Beal episode “Angels and Blimps” where a young boy Eric who suffers from Leukemia wants to sue God. My first thought today morning was the same, momentarily for Abir and Mishti. Why oh why? When does this end? They should sue you Kanhaaji, because you give them nothing but pain.
Abir will suffer too and Mishti by association will again suffer, but the important thing is that amongst such couples the ending will be a happy one. Hence, good people are happy and happy people are good.
If you all notice, Abir is mostly addressing the sisters as Kuhu aur Mishti now; Kuhu always comes first. After the Janmashtami incident is revealed I would like for him to stand by Mishti totally and take Kuhu to task. Even today, the expression on the faces of the Maheshwari family annoyed me. It still is NOT OK because one of your daughters still suffers. You all act as if all is well with the world, even BM and BP?
Kuhu, had you been a little more attentive you would have noticed:
- How Mishti’s humm changed to meiney galti ki
- Your designer shoe got you into trouble today. Your “Kuhu and Kuhuness” can only sort problems of superficial beauty not of the brain - You brought out an extremely valid point by accident before you had one.
- You didn’t do much except fall down and move your foot when the log was lifted, so you are anything but independent and strong
(I could be a little humane, because you are hurt but Iam not Mishti and Iam not in the mood so sorry)
- Sorry is big Kunal she didn’t even thank Mishti for rectifying something for which she wasn’t responsible for in the first place - the damn cover (I would wait patiently, but she never waited for Mishti to recover during the holika dahan when Mishti fell down)
- Mishti saat chal ? Really, she has been literally doing it all her life supporting you and you are taking it all for granted
- We are all waiting for the day you make a big one and go down the drain with your mommy and Jasmeet.
- You don’t have to worry about Toofan or Aandhi …. there is one massive cyclone coming your way THAT IS IF THE WRITERS DON’T DECIDE TO LET YOU OFF THE HOOK AGAIN.
- No one today thanked Mishti other than the doctor - ironical much?
You rise and fall with the rising and falling of your thoughts Kuhu and today you and your birth family have sunk a new low.
Love is a positive, symbiotic, reciprocal flow and it’s so fluid, warm and consistent between Abir and Mishti that one is left in awe as to whether such a connection is really possible and leaves us yearning earnestly that it comes our way. But love alone is not enough, is it?
There is hope for us all and Mishbir portray beautifully in a strong way that “When there is no enemy within, the enemies outside cannot hurt you,” that is what I wrote before…
But, today, I reserve my opinion with a heavy heart, because like all of you I have to wait and see what tomorrow brings.
A little note to our dialog writers and production house – “JUSTICE DELAYED IS ALSO JUSTICE DENIED”
