A journey in opposite direction

I was watching a few old episodes which I missed.

The Nanavati mental Asylum scenes were really good and a lot more realistic, I suspect that the writer, who wrote them knows, what it is to live in a house of tier 2 cities in India, while the village scenes look like someone is writing about villages after watching films which are based on village life, however, I digress, so will stop. 😉

When Mukhi assures Aru about not trying to force physical intimacy, he says something very (obviously) mature and interesting. He says for most couples, the journey generally starts with friendship, then reaches to love and ends in marriage ("if all goes well that is, this is cynical me saying, of course :-D not pyare se Mukhi ji).

In their case, he says they need to take this journey in reverse direction. They got married first, fell in love later and now starting the friendship phase. And when they become so good friends that they understand each other so well that they do not need to tell what is on their minds or can share whatever they feel like without hesitation, she can wear those jhumakas and they can take the relationship forward.

In the way, their marriage happened and the rest of the things unfolded, the important phase of courtship (and this includes fights, misunderstandings along with blossoming attraction, growing understanding , for those who are uninitiated) was missing.

All of us are looking at them as a married couple (which they technically and practically are), but it is in a way their courtship phase. It is a phase of jealousy, trust issues, insecurities, love, understanding, attraction and fighting against it and so on. I hope our Forum wasis get what I am trying to say.

This is not a marriage yet (in spite of two different versions of rituals). It is still at the phase where they need to come to terms with the fact that it is a shared life and it brings a lot of changes with it.

Mukhi's insecurities are not misplaced. He (or any of us who has a child or a younger sister) will never search a groom like him (even if as good as he is), for Mishri and so he will forever feel it was a tricky situation which resulted in their being together (I felt his hesitation to accept his love was due to this fact)

Aru's worry about him trying to get closer may seem sudden (and weird as except for the first SR scene she did not worry about it so much), but earlier they were a man and wife just for the outside world and the attraction part was not there (at least not in explicit manner). After confession the living under one roof suddenly is not a temporary phase. It has become reality.

I agree that suddenly entire physical contact missing in last episode was a bit of a put off but I guess it was a case of one (or a few) poorly written episode. For all we know, it might be a dictate by channel based on expected viewer ship. ITV is too prude for such things.

And the way Aru does not trust Mukhi about physical intimacy, Mukhi does not trust her maturity to understand his insecurities. It takes a lot of patience and time spend together to get to know your spouse/lover and I am hoping the show gets enough of it to show it.

I am looking forward to this "Ulti Ganga and Rami's and Dharmi's of this world are always there and will be there. So bring them on.

Originally posted by: C0raline

I was watching a few old episodes which I missed.

The Nanavati mental Asylum scenes were really good and a lot more realistic, I suspect that the writer, who wrote them knows, what it is to live in a house of tier 2 cities in India, while the village scenes look like someone is writing about villages after watching films which are based on village life, however, I digress, so will stop. 😉

When Mukhi assures Aru about not trying to force physical intimacy, he says something very (obviously) mature and interesting. He says for most couples, the journey generally starts with friendship, then reaches to love and ends in marriage ("if all goes well that is, this is cynical me saying, of course :-D not pyare se Mukhi ji).

In their case, he says they need to take this journey in reverse direction. They got married first, fell in love later and now starting the friendship phase. And when they become so good friends that they understand each other so well that they do not need to tell what is on their minds or can share whatever they feel like without hesitation, she can wear those jhumakas and they can take the relationship forward.

In the way, their marriage happened and the rest of the things unfolded, the important phase of courtship (and this includes fights, misunderstandings along with blossoming attraction, growing understanding , for those who are uninitiated) was missing.

All of us are looking at them as a married couple (which they technically and practically are), but it is in a way their courtship phase. It is a phase of jealousy, trust issues, insecurities, love, understanding, attraction and fighting against it and so on. I hope our Forum wasis get what I am trying to say.

This is not a marriage yet (in spite of two different versions of rituals). It is still at the phase where they need to come to terms with the fact that it is a shared life and it brings a lot of changes with it.

Mukhi's insecurities are not misplaced. He (or any of us who has a child or a younger sister) will never search a groom like him (even if as good as he is), for Mishri and so he will forever feel it was a tricky situation which resulted in their being together (I felt his hesitation to accept his love was due to this fact)

Aru's worry about him trying to get closer may seem sudden (and weird as except for the first SR scene she did not worry about it so much), but earlier they were a man and wife just for the outside world and the attraction part was not there (at least not in explicit manner). After confession the living under one roof suddenly is not a temporary phase. It has become reality.

I agree that suddenly entire physical contact missing in last episode was a bit of a put off but I guess it was a case of one (or a few) poorly written episode. For all we know, it might be a dictate by channel based on expected viewer ship. ITV is too prude for such things.

And the way Aru does not trust Mukhi about physical intimacy, Mukhi does not trust her maturity to understand his insecurities. It takes a lot of patience and time spend together to get to know your spouse/lover and I am hoping the show gets enough of it to show it.

I am looking forward to this "Ulti Ganga and Rami's and Dharmi's of this world are always there and will be there. So bring them on.