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In my opinion, there are two forces that shape our lives - Fates or Destiny and our own Choices...
We have no control over Fate or Destiny. It will play as it is intend to play...
But we can control our choices. Those are our tool to shape the path of our life.
However, there's a catch. Choices are not free. The price of choice is responsibility.
When someone else makes choices on our behalf, they pay the price of responsibility. They are accountable for the result - whether that's kudos or blame. Just like Ishwari has to listen silently every accusation Neha throws at her.
But when we make choices, we have to take the kudos or blame ourselves. We can no longer blame others for the choices we made.
Today's episode was based on exactly this concept.
However neither Dev nor Ishwari nor Neha understand this concept.
When I was young, my mother had told me a story which she read somewhere.
An angel was looking down from heaven when he noticed that human beings are walking with one bag hanging in the front and the other hanging in their back. But no one is noticing those bags that they are carrying around.
The angel asked God: My lord, what's in those bags that they are carrying around?
God answered: When I created humans, I gave them two bags. One will have someone else's fault and the other will have their own fault in every choice of life. Human being wore them as per their nature. The one in the front is other people's fault which they can always see, judge and pass blame on. They hanged it in front so that they can access it easily...
The one on the back is their own fault which they never want to see. They hanged it in the back because, well, they never feel the need to access it.
Today Ranveer and Dev's conversation was a lesson in this particular aspect of human nature.
1. Dev accused Ranveer for having ego and not accepting whatever decision Neha made about their life.
He once accused Sona for having ego too for not accepting whatever decision Dev made about theirs.
2. Ranveer reminded Dev that Neha wanted the divorce. He tried to fix their relationship by calling him. But Neha took the decision to leave him even though she knew how it is before she married him.
Sona reminded Dev that he approved of her decision about Vicky. She tried to help his company by giving a logical suggestion. But he took the decision leaving her behind claiming Sona knew how it was with his mother before she married him.
3. Ranveer claimed that Dev never looked at Ranveer as anyone but Neha's husband.
Sona claimed that Ishwari never looked at Sona as anyone but Dev's wife.
4. Dev tried to give Ranveer the apartment and said that the "Dixits" will forget everything if he just moves into the apartment with Neha.
I wonder what he would have said if Ranveer returned the key to him and said that he will forget his ego, if Dev moves into the same apartment with Sona?
I guess Dev's speech will stop completely.
Moving on to Sona's effort to cheer up husband by scooty ride.
That girl is a gem of a person, by the way.
Sona asks about Dev's talk with Ranveer.
- Dev was upset that Ranveer was not willing to be, how shall I put it better, Sona, since Neha is obviously Dev.
- Dev complained to Sona that Ranveer did absolutely no sacrifice. All sacrifice were done by Neha. But now his precious sister will do no sacrifice. She needs her family.
I was wondering what sacrifices Dev made when it comes to his and Sona's relationship? So far all sacrifices were done by Sona. So does the same rule apply to Sona and from now on she won't have to sacrifice anything?
Both Dev and Ishwari claimed that they know Neha better. Sona, being the outsider like Ranveer should just stay out of their inner circle.
But may be had they not been so wrapped in their ego, they would have heard Neha's unspoken words like Sona did.
Dev is willing to be with Sona even if she hadn't bathed for 15 days. But not if she treats his family like her own and tries to help.
Neha was willing to marry Ranveer even if he took every decision on his own like Dev, but not if he treats his family and his wife like Dev.
Dev and Neha both want to call the shots even though they love the person they are with.
Sona and Ranveer just wanted to be with the person they love.
However, Ranveer is not willing to bend his self-respect for love, because after all it is important for a man. As a result his marriage is in divorce court.
And Sona is willing to forget hers and that's why her marriage is still working.
If Ranveer had behaved like Sona, his marriage would have survived.
Had Sona behaved like Ranveer, her marriage would also have been in divorce court.
It's not about gender anymore. It's about choices people make which neither Dixits - be it Dev, Ishwari or Neha, is willing to take responsibilities for and continue to turn blind eye to their own fault just like my little story on human nature...
Anupamaa
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