Posted:
Good question Swathi.
Many families have some dysfunctional traits. But here at the AN, all are dysfunctional and against one another.
I believe it is better to treat your family like your friends and your friends like they are your family.
Respect amongst a family is very important , especially in understanding and knowing each ones nature and adjusting with it.
As you said the Ashram people not related by blood get along better because they have a common need to be close and need each other in times of stress, while at the AN each one is selfish and wants what they want at the cost of the others happiness.
I do not agree that if you know and have seen your family member do things that are morally
wrong ,like attempting murder and consciously try to destroy relationships with open hatred that you need to be amongst them to solve that problem.
I had asked in my post if Viplav was wise to take Dhaani to AN.
And we have seen so far that it was a risky decision and does not seem like it will be over soon because NO ONE in A N wants to sit and talk and listen to find a common ground to communicate and reach a compromise to live together.
The Tripathi's do not treat each other with respect or even like each other and we see they still profess to love each other, which in my opinion is an oxymoron.
How can you treat your loved ones in the manner shown so far.
The way things are at AN creates more stress and more distance between them if the main problem is not solved with soon and you end up adding Salt to an already open wound.
A family that has open discussions about each others feelings without judgement and with understanding and compassion make a better family atmosphere that all enjoy being with one another rather than being apart.
I hope I was able to answer your question to your satisfaction. ??
CID
