Stop blaming Ovi now - Page 2

Originally posted by: chinyere

<font color="#000066" size="3">I am not a professional as yet still a student,but sometimes i failed to see the practicality and logics amongst people who are professionals in the writing and analytical views.I am not here to bash anyone but after reading , a person is tend to make some conclusions,as well as we write subjective to our thoughts and mental cognition on issues we perceive as being our experiences or how we will live those situations...</font>

<font color="#000066" size="3">I am still confused why would some one walk out of an emotional abusive marriage with their head held high when they themselves put themselves in that position?</font>

<font color="#000066" size="3">They chose to live like that ignoring all sense of self repsect and what is right and wrong.</font>

<font color="#000066" size="3">Further more how can a woman who is a professional with a career,coming from a rich background,as was claimed to be beautiful but yet had a mentality worse than an illiterate ignoramous person?irregardless of purvi accepting or not (that is not the point here)it is what ovi as a female,a career orineted individual , and the path she chose.</font>

<font color="#000066" size="3">She lost the most why? is it she who chose the wrong path to achieve her means?what was she suppose to get a pat on the back and said good job now your life will be blessed?</font>

<font color="#000066" size="3">I guess we can become professionals but we dont have to be mature or be around an intellengent level to make the right choices.This was clearly highlighted by Ovi she lacked the skill to be a critical analytical thinker if she had to suffer all that to now realise that arjun never loved her?</font>

<font color="#000066" size="3">as i said i am not here to bash anyone but just reading and trying to make sense of ovi's character which at times is so baseless because me beign a female will not stoop to such level to get someone i love or sell my self respect as such..I am sorry but be it a childhood frien or whomever we as individual must know what is going to work or not.Even f we engaged to someone and he doesnt love us what are we going to do delude ourselves that some day it will be different,if that day does not come what then?</font>

<font color="#000066" size="3">Blame everyone else for our pityful life???</font>

<font color="#000066" size="3">By the way this is my view and perception of the overall situation..we all think,analyse and critique differently.Besides at my university there are single moms ,unwed mothers who are trying to make a life for themself and baby ,but thereis no ovis.</font>

Originally posted by: archis_2013

I saw the episode online just now and all I can say is UNBELIEVABLE !

That Ovi slept with Arjun in the night and then realised in the morning that she always saw Purvi in Arjun's eyes and that their marriage was always a 'samjoda' ?

It means that either Ovi was immoral (and so is the shameless Arjun who wants to reconcile with Ovi by saying he has given off Pari , uhhh!) in sleeping with Arjun ( I assume that's what they did) knowing that fact Or Ovi was immature that she still felt the same about Arjun after the night thereby reinforcing that Ovi will never be at peace with Arjun, no matter what.

I thought I was of reasonably modern age but this takes the piece of cake!! Unless I am missing something big time but I would like to see how this act is defined and defended by the 'upholders of morality' and 'upholders of immorality' that I was amused to read elsewhere in the forum.

Originally posted by: archis_2013

I would have agreed to that statement if Ovi had just packed her bags, ignored Arjun, asked him to take a walk and stormed out. Or even had taken up a hockey bat and aimed at either his car or his head.

Not when she heard from Arjun that he had given away Pari, she decides to stay back. So it was not Arjun who is the problem but Pari is? She then dedices to spend the night with him when she has already decided to leave him. You cannot give her the benefit of doubt that she was undecided then. She mentions in the tape that she still decided to spend the last moments with him because she wanted to meaning it was pre-meditated.

If Purvi was ridiculed about giving Arjun away after the so called one-night stand that wasn't pre-meditated, what would you call Ovi's act on walking away from Arjun after she has made peace with herself that Arjun was not meant for her and after she has decided that she will not continue to share his life?

And she could not tell this to her husband in person whom she led on a song and dance (literally) that all is well. Atleast Purvi had the decency to face Arjun in the hilltop and later in party and asked him to move on without just disappearing from the scene.

What was not shown in yesterday's episode that reinforces my belief that Ovi is emotionally unstable if not calculating with regards to Arjun?

Ovi was honest and genuine in what she told Arjun on the tape and I will applaud her for that but her actions on the whole could no way be called honest or dignified.

On matters of heart, we either agree it is black and white or it is gray but we cannot justify the actions by expecting it is black and white for one and gray for the other.

Originally posted by: archis_2013

I would have agreed to that statement if Ovi had just packed her bags, ignored Arjun, asked him to take a walk and stormed out. Or even had taken up a hockey bat and aimed at either his car or his head.

Not when she heard from Arjun that he had given away Pari, she decides to stay back. So it was not Arjun who is the problem but Pari is? She then dedices to spend the night with him when she has already decided to leave him. You cannot give her the benefit of doubt that she was undecided then. She mentions in the tape that she still decided to spend the last moments with him because she wanted to meaning it was pre-meditated.

If Purvi was ridiculed about giving Arjun away after the so called one-night stand that wasn't pre-meditated, what would you call Ovi's act on walking away from Arjun after she has made peace with herself that Arjun was not meant for her and after she has decided that she will not continue to share his life?

And she could not tell this to her husband in person whom she led on a song and dance (literally) that all is well. Atleast Purvi had the decency to face Arjun in the hilltop and later in party and asked him to move on without just disappearing from the scene.

What was not shown in yesterday's episode that reinforces my belief that Ovi is emotionally unstable if not calculating with regards to Arjun?

Ovi was honest and genuine in what she told Arjun on the tape and I will applaud her for that but her actions on the whole could no way be called honest or dignified.

On matters of heart, we either agree it is black and white or it is gray but we cannot justify the actions by expecting it is black and white for one and gray for the other.

Originally posted by: soapwatcher1

Vasu, couldn't have said it better. I wrote almost the same thing on another post. Purvi spent the night with Arjun knowing he was her intended and believing she would be spending the rest of her life with him. Ovi spent the night with Arjun yesterday knowing she was going to leave him. The only difference - Ovi has the mantle of respectability because the man is her husband, in the other case, the man was just a fiance.

Also, Purvi carrying the baby was questioned, she was thought to have carried the baby so that she could have some kind of hold on Arjun later, she was berated for not telling Arjun the truth about the baby. I wonder what the reaction will be when Ovi does not tell Arjun about the baby, the reason she will carry the baby has already been explained, she wants his nishaana, something of his that will love her, only her. The same explanation when it was given in regards to Purvi, that she was leaving town with no one and no support, not financial even, and that perhaps she kept the baby as a mark of her love for Arjun, she was scoffed at as immoral for keeping her jeeju's baby though the baby was conceived before the man became her jeeju.

Also, Purvi has not yet "betrayed" her love for Arjun, she has not shared a physical relationship with Onir, on the other hand Arjun seems to have no problem in exercising his rights time and time again with his wife.

Originally posted by: ilovedhanjanird

Purvi and Ovi are not to be compared
At least I can't compare them
Purvi was ridiculed for not waiting a night BEFORE her marriage
Ovi is not ridiculed because she is married to Arjun
I may live in a western country but I still think pre marital sex is not acceptable no matter what the situation is
If Ovi was dating Arjun and left after sleeping with him I would've understood
The other thing is its not like Ovi had sex with Arjun for the first time
They lived together for a year
They were married
They did get intimate
So really
Ovi doesn't lecture about her sanskaars
Neither does she want to do anything for anyone's bhalai
She left for herself and Arjun
There was a hidden message behind her recording
She wanted Arjun to run after her ONLY when he loved her and only her
Pari was never the problem for Ovi
Purvi is
Which wife would accept a baby from her husbands past ?
And that too after her Stillborn has been deliberately replaced with it ?
Ovi is still being blamed
What she did was okay
It's not like she was having sex with Arjun for the first time
Neither was she forcing something else on him
So really don't compare Purvi with Ovi
Ovi is zillion times better than Mahaan Purvi
It's an insult to my favorite character