Never Reformed, Ovi Deshmukh - Page 2

I guess some things never change.

Originally posted by: jenelle05

I guess some things never change.

as they say "a leapord can never change its spots"

Ovi was and still is a self centred manipulative little...

she only cares about herself. does she even know the meaning of true love?

like i said on another thread, her added extra sweetness just might give me diabetes.😆

Manav and the others need to see her for what she really is.

I don't blame Arjun for thraeting her the way he does. Had i been in his place i would've reminded her everyday that he only loves Purvi. Arjun needs to tell her this everyday so that the truth will finally sink in. She got what she wanted but at what price? she is in a love less marriage. She got Arjun but but she can't have him. he belongs heart, body, soul and mind to Purvi.

I want an Arvi reunion and that to at the soonest but i don't think their rishta would be as strong as before. Purvi needs to prove herself and her love... Why should Arjun do all the work???????????

Agree on @bold

Exactly, Yes, You got what he is trying to do...Living the life that Purvi subjected him to..but on his terms...That is what he was telling Purvi the other day when he goes to see her and says "ab jo bhi karoongaa, main karoongaa..Face it, Purvi"

Jyothi my dear,

I should not be doing this, but it bothers me to see you fret yourself to flinders like this (and I can always tell myself I will make up for this to my poor wrist by posting nothing at all over the weekend!)

First of all, I loved your post, which is so full of suppressed rage and frustration that it would make anyone reading it feel at one with you. But I am not 60+ for nothing. So let us take a cooler look at things, and see where we get.

Let us forget about Ovi for now, for it hardly matters what she is like, or how she behaves or pretends - none of that is going to change anything. Let us just take Archana's response to Ovi today, and your critique of that @red, especially the part in bold.

You are not being fair to Archana. She did not ask Purvi to do this idiotic thing, or Arjun to go along with it in an even stupider manner. She was aghast when she heard of it, and she slapped Purvi and berated her and cried all over her about it.

But now it is a fait accompli. Be sure of one thing - no matter how much she loves Purvi, Archana would NEVER think of Arjun divorcing Ovi and marrying Purvi, nor would she condone it. Neither would DK. I can understand this stand perfectly. A marriage is not a game of musical chairs, and the bond of marriage is not a Kleenex tissue, to be thrown away at one's pleasure. Neither Arjun nor Purvi was a minor, nor was he forced into this marriage at gunpoint, while as for her, she engineered it, with NO concern for his sufferings, for reasons of her own. Both of them have made their respective beds and they now have to lie in them quietly, till (or if) the CVs see fit to bring them together again through some more contortions.

Now, proceeding from this, what else would (or should) Archana want now except that the situation should settle down all round ?

She would naturally want Purvi -who after all ditched Arjun out of her own free will - to move on in her life, and stop mooning about him. If Purvi did not want to be miserable (and to make us miserable as well) she should have thought of that before dumping Arjun and forcing him to marry Ovi. Now it is too late to change anything as far as Purvi and Arjun are concerned.

If you think that Archana should prove her love for Purvi by praying for the collapse of the Arjun-Ovi marriage, then I am sorry but I do not agree with you at all, and neither would most people my age. What is the point of all three of them being miserable for keeps? And how would Arjun and Ovi being stuck in a hostile marriage help our sanskaari Purvi? In fact she should feel vindicated and morally uplifted if they do settle down eventually!

So, from Archana's point of view - which is that of a mother who loves both her daughters, one of whom has, out of sheer folly, gifted away her lover to the other - the best way forward now would be for Purvi to move on in her life, and for Arjun to become reconciled to his marriage with Ovi. which is a given that cannot be wished away now. What she advises Ovi to do fits into this framework. So there is no justification for blaming her on this count at least.

In general, Jyothi, there is no point in our fretting because things in PR are not going our way. I have said before, and I repeat - there is nothing good to be expected for the present, and even if the Arjun-Purvi duo do get married eventually, it will be a washout for me at least. The endless flashbacks of the Arjun-Purvi scenes are irritating and soulless for me now; all their meaning has been leached out.

My advice to you,for what it is worth, would be to watch PR if you like, but not to react to the goings on, and above all not to work yourself up in this fashion. I hope your BP is on the low side, but please try and avoid such heart-burning.

My wrist is protesting loudly, so I must stop now. See what all I do for your sake!😉

Shyamala

Originally posted by: jdronamraju

Yes, I still persist on calling her Ovi Deshmukh for that is what she will always be to me. Call it self-denial, living in a la-la land or whatever. For those, who persist in seeing 'goodness' in Ovi, auto-reaction to being a Armaan Kid, I request you to watch her today. She is the epitome of self-centeredness and ingratitude. For, she has the gall to ask Archana, if they can ask Purvi to go away. Isn't it enough that, she has asked Purvi to give up her love, her mother, which that silly girl did, with her own stupidness. As we all know, she had played her best card and won, she did, for the fools they are, Purvi and Arjun, fell for it hook, line and sinker, each for a different reason.

Now, are we supposed to 'understand' her that she is trying to save her marriage and make it work? that, she has every right to do so? Is that what we will be told? For all her sacharine sweetness, Ovi is and will always be the manipulative, connving girl that she has always been. Atleast, before she used to be straightforward in it. We knew what we were getting. Now, it is all sugar coated with her Aai's love. Isnt it another day before, that she asked Manav to bring Archana home, so that Arjun will accept her. How soon we forget facts or rather ignore them. With a sugar coated sweetness to her Aai, she asks for another sacrifice from Purvi again, hoping that either Archana will either convince Purvi or agree with her on it. Just how devious her mind works, amazes me. We were told in the past couple of days, how Ovi has turned and will turn a new leaf as she got her Aai back. And all her behavior is because she didn't have her Aai's love. Atleast, she has not proved some of US wrong... Thank goodness for that.. She has and will always be what she has been portraying herself to be so far. Having bagged Arjun, she can just afford to tone down the crazy talk, that is all. But, inner most, she has always been the same.

Although quite a few have been upset that Archana did not take Purvi with her to the D-house, I was Ok with it, for the reason, that it might not be a wise decision for either. Archana also deserved whatever happiness she got and should be able to spend time with HER family without complications.

But, today, she disappointed me all over again. Yes, she did cut down Ovi about her plan for Purvi. But, what does she say after? You have been friends, try to win his love on this friendship? He is a good boy..Did I really hear her say that? Does she know what that means to Purvi? Has she even given a thought to Purvi when she said it? So, she has blindly accepted Purvi's sacrifice in the name of kasam,because it suits her? Is that what we should be believing..

So, all said and done, OVi is what she has always been. Never Reformed suddenly.. Thank God, for small mercies... !!

i dont agree ovi acted cheap,she behaved normaly one wld have done

Hi JD (I hope its ok to call you JD):

I totally love your post!! 😊You've hit the nail on the head regarding Ovi Deshmukh's true character- a real conniving, mannipulative, selfish, self-centred brat who'll never reform!!

The girl is like a leech- she just takes & takes & takes until she sucks the very life out of you- what a horrible person!!😡 And the nerve of her expecting her marriage to work!! A house built on sand can never last, likewise a marriage built on blackmailing, cheating, deception can never last!! I can't wait to see her 'dolly world' come tumbling down!!

As far as I'm concerned, Ovi Dehmukh is the next Savita in PR and I have no sympathy or regards for such a malevolent person!!

Originally posted by: sashashyam

Jyothi my dear,

I should not be doing this, but it bothers me to see you fret yourself to flinders like this (and I can always tell myself I will make up for this to my poor wrist by posting nothing at all over the weekend!)

First of all, I loved your post, which is so full of suppressed rage and frustration that it would make anyone readinfeel at one with you. But I am not 60+ for nothing. So let us take a cooler look at things, and see where we get.

Let us forget about Ovi for now, for it hardly matters what she is like, or how she behaves or pretends - none of that is going to change anything. Let us just take Archana's response to Ovi today, and your critique of that @red, especially the part in bold.

You are not being fair to Archana. She did not ask Purvi to do this idiotic thing, or Arjun to go along with it in an even stupider manner. She was aghast when she heard of it, and she slapped Purvi and berated her and cried all over her about it.

But now it is a fait accompli. Be sure of one thing - no matter how much she loves Purvi, Archana would NEVER think of Arjun divorcing Ovi and marrying Purvi, nor would she condone it. Neither would DK. I can understand this stand perfectly. A marriage is not a game of musical chairs, and the bond of marriage is not a Kleenex tissue, to be thrown away at one's pleasure. Neither Arjun nor Purvi was a minor, nor was he forced into this marriage at gunpoint, while as for her, she engineered it, with NO concern for his sufferings, for reasons of her own. Both of them have made their respective beds and they now have to lie in them quietly, till (or if) the CVs see fit to bring them together again through some more contortions.

Now, proceeding from this, what else would (or should) Archana want now except that the situation should settle down all round ?

She would naturally want Purvi -who after all ditched Arjun out of her own free will - to move on in her life, and stop mooning about him. If Purvi did not want to be miserable (and to make us miserable as well) she should have thought of that before dumping Arjun and forcing him to marry Ovi. Now it is too late to change anything as far as Purvi and Arjun are concerned.

If you think that Archana should prove her love for Purvi by praying for the collapse of the Arjun-Ovi marriage, then I am sorry but I do not agree with you at all, and neither would most people my age. What is the point of all three of them being miserable for keeps? And how would Arjun and Ovi being stuck in a hostile marriage help our sanskaari Purvi? In fact she should feel vindicated and morally uplifted if they do settle down eventually!

So, from Archana's point of view - which is that of a mother who loves both her daughters, one of whom has, out of sheer folly, gifted away her lover to the other - the best way forward now would be for Purvi to move on in her life, and for Arjun to become reconciled to his marriage with Ovi. which is a given that cannot be wished away now. What she advises Ovi to do fits into this framework. So there is no justification for blaming her on this count at least.

In general, Jyothi, there is no point in our fretting because things in PR are not going our way. I have said before, and I repeat - there is nothing good to be expected for the present, and even if the Arjun-Purvi duo do get married eventually, it will be a washout for me at least. The endless flashbacks of the Arjun-Purvi scenes are irritating and soulless for me now; all their meaning has been leached out.

My advice to you,for what it is worth, would be to watch PR if you like, but not to react to the goings on, and above all not to work yourself up in this fashion. I hope your BP is on the low side, but please try and avoid such heart-burning.

My wrist is protesting loudly, so I must stop now. See what all I do for your sake!😉

Shyamala

we like it or dont like it IF PUVI CAN B PURVI DESHMUK,evn though manav wasnt there wen archu adopted purvi nor did he knew she existed until he came here

Thanks Shyamala. For being the voice of reason to all of us again. Yes, I am frustrated with the way the story is going, but, I still feel about Ovi the same way as what I had felt before all this happened. It is just that since the wedding has happened, there is a lot of Ovi-ness in the forum, claiming her 'goodness'. This post was intended more for that.
As far as Archana is concerned, I did not intend to say that she should wish for Ovi's marriage to collapse. She will not as a mother. But, I have also not seen a lot of thought to Purvi from Archana on her misery either. She hasnt questioned Ovi on why she did what she did. I would expect that atleast from her. You might say what is the point? But, Ovi needs to know what she did is wrong.. Ofcourse, it is not all her fault. But, so far, no one has told her to face what she did was wrong. Everyone is going around behaving like nothing wrong has happened...In this regard, I expected more from Archana. Other than a mild reprimand, she doesnt say anything to Ovi. I would have expected Archana to give some harsh truths to ovi today, even lovingly. In that sense, I think Archana does not want to rock the boat there too much. she is walking on egg shells there. I guess in her situation,she thinks that is better. But, for me, not so.

What is the point of all three of them being miserable for keeps?
As far as above stmt is concerned, aren't they miserable now? I know you meant this in a different context. But, for now, what did Ovi achieve from bagging Arjun. I know it is probably too early to say this, and it all depends on how CV's will show it, but as of now, who is happy from this deal? is Ovi happy? She doesn't seem to be. It has hardly been a couple of days and she is in tears all over the place.

Now, despite all this, please do not stress your wrist, and take care...Dont worry about your gals much..😊.. we will survive it all with you at the helm, as always...😊..Take care again..

Originally posted by: sashashyam

Jyothi my dear,

I should not be doing this, but it bothers me to see you fret yourself to flinders like this (and I can always tell myself I will make up for this to my poor wrist by posting nothing at all over the weekend!)

First of all, I loved your post, which is so full of suppressed rage and frustration that it would make anyone reading it feel at one with you. But I am not 60+ for nothing. So let us take a cooler look at things, and see where we get.

Let us forget about Ovi for now, for it hardly matters what she is like, or how she behaves or pretends - none of that is going to change anything. Let us just take Archana's response to Ovi today, and your critique of that @red, especially the part in bold.

You are not being fair to Archana. She did not ask Purvi to do this idiotic thing, or Arjun to go along with it in an even stupider manner. She was aghast when she heard of it, and she slapped Purvi and berated her and cried all over her about it.

But now it is a fait accompli. Be sure of one thing - no matter how much she loves Purvi, Archana would NEVER think of Arjun divorcing Ovi and marrying Purvi, nor would she condone it. Neither would DK. I can understand this stand perfectly. A marriage is not a game of musical chairs, and the bond of marriage is not a Kleenex tissue, to be thrown away at one's pleasure. Neither Arjun nor Purvi was a minor, nor was he forced into this marriage at gunpoint, while as for her, she engineered it, with NO concern for his sufferings, for reasons of her own. Both of them have made their respective beds and they now have to lie in them quietly, till (or if) the CVs see fit to bring them together again through some more contortions.

Now, proceeding from this, what else would (or should) Archana want now except that the situation should settle down all round ?

She would naturally want Purvi -who after all ditched Arjun out of her own free will - to move on in her life, and stop mooning about him. If Purvi did not want to be miserable (and to make us miserable as well) she should have thought of that before dumping Arjun and forcing him to marry Ovi. Now it is too late to change anything as far as Purvi and Arjun are concerned.

If you think that Archana should prove her love for Purvi by praying for the collapse of the Arjun-Ovi marriage, then I am sorry but I do not agree with you at all, and neither would most people my age. What is the point of all three of them being miserable for keeps? And how would Arjun and Ovi being stuck in a hostile marriage help our sanskaari Purvi? In fact she should feel vindicated and morally uplifted if they do settle down eventually!

So, from Archana's point of view - which is that of a mother who loves both her daughters, one of whom has, out of sheer folly, gifted away her lover to the other - the best way forward now would be for Purvi to move on in her life, and for Arjun to become reconciled to his marriage with Ovi. which is a given that cannot be wished away now. What she advises Ovi to do fits into this framework. So there is no justification for blaming her on this count at least.

In general, Jyothi, there is no point in our fretting because things in PR are not going our way. I have said before, and I repeat - there is nothing good to be expected for the present, and even if the Arjun-Purvi duo do get married eventually, it will be a washout for me at least. The endless flashbacks of the Arjun-Purvi scenes are irritating and soulless for me now; all their meaning has been leached out.

My advice to you,for what it is worth, would be to watch PR if you like, but not to react to the goings on, and above all not to work yourself up in this fashion. I hope your BP is on the low side, but please try and avoid such heart-burning.

My wrist is protesting loudly, so I must stop now. See what all I do for your sake!😉

Shyamala

Originally posted by: sherma

we like it or dont like it IF PUVI CAN B PURVI DESHMUK,evn though manav wasnt there wen archu adopted purvi nor did he knew she existed until he came here

so ovi IS LEGALLY AND OFFICIALLY WEDDED WIFE OF ARJUN ie MRS ARJUN KILOSKAR

and nthing can shange tat

I DID say that for me, she is Ovi Deshmukh, and I have the freedom to say and think what I feel..

Originally posted by: jdronamraju

I DID say that for me, she is Ovi Deshmukh, and I have the freedom to say and think what I feel..

yup u surely have,who is denying tat😊