Originally posted by: Jaishankar
Naava separation is not the solution to the problem..He needs to find a permanent solution..For this first he needs to hear out Savita in and out .She said I did it all for you..IT looks so senseless when heard but there are some hidden words behind it which needs to be deciphered.
I am not supporting Savita here..I dont want see now again Archu trying to do a patch up between Manav and Savita..Once again old cycle repeating again..This time it has to be Manav and Manav alone.He needs to sort himself and his mom.
No matter what Naava no child will be able to leave his mom/parents alone in this old age.Its a simple fact.God equally will not forgive that no matter how evil schemes or what not parents have done to you.
Manav needs to find a permanent fix to this issue..IF Savita and Archu staying in same house is a reason of destruction keep them in separate house.My point is be angry over Savita and even more on that useless idiot Damo but never leave them alone in the road.
IT should not be Archu doing the patch up job ,this time Manav should make sure he keeps Archu out of this (Archu will try to interfere ,should shut her down and ask her to take care of the kids and handle this himself) and he himself should take this responsibility of this.
Manav has share of mistakes that he cannot wash away all on Savita.Better sense that and arrive at a practical solution rather than some emotional one which later once again comes and hunts you back big time.Keeping Archu out of this (knowing how she will try to beg for forgiveness and insist on staying with Savita) is the biggest help he can do to himself.Learning from mistakes is something Arman never do and I am hoping this time they do.
Jai, when i said Manav must separate from Savita i didn't mean abandon her or Damo for life. Yes we are responsible to honor and care for our parents no matter what they have done, but that doesn't mean allowing them to abuse us. Both Manav and Archana have done this. Allowed the parent to abuse them just because they wanted to honor the parent. You can see where it led.
Manav will have to physically separate from her for a while because some things have to happen. in my opinion
1) Savita has to realize her behavior has destroyed many lives, including her own. She MUST be able to do this before any progress can be made. She needs to repent and ask forgiveness.
2) Manav has not been strong enough to date to deflect all her negative controlling behavior. He needs time to heal away from her and be with his wife. Rebuilding their lives. It cannot be done under the same roof right now.
3) Archu needs to love and support her husband in his grief over betrayal from his mother. She needs to help him and not get involved with Savita. She also needs time to spend with her children Ovi, Teju and Sachin. And all of them have some healing time.
4) Savita can be taken care of by Vandu, and others. Sachin doesn't hate her, he just feels terrible he did what he did. He took his own responsibility in the matter. 👏 I'm sure the girls will also be there even though what savita did to them was unspeakable.
5) Manav will of course support them financially and in time, when he is strong enough, when the marriage is strong enough, when healing has taken some foothold, and when Savita understands what she has done and is sorry for it, then they can move towards getting back together as a family..
my feelings on it Jai. Allowing abuse just is plain wrong so until the abuser stops, the victims must remove themselves.
edit: of course, i doubt very much they will write the story this way..😆 😆 but i can hope. I think they all belong in India btw..especially SAvita because she has some restitution to do. Canada has only a big house for them. Here are the people.
Edited by naava - 13 years ago