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Ume Salma Kakal

@sunflower52

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Posted: 13 years ago

#41

Originally posted by: -ASTHA-

I dnt understand the point of this post. I find it funny that people still find archana is responsible 4 ovi's behaviour. Univarsal fact ovi is nt archana's responsibility. Its manav and savita who r responsible 4 ovi's drama.
If archana is such a bad mother than how purvi is such a nice gal with morals. Blame archana if u find purvi is on wrong path. Why to blame her for those who were never part of her life.

And i seriously dnt understand the debate of own v/s adopted. Wht if purvi is adopted? Does it mean after finding her biological children archana should treat her like step child? And y to give less importance to that adopted gal who is always doing aayi jaap nd trying hard to stop the divorce and more importance to those biological children who find it shame to call her aayi and praying for their parents seperation as soon as possible.

😆 I also do not see the point of this post.

The one who are responsible for Ovi's behaviour are Savita and Manav. For spoiling her rotten and let her think that world revolves around her. Also that she can have anything she wants.

Manav have accepted that he can not give Arjun to his precious daughter as Arjun will never love her.

Savita has still not accepted this fact.

Archana adopted Purvi, so for Archana the responsibility of giving Purvi in a good family is double. As then the world will point out the fact that just because Purvi is adopted Archana has been partial towards her, if she had relented to Ovi's unreasonable demands.

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sushkita10

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Posted: 13 years ago

#42

i m surprised to see archana used to b bashed by 1group very rudely but now appreciated by them😆😆👏bc she supporting purvi

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koolsadhu1000

@koolsadhu1000

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Posted: 13 years ago

#43

So true . Purvi and Arjun are adults and what Archana decides is of no consequence in the legal and practical sense .

But did we see that during the challenge ? We saw that Archana ' forbidded ' Purvi from meeting Arjun as if she was a sixteen year old after throwing a silly challenge in front of another adult ...Arjun .😆😆 The adult even listened and accepted it . Why? He did not need to do so . Still he did . This was because he knew that he would never win the 'adult' girl whom he loved in the true sense if he did not please her mother . To top it the situation was messy . He had just broken off with her sister and clearly this challenge was to stop his entry in the family . So he took up the challenge and proved her wrong and buttered her up at the same time .

Now what did the other 'adult ' do ? The girl who was 18 I mean . Purvi . We saw Archana telling her to go in the house etc as if she is a 16 yr old and is sent to her room . This 'adult' listened . Her priorities were clear ...legal age , adulthood did not matter . Aai was Aai and her word was law .

She could have told her mother ...I love you very much but I am going to marry Arjun . Please understand . But this 'adult ' didn't .

I stand corrected . I watch this serial only when my friends urge to and I was speaking figuratively . The exact words were not he is right for Purvi but that he loves Purvi not Ovi and you make her understand ? Something to that effect ? Forgive me my remembrance is shaky nowdays when I watch something lightly .

Now I ask this ...why is Archana even bothering about what Arjun feels ? Did she bother about that family's feelings when she made a case against his Dad's company many years ago ? Did she bother about his feelings and what his Dad would feel when she threw the challenge ? Purvi the 'adult' loved him even then , right ?

When two daughters of hers are fighting over one man why is she thinking from the man's point of view ? She should only think as a mother and what is best for her family.

That is ...not to take any sides and stay out . To make this clear to both the daughters ...the adopted one and the biological one . I advise you both to look for other guys as this rishta is gonna break up a family that is already in a bad shape .

If the two girls still wanted only Arjun as a husband as ' adults' she would have been in the clear . She could have said I advised them but what to do ...they are adults after all . That is what most parents do .

Ovi could not have blamed her then .

Anyways the wedding will happen after some months why not now ? This will help Ovi to deal with the truth ...is that what is her stand ?😆😆 Well she has sucked at playing Doctor Doctor till now in this serial hasn't she ? She tried to be a psychiatrist and cure her mother in law of depression but ended up almost burning her ...she played psychiatrist and misdiagnosed Varsha as cured and lost her son Soham now she is playing psychiatrist with Ovi and saying the sooner she faces the truth the better ...and it leads to an attempt to do suicide by Ovi .

I am not at all saying she should give in to Ovi's suggestions of a barter ...or Ovi's demands as CVs put it .

I am not at all saying she should give preferential treatment to a biological daughter over an adopted daughter . But I am saying that she should consider all her children and her full family . Her decisions impact an entire family .

I am also saying the wedding and engagement could easily have been done after Ovi left for Canada . Purvi herself suggested it . It was valid . Whether it is right or wrong is another issue ...it is painful . There is no two ways about that fact .

Whether Ovi gives her the befitting respect or whether Ovi is spoilt is another issue . A mother's love does not depend on whether the child loves her back or no . Or on the fact whether the child respects her equally . A mother worries . Till the end she worries. She is saddened by the disrespect but she never stops loving or worrying . That is what sherma is talking about and I agree with her .

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Ume Salma Kakal

@sunflower52

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Posted: 13 years ago

#44

Archana's worrying about Ovi wont help.

What Ovi needed was tough love and that is what she got.

I think Ovi has finally understood now that she can not have Arjun, as he does not love her.

Right now Archana showing she is worried about Ovi will affect Purvi, which she does not want.

Also that she wants to do what is right for Purvi whom she adopted.

Archana has given up on having them back, so she is distancing herself from her kids and Manav.

About the card thing, the only reason she brought that card was because to show Ovi that she has not accepted her request or demand.

A mother who can not show that love to her daughter's because she is afraid to be mocked.

Just imagine your kids hating you without knowing what their grand mother did so they can not have their mother's in their lives.

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m_masti

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Posted: 13 years ago

#45

agree with your POV sharma, archana can never treat her children same that is what sanskar she got from sulo...

no mom will do this, she could have just postponed the wedding, she doesn't give up any chance to hurt Ovi, she had really good opportunity to shower her love on biological kids and get close to them, the whole hatred they have towards archana is because of abandonment...

I clearly remember Purvi took archu's help in deciding weather she loves arjun or not by saying ll the story as her friend's story, and at the same time archu didn't share Ovi-Arjun relation with Purvi, i remember they have shown archu as very happy for Ovi's wedding and she will see it...all the stuff is just drama...and archu made purvi to not to think about ovi by keeping silly challenge

for me most annoying thing is the way she emotionally blackmails manav, and this weakling manav can do anything for archana, and the biological kids might become orphans with the abandonment...

Edited by m_masti - 13 years ago

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koolsadhu1000

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Posted: 13 years ago

#46

Tough Love can be very disastrous at times ...it always has an element of risk attached to it .

What Archana did was not Tough Love but rubbing it in . If Teju had not seen it Ovi would have died today . Archana herself did a suicide attempt so she should know better .

Archana has lost a child by miscarrying . She lost Soham because she insisted Varsha was cured . Today she almost lost another biological child because of her so called ' Tough Love.' That makes 3 children in all and I m surprised Manav has not snapped .

She could have easily avoided this rubbing in but she haddd to copy her mother and prove to the world that she was doing right by her adopted daughter .

Nobody is askng here for any sacrifices but only saying she could have done Purvi's wedding later , there was no rush and I hope someone points this out to her .

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sherma

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Posted: 13 years ago

#47

Originally posted by: koolsadhu1000
Tough Love can be very disastrous at times ...it always has an element of risk attached to it .

What Archana did was not Tough Love but rubbing it in . If Teju had not seen it Ovi would have died today . Archana herself did a suicide attempt so she should know better .

Archana has lost a child by miscarrying . She lost Soham because she insisted Varsha was cured . Today she almost lost another biological child because of her so called ' Tough Love.' That makes 3 children in all and I m surprised Manav has not snapped .

She could have easily avoided this rubbing in but she haddd to copy her mother and prove to the world that she was doing right by her adopted daughter .

Nobody is askng here for any sacrifices but only saying she could have done Purvi's wedding later , there was no rush and I hope someone points this out to her .

i totally agree with u.

but i have realise no1 will ever try to make archu realise her mistake,and peopel who do are evil,today manav shld have bashed archu,but he dint,

but watever manav said was so true and right,i luvd him today except him not bashing archu,it was archu luck she wasnt at deshmuk house,otherwise she wld die wid guilt

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Dabulls23

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Posted: 13 years ago

#48

Sherma fantastic topic and excellent posts and responses by you..

Kools dear You made 2 fantastic posts and pointed out everything I wanted to...I dont have time right now but will post later..

I agree with those who said "Archana is the worst mother one can possibly have" not because she went against OVI...But she took one side over the other...

She is playing god with many people's lives due to her selfrighteous thinking and behavior..

Purvi has more brain and sensitivity compared to Archana and Sulo individually or combined..

I have alot more to say and will post again or update it later..

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m_masti

@m_masti

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Posted: 13 years ago

#49

today archu's act was more shameless than yesterday's, day by day this aurat is reaching the heights of lows...

after doing such big drama yesterday, she didn't even bother to findout how Ovi is, but she called to manav to do emotional blackmail regarding purvi's kanyadaan...

what type of mother she is, her daughter tried to commit suicide, and this stupid mom knows the pain of suicide as she too committed it long time back...

she could have asked anyone else to do kanyadaan...but so stupid right, how much pain this aurat wants to give to her god jaisa husband...

go archu go and tell sulo that ovi tried to commit suicide, you were very eager to tell ovi's deal to sulo now what happened to you...

manav was really good today, the way he handled archu is awesome, atleast he realized she is making him feel guilty by asking such things...please archu feel guilt of your decisions without blaming sachu/savita, no-one will get these many opportunities to correct things...

while listening to that phone convo...i remembered something, arman did kanyadaan for varsh-satish...at that time itself they were sure they will not get chance to do any other kanyaadaan...how archu forgot all those...how she could ask manav to participate in kanayadaan rasam...she really needs to visit psychologist...

in a way Ovi's suicide attempt made manav little strong to answer archu, otherwise this weakling husband would have said yes to 'vus aurat'

what a high drama a widow women(sulo) and almost divorcee(archu) planning for adopted kid's(purvi) wedding when the biological kid is almost near to death...

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Dabulls23

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Posted: 13 years ago

#50

From the beginning Archana should have stayed out & forbade both her daughters Ovi-Purvi saying Arjun is not good for either sisters...Sisters being the operative word...It will damage our family relations...I dont want to take anyone side and it is better both of you dont get involved with a person who has in a way two timed you both...Falling in love is not wrong but falling in love with other sister and the way the whole thing handled by Arjun & DK is wrong..

As Kools said all are adult parties..Archana is no one to put challange in front of Arjun...Archana after saying No to both daughters what ever Purvi-Arjun do is their business as long as she does not support or get involved...She would have been off the hook and her credibility would be in tact...Even the wedding could have happened after the divorce was final and Deshmukhs moved back to Canada...

Arjun should have never accepted this stupid challange IMHO...He is an adult old enough to get married w/o anyone's approval and same for Purvi she is 18 and adult...The minute he did he became a child letting some woman control his destiny...Mind u this woman is not the lady he is marrying...She is the future MIL...Why are these adults acting like kids?

This has nothing to do with her answer to Ovi...Ovi needs to face the fact-reality and move on..I dont get Archana's tough love BS...It was not tough love...It was mere cruelty and a cop out..I myself believe in tough love but b4 one administers tough love one must exhaust all other options where she has tried NONE...Is she an expert in psychology or even in love??? SHe is a darn failure when it comes to her own love and marriage..

What I dont understand about this woman Archana the mother is she gave Sachin a 25+ yrs old mature adult's demand more importance than her own marriage or what her husband told her after coming to India...That he still loved her and wanted to take her back to canada to complete their family...He never even mentioned his wish to marry shravni LOL...So what made her think and belive Sachin's demand to divorce Manav as he can marry his aai Shravni..I dont get her logic here...

Mother like Archana The worst mother of all exist in reality too...I have seen mothers as such taking sides which benefits them...Using or butting up one child against the other for their own foolish ideas so they never have to be responsible for the real matter...Personal gain..

She has handled the whole Ovi-Arjun-Purvi situation incorrectly and insensitively...She is shoving Arjun-Purvi relationship down Manav, Ovi and deshmukhs throat every chance she gets..What was the need for her to throw the lame challange to Arjun? I had questioned her motives than..She was in support of it all along but it was just to make Deshmukhs think she was against Arjun all along...What was the reason for her to go make an annoucement that she approves of Arjun-Purvi relationship as he is a good person and good for Purvi...What was Sulo's reasoning to go invite Deshmukhs for Arujun-Purvi's engagement? What is Archana's justification for delivering darn wedding card to Deshmukhs and what is her reasoning in calling Manav and asking him to come for short time regarding Kanyadan as Purvi considers him as Baba...

Have we seen Manav expecting or asking Archana to do any of these things for Ovi-Teju or Sachu? he is dealing with this inevitable divorce happening at the end of 6 months...What gives Archana right to hurt and put a guilt trip on Manav? Does not she see what type of emotional stress she is putting on Ovi, manav and the family?

It was right of Manav to tell Archana what he did but wish he had been quite stern while saying so...Archana needs to be stopped rudely or needs to be told "Stop your guilt trip and manipulations.. You adopted your daughter w/o my knowledge now handle her and her events yourself...Do not include me or my family as the guy your daughter is marrying has broken my daughter's heart and engagement...I cant support this though I wish your daughter best" ...End of convo ...Its not like Archana never got the opportunity of giving "Kanyadan" She has done that for Varsha already...let Vinod-Manju do the honors..

Archana's behavior and acting was so hypocritical and fake when Manav shared what happened with Ovi the night before..Woman did not care to hurt her own daughter with wedding card which drove Ovi to do unthinkable and now mother is crying buckets to show she cares and wants to come @ deshmukhs for what???? so she can rub more salt on Ovi-Manav's wounds???

Archana is toxant and she has brought toxic relationship to manav and his family...She is a cancer which needs to be chopped off and rid off with chemo-radiation (Divorce) where it can never come back..Manav also needs to face the fact that no matter how much he may love Archana she is not good for a wife or a mother...Learn to be celibate rest of your life man if u dont want to lose your daughters..

He needs to remember due to archana's carelsessness they lost their first unborn child due to miscarriage...Than they lost Soham to psycho sister due to her being psychiatrist thinking Varsha was cured..

Now she is being the same cockamime psychiatrist in assessing Ovi needs tough love more than TLC or understanding mom..

How many kids is Manav willing to lose to the so called love of his life WIFI Archana??????? He could have lost his 3rd child due to this woman...This is why Savita had protected his family from this woman for past 18 yrs...Her evil act has been blessings in disguise for Manav, Ovi, Teju and Sachu..

What is the rush with the wedding?? Its not Purvi is too old and must get married...For crying out loud Purvi is only18 and dude she is marrying Arjun is 21...These two are not old enoughmaturity wise for marriage...They still have atleast another 8-10 yrs to go b4 they be ready for a mature marriage..

Archana will not share what Ovi did with SUlo...She shares all other things but will not share ovi cutting herself ...Even if she did she would make it about herself than abt Ovi...Sulo would not feel an oz of sympathy or concern for Ovi...

Sulo even does not give a damn abt Archana either...Did u all not hear for past two days SUlo has been talking abt what will happen to her once Purvi is married...WOman think abt your daughter Archana how she will feel once her daughter is married...Your one leg is in the kabar but Archana still has 20-30 yrs to live w/o the daughter who she raised for past 18 yrs..Sulo is so not mature grand mother...she is acting like the whole world should revove around her...No wonder Archana has learn the same trait...

Both of them are not at all worried about Ovi-Teju..

My 2 cents on the whole thing abt what type of mother Archana is...She is someone I have seen in real life so no surprise at all for me..😳

Edited by Dabulls23 - 13 years ago