Originally posted by: koolsadhu1000
My two cents .
She is not a good mother .
Nobody who loves her children accepts a damad who will surely divide the family even further .
WAIT !! Who is Archana to accept or reject Arjun as a damad? Did Poorvi take Archu's permission before falling in love with Arjun? and why would she? Poorvi and Arjun are both adults. what can Archu do if they marry in a court? So it was not at all Archu's decision to choose a damaad who will surely divide the family even further. rather Archu was a mother who had to approve the Arjun-Poorvi relation, because she found both are in love with each other. Repeating again, Poorvi didn't ask for permission before falling in love with arjun. So it was not Archu who chose Arjun, which resulted lot of pain for Ovi.
That mother will refuse to take sides ...own marraige shaky or not and opt to stay out with strong disapproval if her daughters are not in the mood to listen .
Here the mother took a side . She sided with Purvi ...thats the bottomline . Her argument was ...he is right for Purvi not for Ovi . It was not he is not right for my daughters period . They are quarelling so much now they will fight all their lives ...things will never be the same again .
Archana was saying that. She insisted Arjun was not right for any of her daughters as he cheated both of them .She never argued as per your statement "he is right for Purvi not for Ov". Archana had to change her mind only when she realised Arjun-Poorvi have a "genuine two sided affair". As I said, even if Archu denied, they could have married. She never sided with Poorvi.
Arjun's marraige to Purvi has an impact on so many lives . Even Manav's relation with him is affected . Manav's relation with DK is affected . A permanent wedge is put between Archana and Manav ...this after Manav showed the goodness of willing to take her back to Canada although none of the issues were resolved . There is no possibility of camaraderie between the children . Ever .
Nobody who loves her children let them go uncontested when they are just babies while they fight husband for random people in court .
Nobody emulates her mother in being nasty and purposefully gives the invitation to the wedding herself to rub it in knowing fully well what reception her mother got and anyways nobody from this family will come as it is a sore wound with them .
This is exactly the way she behaved at the twins first birthday . Manav had come around inspite of the court case and she had one a step further and insisted that Varsha was cured and handed over Soham to her .
Same way not satisfied with just giving permission to Arjun and Purvi's wedding she went a step further and gave the invitation herself when she could very well avoid it .
Even Purvi said her wedding should be postponed a bit but Archana insisted . It is the right time she said . Why are you worrying . Actually Purvi was right . Her worry was very valid ...that her parents life would be affected . But Archana insisted it was ok .
Archana said this is the right time, because things won't change after some time. Rather sooner Arjun gets married to someone else, good for Ovi, as she will realize that Arjun is no more her's.
Neither was Manav a toy to be sacrificed for Sachu's hopes nor is Arjun a toy to be sacrificed by Purvi for her Aai . The men should take strong offense at this ...for being used like sacrificial goats .
True. Archana should not sacrifice manav only to make sachin happy. (that too for Shravani at 50+ will marry Manav and regain her prestige.🤣 has anyone even consulted shravani that she is till interested to marry Manav? and this Archna is again all set to sacrificeManav for Shravani???). similarly Archana should not force Poorvi to quit Arjun so that Ovi can have him. Arjun is not a commodity. He is a human being and is free to love or marry whom he likes. same is Poorvi.
Neither did we see Archana relating to Ovi's pain nor wanting her marrige badly . She was content living on memories and hurting her daughter whom she abandoned when she was a baby .
What can Archana do for Ovi? Should she find a candidate for her marriage? Will Ovi accept anyone else right now? She needs to realise herself that she can't win someone's love forcively. The samnewala should also fall in love with her. Archana can't anything about it more because Ovi doesn't consider her as her mother. why doesn't the saint savita come into the picture right now and do some wonders and make Ovi move ahead with life ?
One does not become a good mother because she looks beautiful or weeps a lot . Archana looks beautiful and weeps a lot but behaves damn oddly as a mother .
Very true. One need not be beautiful or a rudaali to be good mother.
Anupamaa
