META chai party: women in soapland - Page 7

@FQ - thanks, I've been away from the message board world for a while now and had forgotten that little trick lol I was actually on the iPad and for some reason the message box froze and wouldn't let me copy, not once but twice. Go figure.

@Cari, what's this about SRK and Ranbir putting up a display at an awards show? I have to admit, my parents are always watching these awards shows but I normally don't have the patience.

@SD I know, I thought that BALH was kind of interesting for a while and then I just gave up on it. Kya Hua is by her as well, I'm almost positive. It also had the shameless out of place promotion of her latest movie with the song Dil Garden Ho Gaya (or whatever that song is). This show started earlier this year and while I didn't (and still really don't) watch all that regularly my mom gives me updates. It starts off with a good enough premise. Woman, married for 12 years, finds out that husband is having an affair with an old sweetheart he was with before he was married. Husband leaves wife, 3 kids are also tossed around between the two in the process. So, okay, we're going to get a story of a woman who finds herself and discovers herself as a woman after her marriage has fallen apart. Where do you think this story has lead us? We now have said woman, who was supposed to be on a journey of self discovery, strength, and independence, getting set to marry her boss and friend because he loves her and her father in law, who has been more of a father to her than her own father, while sick in the hospital made her promise she would do so. I'm all for the remarriage plot but it could be done in a way that is more in keeping with current times. This was the perfect set up for a great progressive storyline, breaking out of the stereotypes, but what started out with so much promise falling back into the same tired trap.

I was going to try and avoid specific names but I might as well throw this one in as well. Punar Vivah was the ZEE show I was talking about. Even my mom, who knows nothing about this board or this topic of discussion was sitting with me while having tea talking about how unfavourable the writing of female characters is in this day and age on some of these soaps, she was specifically using Punar Vivah as an example. The most recent plot line had her husband Yash raging mad at her for some reason she couldn't figure out, cue weeks of her crying and putting herself down, taking blame for things she did not know. On top of that her mother in law said a number of terrible things and pretty much blamed her for everything bad in the world. We finally come to realize the reason he's so angry with her is because they slept together and he felt like he'd betrayed the memory of dead wife. Of course Aarti (the wife) was to blame for his moment of weakness cause she cast some magic spell on him and left him no choice but to pick her up and carry her to their room where they went on to engage in ... well you know. Okay, end rant on this ridiculous show.

I don't watch Pavitra Rishta, I did try. During the summer because all my shows were on hiatus and nothing was on TV I turned to the Indian channels and kind of tested out most of the shows.

I haven't actually seen any of those movies. I'll definitely have to check them out. For all I know they're sitting downstairs and I just didn't know. I never know which movies are safe anymore. I did go out to watch Oh My God with my parents tonight and I must say it was so much better than I had thought.

Originally posted by: shridevigaddam

We don't ask much. We ask for good chemistry, we ask for sense, empowerment, knowledge, dignity, grit. Is it sucg a big deal ? Didn't we same things in our Mom?

Exactly!! Not a tall order at all!

@madhubala.fan I'm terribly sorry to hear what you have gone through. I know many people that have suffered through depression (and are still taking it day to day in some cases) due to things happening in the family. Unfortunately I know that your story is not an isolated incident, I've seen others, that I know personally, in a similar situation. I hope things turn out for the best for you.

Originally posted by: parheezGM

Sorry guys didn't read everything so don't know if this has already been mentioned or not...

@SG... I want to send u a virtual hug. I've been here so many months and u r the first person who is asking my name. 😛 Thanks a lot for caring enough. ⭐️ I don't mind being called PGM. Let's continue with that for sometime now shall we?

I wish that sony would start with Mahi vey and rishta.com again ... I really enjoyed them. Sigh!! Even kismat starring viraf patel had some amazing acting to show case. That serial was based on Jeffrey archers Kane and Abel. And I don't say this very often, but the Indian adaptation was quite impressive 👏

I don't know how many young girls are reading this thread. I mean those girls who go all faint when a hero pushes a girl against a wall and grabs her shoulder so tight that she winced... Welll I wanted to say that those men in real life are called or termed as ABUSIVE!! 😡

I know ppl who take serials seriously and they think this boy pushing girl is the sign of his deep profound love and all that kind of crap... Well, let me say this darlings this is not a normal behavior for any guy. No boy should push around a girl he so called proclaims to love in such a shoddy manner.

Please don't get inspired by it. By all means enjoy it because this way you are re living your mills and boon days but don't pray and want for a husband or boyfriend like that.

This is for all the armaan and arnav lovers, for those who thought that they were the epitome of romance... Puhleez!!

In my last post I wrote how advocating suicide bugs me, well, young girls who mistaken abuse for romance comes to a close second!! 😡 and I have personally seen this happen. How girls would orchestrate such situations and expect their boyfriends to react the way armaan or arnav would!!

Originally posted by: PreetD

@madhubala.fan I'm terribly sorry to hear what you have gone through. I know many people that have suffered through depression (and are still taking it day to day in some cases) due to things happening in the family. Unfortunately I know that your story is not an isolated incident, I've seen others, that I know personally, in a similar situation. I hope things turn out for the best for you.

Originally posted by: madhubala.fan

thank you for your kind words. what dsnt kill u makes u stronger is certainly true in my case. thats why i have the courage to challenge so many stereotypes.

thanks once again.

Originally posted by: shridevigaddam

I hear you Madhubala Fan. Same reason why I left DABH

FQ,

Your question to PGM about Sony Shows. Sony Channel always wanted to be different from STAR and ZEE in its content. That's why their content is one of the most progressive on Indian Soap Arena.

This channel along with Colors is where I feel that their executives go by a Rulebook based on the Org' s VISION.

Sony even today, keeps some shows like CID, Adalat in its portfolio. It is the same reason why of all EKTA heroines, Gauri of Kutumb was the one lead with whom we all can relate. I still love her character. Loveable without going deep into FANDOM, FEMINISM, TRADITIONS etc etc. She is a character who evolves herself with time well-within her acceptable and irritable flaws. She makes it believe that her husband Pratham is not a prop, but her support and likewise for Pratham, Gauri makes it all meaningful. Now that is not a regressive soap. It had the content to please the youngsters, middle-aged.

I feel Sony's Vision has a noble attitude towards Art unlike Star or Zee. They are the cheapest sort, trading class without any sophistication or knowledge of what ART means.

However, sad it is that both Sony and Colors are being forced to follow-numbers driven business economics.