META Pyromaniac Padmini v Roaring Radha!! - Page 10

Originally posted by: bhoomi.s

I found the point that Padmini continues to perform all the rituals of a married woman simply because that's what she's been taught quite valid. How many times do we actually analyze our actions? We just do things because that's what 'everybody does' or 'has always been done'. I understand that and I'm guilty of that too. My question, however, was a tad bit different. If Padmini escaped from an abusive marriage and has been scarred for life, then why does she choose to remind herself of that horrible time? I would think that anyone finally escaping a nightmarish existence would either choose to obliterate it from their memories or take a very public stand against it and work to eradicate that situation altogether. I just don't understand the sort of equation Padmini has with her past...

Originally posted by: applenpeaches

It did create unfortunate situations in her daughter life. For obvious reasons she couldnt name Madhu after Ballu. But by giving Madhu Malik's name, she ensured that Madhu's childhood was free of taunts. Had the unfortunate situation happened in Madhu's childhood days it would have created a lasting impression on her. Since it happened later in Madhu's life, once Madhu could understand her mother and her situation and love Malik, she was better able to cope with the situation emotionally and mentally.

Just a random comment.. This thread is getting interesting now...

@sridevi.. still have to read you big big posts.. Too deep and beyond my league.. Have to think a bit before responding to that..

Originally posted by: bhoomi.s

Thanks! 😃

If she really is thinking on the lines of point 2, my respect for her just went up a notch. I hope, from the bottom of my heart, that that's it... Unfortunately, I have the bad feeling it might be on the lines of point 1. Allow me to say that Indian attitudes to marriage are THE WORST in the world!! Ugh.

Originally posted by: bhoomi.s

I don't think it has affected either Madhu or Trishna adversely. She's been laudably honest with them from the very beginning; they know the whole story and understand and support their mother completely. No issues there. I'm just talking about the situation with Mukund's mother and with RK. Outsiders are going to perceive the girls and the family in a certain way because of the surname, and given that Padmini is not the sort to disregard what people think of her, I'm just saying she should've thought of it from an outsider's perspective.

What can I say except that she wasnt so far thinking when she did what she did. She made the best choice she could make under the circumstances..

Originally posted by: shridevigaddam

The discussion was about mothers, so from the outset I have been limiting myself to the mother role and how the motherhood influenced the children. And each time this discussion was straying on going to Padmini's individuality, I was refraining myself.

Originally posted by: shridevigaddam

Bhoomi,

Don't worry. This is fiction and soap. Obviously the reason for Padmini sticking to rituals or marriage is because Madhu needs to be able to argue with her mother one day, as to why she did not forget Ballu, when she will be forced to leave RK and at that time she won't know how to explain her love 😆

In reality, men and women are quite smart at embracing reality.

Anyways, I have a question.

Does Padmini call herself Padmini Choudhary ? or Simple Padmini ?

Has Shamsher Malik adopted Madhubala as his daughter or not ? Or is like the school documents and all etc just got stamped with his name ?

I mean I don't think you can make a child your kid at random. Various questions pop up in daily course of life for which the parents, children have to be prepared to answer and confront as necessary. Life is not that easy as shown in 22 year leap of Madhubala.

Look how RK tries to take advantage of the loopholes present in Chowdhary-Malik story. Its almost like Chowdhary and Maliks were living in Garden of Eden and suddenly Satan RK came from somewhere and has started popping up all questions to which they are totally unprepared for. Honestly this is too far-fetched for me and I see it as dramatic element.

The creatives want us to see RK hurting Padmini through implication of abandonment or adultery, but to me one rant of Padmini at RK's words would have been doodh ka doodh and Paani ka Paani. And yet she wants to cry. Its just a drama choosing to stay quiet one time and rebel at other time. So far only underlying patterns of the dramatic elements are keeping me happy. Once they lose the focus, I will also lose interest.

Originally posted by: applenpeaches

I think I already did that in one of my earlier posts on Pads and Mads.. Did nobody read that? My philosophical thoughts and constructive inputs, in this area, is unfortunately limited...