Tia's Thread - The Worth of Time!!! EDITED - Page 6

Originally posted by: Kavidhruv

Today's episode was good. I am glad I didn't miss it. Today for a moment there when sona & dev worked together for comforting their daughter we got a glimpse of what could have been. And I am super happy that Asha got a glimpse of what happens when you hide something from a straight talking no nonsense and truthful person. She knows her husband the best she should have guessed what might happen. I was wondering how bejoy is going to react about ronitas mom?
I get super angry when people question other people's parenting style. To each his own. But today when dev asked sona to admit that she was a bad mother because she couldn't take four days leave I felt like slapping him. But I absolutely loved the way sona reacted. She gave a measured answer. Now coming to the point of parenting or taking care or bringing up a child no matter what you are a single parent or a family unit of both parents it takes a village to bring up a child. I am a single parent of a 5 year old and my brother and sister in law are parents to two kids. But all three of us are working for we have to put the bread and butter for these same kids. Both me and my sister in law depend on each other and our families to take care of our kids. I have left my very sick kid at the hospital and gone to work did I feel guilty yes is did. But that doesn't make me a bad mother. I left him in the care of my mother who brought me up. I had no other options. In the same way my sister in law and my brother in law have left their kids too in our care when they had to go out of station but the kids had exams.
What I am trying to say is that when a normal family unit depends on a extended family to take care and bring up a kid why can't a single mother like sona not do that? And who the hell is dev to judge his own mother used to leave his kid sisters in the hand of his young sister. At least sona depends on adults. In another country ishwari would have been separated from her kids on charges of irresponsible parenting.
Sorry for the long rant. But living in India as a single parent I get this criticism a lot. As in how I manage and how I expect to give my child a normal life?
I want to tell all those people that hey I want to bring up my child in a happy home than a house where there is continuous fighting and bickering. I want him to grow up as happy human. And yes I take all the help that I can get without any shame or justification.

Originally posted by: gaurimisha

I'm betting on DevD being Khatri-Ish son..

DevD's rowdy nature is bcoz he inherited it from Khatri.

Even the anger and selfishness.

Ok, so here is my take on the episode. I will share my views taking one character at a time.

Dev - I can understand his concerns for his daughter and him trying to confront Sona. I won't try justify him right or wrong here. After what he saw outside, his reaction was natural. But the words he used were not. His dialogue of one time "Tum kabhi maa hi nahi ban sakti" has changed to "Tum ek achhi maa nahi bann sakti". Where time has proved the first statement as false, the second statement has been rendered useless by Sona's befitting reply.

Sona - There is no doubt about you being a good mother, but you cannot ignore your family's contribution in this achievement of yours. Now that you are in an asylum, you know well that there is no one here on whom you can rely on for taking care of Soha. Dev, on whom you could rely is no more an option due to his limitations. Why can't you put all your zaroori kaam at rest for a few days. With Jatin, you can talk over the phone, he will not die if he does not see your face for a couple of days. And I cannot tolerate you poking your nose in Khatri affairs and pulling Jatin along. Don't forget that this is no longer your sasuraal and you are here just for the sake of Soha. If you see anything fishy, inform Dev and forget. Rest is none of your business.

Bijoy - Everyone including himself knows that he overreacts. Sometimes anger can worsen situations. Had he at least contacted Sona before barging into the Dixit house, matters would not be complicated. Thank heavens Ish and Dev were not present, else there would have been a big tamasha. My advice: Mr. Bose, please don't listen to anyone, but think twice before you act.

Elena - I still don't understand what she expects from her saasuma and hubby. I remember the dialogue: "Kuttey! Kaminey! Bhagwan ke liye mujhe chhod de!".

Asha - She speaks a lot, but her body language never supports her attempts. Bijoy is not the kind of a person who will listen to philosophical theories. So try to be more practical.

I kind of liked Khatri's return. We have got enough hints of this mystery of the past. I remember Ishwari fearing Dev's hatred if he comes to know of the truth. I will hope a logical conclusion of this track rather than a plot hanging in the air.

Originally posted by: gaurimisha

@Kavi

Thanks for sharing. Kudos to you for looking after your kid in he best possible way you can.👏

As a working mother, at times even I felt sad when my kid would want some more time from me. I try my level best to balance it out by wfh whenever I can. As time goes by, kids learn to adapt. My son now happily bids me goodbye when I go to office. I see him smiling and feel so content.

Agree with you completely. Each to his/her own style of parenting bcoz not every kid is the same nor is the parent. So, it depends and varies from person to person.

I dont believe in good / bad mother or father. These are very perspective terms. Sometimes how hard you try, your kid will get into bad company and learn cuss words...does that make anyone's parenting bad or a bad mother/father?

Father is a father. Good or bad we need to accept him. How we behave with him solely depends on the kind of bond both share. Its a mutual give-take kind of relationship. Nothing good or bad about it. As the show continuously preaches. Good father. Bad father. Good mother. Bad mother. DevD may be a bad father for Bijoy but for Soha he is the BEST. So, how do we say he is good or bad? Same applies for Sona.

Parenting is not something to go by books/rules/notions. Not even experience helps at certain times. Its all about how you connect with your kid and at what level.

Originally posted by: hanishank

Kavi...that great👏

thanks for sharing the info

and my big salute to u to stand up on ur feet and leading ur life ur way with pride and for ur kid happy and comfortable life

u inspired me today👍🏼

Originally posted by: hanishank

i do not think so ...not silly like this 😆

what abt the backbone of this show ...maa beta ka rishta ❓