No one has a perfect marriage because there are no perfect marriage. As long as the marriage you are in is perfect for you, that's all you need.
And that was the problem with Dev and Sonakshi.
Dev wanted a woman who would live exclusively for him but also will live with his family and blend with the wallpaper so that his mother's insecurities does not get triggered and he has to pick sides. What he wanted was mutually exclusive in a joint family situation. That would have worked in a nuclear family setting where husband and wife live separately from both parents.
Sonakshi wanted a husband who will be equal partner in everything, who will take decisions together with her, plan future together and share a life with her. Considering Dev's tendency to lie to patch up temporary situation and taking decisions and expecting his wife to "understand", it was again mutually exclusive situation.
They both never talked about their expectations with their life partners and expected legal bind like marriage will fix everything because it will take a socially approved rope and bind them together.
That's why Sonakshi was disappointed when the sensitive and caring lover Dev turned into an inconsiderate and insensitive husband Dev who kept on demanding understanding and support without providing any of those in return and Dev was disappointed when that bind was not strong enough to keep Sonakshi with him despite him letting her down over and over again.
Again, this same marriage would have been perfect for someone who is fine being at the bottom of priority list and are okay their husband taking every single decision. This marriage would also be fine for someone who wants an independent wife who will be equal partner for life in every single sense. But it was not perfect for these two incompatible people.
About Bijoy and Asha coming to their daughter's house without calling, if I recall both Ishwari and Radha dropped in their home following their sons and their wives respectively without calling first. So I am not sure what is the difference in this case.
After marriage, if in-laws home is a girl's home, why can't her parents drop in? Considering what their daughter was going through, they are bound to be worried. However, that is no excuse for anyone to insult them.
Sonakshi did not push Ishwari even accidentally. Dev pushed Sonakshi deliberately and she fell on Ishwari. As a result, he threw out Sonakshi from his house.
He slapped Bijoy because he swung his arm in Bijoy's direction, not in his mother's direction. No one held his hand and made him turn backwards forcefully.
These two are completely two different situation. So the fact that Sonakshi would be angry is not surprising at all.
We don't want a custody battle either. However if it comes to that, Sonakshi will win hands down on Dev's reputation alone. However I think Dev realised that he can't separate Soha from Sona and win Soha's love. So I doubt he will go that way. However what Ishwari does is anyone's guess.
If Dev can't be hurtful to his mother, he can't be hurtful to Sonakshi either for the same reason. At least not if he claims that he loves her. And if he can, then he never loved Sonakshi. Because when you love someone, you can't hurt them. Just like Dev could not hurt his mother regardless how much she hurt him. At least he could have been aloof with his mother like the Dev we saw earlier. But this smiley, Mummy loving Dev, despite knowing that she was the reason he lost 6 years of his daughter's life is far removed from tear apart Sonakshi for keeping his daughter away Dev. There's no doubt in my mind that he does not love Sonakshi. Regardless what CVs show later, it will only seem fake to me.
In which case, I don't know why they have to get back together. They might still care for each other. But they certainly don't love each other anymore.
Had Dev showed even slightest feelings for Sonakshi, pain for her struggle, concern for her well being after finding out about Soha, I'd say your plan would be lovely to watch. But all he now cares about is Soha. So he should just concentrate on being a father. As it is, he can only focus on one relationship at a time. And Soha deserves a father more than Sonakshi needs or wants him.
Originally posted by: ashraana
can someone tell me who in this world has the perfect marriage? dev and sona seperated because of misunderstandings not abuse or infidelity...
yes ishwari interferred tremendously in their lives...to the point sona lost her identity trying to please ishwari and dev did not help in the matter as well but in marriage there are alot of comprimise and disagreements but is all how you approach the problem...
there are some who believe sona was mentally tortured in the mad house but she never took a stand for herself...
dev wanted sona the woman his friend not the sona who wanted to be the perfect daughter in law...dev was not truthful to sona and hid the most important part of her life in the name of love or selfishness because he could not let her go...
i like dev and sona equally and they both had very outstanding flaws which made their characters real because neither was perfect hence the reason i love the show...but for me i still feel their issues can be resolve because it was misunderstandings that lead to the seperation...
the reason i still want them back together because when you truly love someone then you fight till the end to save that love...
they both accidentally slapped and pushed eachothers parents but rage and ego kicked in and they decided to part ways...
i know alot will disagree but Bijoy and Asha had no right going to the dixits house without Sona and Dev presence...call first...
i still feel their problems are not enough to seperate either parent from a child and i dont want a custody battle...
we are all begging for dev to have it out with his mother but i think even that is wrong at the end of the day no matter what his mother did to his marriage she is still his mother...and yes parents to really stupid things in the name of love for their children but does that give us the right to hate or punish them...
just like a parent forgives a child the child forgives the parent...
ishawari has bad controlling ways and maybe she cant change but she can try...
Bijoy i have loved from the start and i like the way he is protective of his children every father should be the same but in his over protectiveness he sometimes acts irrational but somewhere i feel as much as he dont like dev he will not let soha be deprived of her father...the bose will give baby bose the right to choose...
we think 6yr old children are kid but sometimes their thoughts are like adults...
my daughter found out about divorce at 5yrs from her best friend in school and came home stating that she never wanted to be seperated from either parent because her friend was not happy...so we may think soha is to young to understand what is happening but that may not be so...
soha case is different because she never lived with her father but that doesnt mean she cant understand ...
but my real wish is for dev to be the stay home husband and pape while sona is the working mother...
i dont mean for him to give up his business but make these two ladies his priority...then this may be totally different from indian serial...
Edited by tia.o - 8 years ago
