Approaching neighbours was creepy - Page 10

Originally posted by: Nja91

Instead of bashing characters, i choose to recognize their good points too. Everyone has flaws. Sai maybe rude sometimes but shes also caring. She has enough good qualities at present that are very much qualities of a good doctor. If you have not been able to see that, and only want to cry hoarse about everyone's problems and flaws thats fine. Tbh, i do find the tone of your post pretty rude so i will not engage with you but since you quoted my post i have responded this one time but i shall not carry on any "conversation". You are welcome to your opinions just like everyone else in the forum. I've also already made my point. Peace out.

As far as u consider my reply rude - I have already stated this prior, sugarcoating isn't something I am good at, coming from an army family - we are taught to be on point on any subject (in Hindi - seedhe teere pe nishaan daalo), don't twist the subjects or take shortcuts.

Just because a person is caring at times, doesn't hide their character flaws.

Here the topic was about bashing Sai, so response was regarding bashing characters, I can quote your earlier comments - if that somehow helps. You can't expect a reply admiring characters qualities when the discussion was regarding bashing characters or taking sides.

You're entitled to your opinion, I had to respond to you - as you made an earlier comment on how can members be biased with blanket statement, period.

Have a good day

Originally posted by: Hari73

You are comparing 2 different things. One being trained IPS officer behaves most dumb way. Other One just 1st year, not trained professional. Also we shd see, when she retaliates. She retaliates when something goes wrong. It's from her father that she cannot stand any sort of wrong happening. We shd not forget, though kaku treats her worst way, still she behaves best possible way with her.

Now she has been thrown out. After she leaves, CN ppl will definitely makes false statement against her why she is not staying there. Do you think, they will say truth to the public? And Mr.spectactor husband will give teary look. Other than that can he do anything. I felt good, that she told world what is happening with her. CN deserves this.

well, I didn't defend Virat nor did I defend Sai. Both are at fault here.

On a honest note, Trained Officers can be dumb too, similarly there are doctors who are unfit to be in their profession. Lets not sugarcoat this fact 😆

My comment was - as far as what was shown in the series so far, Sai wouldn't make a good doctor. I'll stick to it. In future, if her character graph changes - my opinion may do accordingly = in case it needs to be readdressed again 😊

For me Sai is like a coconut, harsh on the outside & sweet on the inside.

When Sai is leaving CN, how does it matter for her - what others think ? She did all of this drama, as she thought - she won't be returning rite ? As if she had plans to return to CN, she wouldn't have taken this step. Over here, she not only maligned Chavans but also maligned herself in the process, she will be looked upon pity - lets not override this basic fact on how our society is, how much ever we may claim - we are forward thinking.

CN people can still poison neighbors minds, Kaku has a PhD in that. Only thing that gathered out of the revelation is .. CN's family tree is no longer a mystery to neighbors 🤣

On a side note... few things to ponder....

Now just imagine a character like Sai in a real life, as a non-family member how will you view her ?

You go to a mall, you see a kid misbehaving with elders, doesn't matter - if the other person is right or wrong, what would your first thoughts be ?

What a manner-less kid he is, doesn't know how to speak to elders.

People not only blame the other person for their behvaiour but also her upbringing. Personally, I feel Kamal Joshi gave her too much choot (as she lost her mom at an younger age), that she behaves rudely with others. In most of the families, elders do not tolerate speaking rudely to strangers or elders (she spoke rudely to Virat even in presence of Kamal Joshi in Gadchiroli - Virat can be considered either a stranger or elder, if you take his professional status compared to KJ). In our family, in any one does that they will be met with a thappad.

I recall a dialogue regarding it in the Gadhchirole track = where he says similar words to Virat & not to take her too seriously, apologizes on her behalf & she's still childish.

Originally posted by: Hari73

May b she will approach legal help as well in coming episodes. I think pulkit himself can take legal help as well. But I didn't find wrong in disclosing to public. Sometimes it is required.

We're discussing about the present scenario not the hypothetical ones, of what one may or may not do in future 😊

Originally posted by: basherz

well, I didn't defend Virat nor did I defend Sai. Both are at fault here.

On a honest note, Trained Officers can be dumb too, similarly there are doctors who are unfit to be in their profession. Lets not sugarcoat this fact 😆

My comment was - as far as what was shown in the series so far, Sai wouldn't make a good doctor. I'll stick to it. In future, if her character graph changes - my opinion may do accordingly = in case it needs to be readdressed again 😊

For me Sai is like a coconut, harsh on the outside & sweet on the inside.

When Sai is leaving CN, how does it matter for her - what others think ? She did all of this drama, as she thought - she won't be returning rite ? As if she had plans to return to CN, she wouldn't have taken this step. Over here, she not only maligned Chavans but also maligned herself in the process, she will be looked upon pity - lets not override this basic fact on how our society is, how much ever we may claim - we are forward thinking.

World is small you see, it's better you keep yourself clean. God knows someone might come up with character certificate. N I how did she maligned herself?

CN people can still poison neighbors minds, Kaku has a PhD in that. Only thing that gathered out of the revelation is .. CN's family tree is no longer a mystery to neighbors 🤣

Sai knows their qualification, that's why in advance she cleared herself😆

On a side note... few things to ponder....

Now just imagine a character like Sai in a real life, as a non-family member how will you view her ?

You go to a mall, you see a kid misbehaving with elders, doesn't matter - if the other person is right or wrong, what would your first thoughts be ?

What a manner-less kid he is, doesn't know how to speak to elders.

People not only blame the other person for their behvaiour but also her upbringing. Personally, I feel Kamal Joshi gave her too much choot (as she lost her mom at an younger age), that she behaves rudely with others. In most of the families, elders do not tolerate speaking rudely to strangers or elders (she spoke rudely to Virat even in presence of Kamal Joshi in Gadchiroli - Virat can be considered either a stranger or elder, if you take his professional status compared to KJ). In our family, in any one does that they will be met with a thappad.

I recall a dialogue regarding it in the Gadhchirole track = where he says similar words to Virat & not to take her too seriously, apologizes on her behalf & she's still childish.

Here you are giving wrong reference, she is not bad mouthing them. I see her like a small child crying alone, so I feel it's society duty atleast hear her problem, instead bcom inhuman n move on..

And if her father had not given her good up bringing, she wouldn't hv taken stand for herself n secondly she would hv been bitching like paki for her security. Dont forget she always respected elders, though they humiliated her day n night.

If she had gone chup chap, don't u think chavans would hv lived happily. I dont think other than ashwini, anyone would even want to think abt her. Now she took away their false pride. Atleast in future, ppl won't b in wrong impression about chavans. I am happy abt this action.

And we know, Mr. Spectator husband will go n beg Sai to return after coming to know the truth. Then Mia biwi raazi he tho hum kya karenge kazi🤣

Originally posted by: Hari73

May b she will approach legal help as well in coming episodes. I think pulkit himself can take legal help as well. But I didn't find wrong in disclosing to public. Sometimes it is required.

Really u think pulkit can take legal help , I hope pulkit grow spine soon .

Vo to Kush apni duniya mein coward don't had guts to even stand with sai.

Originally posted by: Hari73

World is small you see, it's better you keep yourself clean. God knows someone might come up with character certificate. N I how did she maligned herself?

Sai was least bothered what others think about her, she told this multiple times - "mujhe farak nehin padta log mere bare mein kya sochte hain". There's a saying, when you throw stone in muddy water, you can't escape from its drops. When you malign one of your family member, you automatically malign yourself along with it, which is why elders usually - jo bhi kehne yeh chaar devaaron ke andar kaho, jo baahar vaalon se baat karne ne sa, naahi hamare izzat jaayegi balki tere bhi.

That's how our society is.

Sai knows their qualification, that's why in advance she cleared herself

Other than the family which Kaku instigated (eloped one), rest will be more than happy to be convinced otherwise.

Here you are giving wrong reference, she is not bad mouthing them. I see her like a small child crying alone, so I feel it's society duty atleast hear her problem, instead bcom inhuman n move on..

And if her father had not given her good up bringing, she wouldn't hv taken stand for herself n secondly she would hv been bitching like paki for her security. Dont forget she always respected elders, though they humiliated her day n night.

If she had gone chup chap, don't u think chavans would hv lived happily. I dont think other than ashwini, anyone would even want to think abt her. Now she took away their false pride. Atleast in future, ppl won't b in wrong impression about chavans. I am happy abt this action.

A good upbringing doesn't stop with standing for right stuff, its how you stand up for it & how you convey, it matters. Lots of families give good upbringing like - don't let the wrong things happen, challenge the wrong but that doesn't mean, you go on being rude to others, just because you feel they are wrong.

Bad mouthing = abuse, I didn't say, she abused people - I said she was rude to people, lots of difference in that single word 🤓

Other would've def. thought about her but not in the happy way, for a while & I'm sure Pakhi would've made sure, to bring Sai every single day - just to show herself in high regards, especially when Virat is in the picture. Ashwini, Mohit, Shivani would've been def. in contact with Sai, even if she didn't return home. Virat's male ego wouldn't let him confess his feelings but he would've met Sai (un)intentionally no.of times, unless she left for Gadchiroli.

I'm not against Sai maligning Chavans izzat but in her anger, she spilled more than she should've.

And we know, Mr. Spectator husband will go n beg Sai to return after coming to know the truth. Then Mia biwi raazi he tho hum kya karenge kazi🤣

Sai's izzat will go for a toss with the neighbors, when returns to Chavaans, its what I meant - when you malign your family, you get maligned in the process. Whether one likes it or not, she's no longer "Joshi", she's a "Chavan" too.

Originally posted by: basherz

Empathy alone will not win you any patients. I can send you several photos of clinics, where doctors are literally whiling away their time - chasing flies, because of their earlier impulsive nature.

This makes no sense. Sai likes to retaliate on insults she receives from a very specific group of people. Will her patients be this group of people? Will her patients be insulting her? No and no.

Therefore her professional temperament will be exactly how it is at the university. Which is by all accounts great - everyone likes her. The admission lady knows her by name.

Originally posted by: GandiAai

This makes no sense. Sai likes to retaliate on insults she receives from a very specific group of people. Will her patients be this group of people? Will her patients be insulting her? No and no.

Therefore her professional temperament will be exactly how it is at the university. Which is by all accounts great - everyone likes her. The admission lady knows her by name.

Sai had shown impulsive behavior to others as well, if you wish to ignore it - I have no issues but don't keep banging the same door, that she only retorts. I guess you've known very few patients then, if you think all patients are soft-spoken. Try visiting a Government hospital - especially during their checkup hours (rush hours prior to covid were 9am to 12pm, especially in a semi-urban town), if you really wish to see different sort of patients, in a short span of time.

She's a state topper for god's sake, of course the people who were around during admission would know her & she's married too - not many college entrants are married these days, that too so young. On top of it, its not even been one academic year.

Heck, I wasn't a topper neither in academics nor was I state player at any sport or anything but still all the staff in my college know me by name & also the staff who were there during my school time know me = does that make me a great & impeccable at my profession ? And professional colleagues are different from your patients. There's another version to your viewpoint, just because someone doesn't like a person, doesn't make them bad at their profession either.

Based on the nature, Sai would make a great Lawyer, Administrative Officer or may be even a hardcore politician def. not an great doctor = at least based on what I have seen so far & your arguments aren't going to change my view. Visiting hospitals nearly thrice a week for 10 long years is a enough sample size for my POV (docs I remember going for - Cardiologist, General Surgeon, Family physician, Rheumatologist, Dermatologist, Neurologist, Neuro Surgeon, Nephrologist, Urologist, gastroenterologist, surgical gastroenterologist, Pulmonolgist, Ortho surgeon & Endocrinologist - I have deducted dentists & ophthalmologists, you can add them as well, if you wish to)

we're going in circles, so this will be my final response to the subject.

Originally posted by: basherz

Sai had shown impulsive behavior to others as well, if you wish to ignore it - I have no issues but don't keep banging the same door, that she only retorts. I guess you've known very few patients then, if you think all patients are soft-spoken. Try visiting a Government hospital - especially during their checkup hours (rush hours prior to covid were 9am to 12pm, especially in a semi-urban town), if you really wish to see different sort of patients, in a short span of time.

She's a state topper for god's sake, of course the people who were around during admission would know her & she's married too - not many college entrants are married these days, that too so young. On top of it, its not even been one academic year.

Heck, I wasn't a topper neither in academics nor was I state player at any sport or anything but still all the staff in my college know me by name & also the staff who were there during my school time know me = does that make me a great & impeccable at my profession ? And professional colleagues are different from your patients. There's another version to your viewpoint, just because someone doesn't like a person, doesn't make them bad at their profession either.

Based on the nature, Sai would make a great Lawyer, Administrative Officer or may be even a hardcore politician def. not an great doctor = at least based on what I have seen so far & your arguments aren't going to change my view. Visiting hospitals nearly thrice a week for 10 long years is a enough sample size for my POV (docs I remember going for - Cardiologist, General Surgeon, Family physician, Rheumatologist, Dermatologist, Neurologist, Neuro Surgeon, Nephrologist, Urologist, gastroenterologist, surgical gastroenterologist, Pulmonolgist, Ortho surgeon & Endocrinologist - I have deducted dentists & ophthalmologists, you can add them as well, if you wish to)

we're going in circles, so this will be my final response to the subject.

Great! Because your evidence against her fitness (where you give no examples) is more flimsy than an anonymous letter with no address.