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Posted: 4 years ago

Originally posted by: bakwas_serial

Morning Nisha ! The.conversation between Anu and Akash are always a treat to read and very revealing.

Anu is not petty or miser and the couple make decisions jointly it seems. But does exposure, financial independence,(oh yes on a after thought even education) gives you an ability or will to fight society ills and traditions? If you agree and accept it why will you fight it. Or is it that you do know it is wrong but will comply for peace.


I was alluding to her objecting to Savi picking Dadu's hospital bills. Even though she says "taking care of parents" ...she means only the sons not a "married "daughter. As it is "inappropriate". How long does one hide behind I want to avoid Dadi's wrath..does she wonder if her four daughters will also unconsciously imbibe those beliefs. Who knows they may marry men who think like her or worse Dadi and not Akash.

Plus the whole tirade about the gifting and making it even.

This was lovely as usual and reflects a reality of society 😍


Well said Shraddha.


Anil Chachu is a son but cannot pitch in as he is not financially sound. That is fine. But a financially very well off married daughter cannot pitch in, as she is a daughter and patriarchal society norms say that taking care of parents is the responsibility of the sons and not the daughters.


Anu is a very educated and successful woman. Me too wonder if these thoughts are due to Dadi's constant taunts or does she deep down agrees with such beliefs.

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Posted: 4 years ago

Originally posted by: canapoem


Well said Shraddha.


Anil Chachu is a son but cannot pitch in as he is not financially sound. That is fine. But a financially very well off married daughter cannot pitch in, as she is a daughter and patriarchal society norms say that taking care of parents is the responsibility of the sons and not the daughters.


Anu is a very educated and successful woman. Me too wonder if these thoughts are due to Dadi's constant taunts or does she deep down agrees with such beliefs.


Dont know 😊 I am.assuming big financial decisions are directed to her by Akash as her earnings are much more. Plus here it will be her who would be paying the bills.

So is it to avoid her MIL taunts or is it that some things are so ingrained (son,eldest son responsibility and...) that she has never questioned it and goes with the traditional norm (inappropriate) . It is not her style though to politely and firmly take a stand (like Veev)...she would like a approval from Dadi which sadly will never happen

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Posted: 4 years ago

Originally posted by: bakwas_serial


Dont know 😊 I am.assuming big financial decisions are directed to her by Akash as her earnings are much more. Plus here it will be her who would be paying the bills.

So is it to avoid her MIL taunts or is it that some things are so ingrained (son,eldest son responsibility and...) that she has never questioned it and goes with the traditional norm (inappropriate) . It is not her style though to politely and firmly take a stand (like Veev)...she would like a approval from Dadi which sadly will never happen

Dadi will do her thing, irrespective of the situation. Anu's insurance cover took care of much of the expenditure. Something that was even pointed out to her by the younger son Anil. Even then she told Raanav "Dadu aspataal mein, Anu Amreeka" or something to that effect.

I was wondering whether its easy for those of us who live away and don't have to really deal with these things on a day to day basis, to say eff dadi. But in Anubha's case it has been more than evident that she doesn't want to rock the boat too much, want to be seen and to do all the right expected things. In spite of her stupendous success compared to so many other women (with a supportive husband to boot) she still longs for all the traditional stuff like validation from the MIL. Are we women conditioned to be like that? Its sad that it is still a topic of discussion whether women can do things towards looking after their own parents. Here probably the fact that dadu went to his daughter's place from the hospital will count towards her share of looking after him. Wouldn't want her shelling money even if its peanuts for her, on top of that. I wonder if she was working and if she were to spend the money that she herself earned, whether that would be different. Or maybe her in laws would have something to say about that. Bottom line its time these things changed!

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Posted: 4 years ago

I am.assuming that insurance did not cover everything and some (4.5 lakhs still a lot for Mathurs based on Akash comment) was still out of pocket.

Living away from country maybe tad easier but generally the interference or expectation does not go away. 😊 Just like Dadi is visting them in Delhi..families visit and stay is not really short. Plus communication is constant.

Institutionalised conditioning exists..many festivals and traditions makes sure patriarchy thrives.😋 So we dont know why Anu has this need for Dadi approval even after 30 years. Maybe it is conditioning (upbringing) and she has not questioned it. But if you realise that something is wrong and bothers you ( she had low BP after another Dadi rant)...and you are suffering you speak up no🤔 She will not win the popularity contest anyway...but life will be tad better

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Posted: 4 years ago

Originally posted by: bakwas_serial

I am.assuming that insurance did not cover everything and some (4.5 lakhs still a lot for Mathurs based on Akash comment) was still out of pocket.

Living away from country maybe tad easier but generally the interference or expectation does not go away. 😊 Just like Dadi is visting them in Delhi..families visit and stay is not really short. Plus communication is constant.

Institutionalised conditioning exists..many festivals and traditions makes sure patriarchy thrives.😋 So we dont know why Anu has this need for Dadi approval even after 30 years. Maybe it is conditioning (upbringing) and she has not questioned it. But if you realise that something is wrong and bothers you ( she had low BP after another Dadi rant)...and you are suffering you speak up no🤔 She will not win the popularity contest anyway...but life will be tad better

The insurance didn't cover the whole (hence I said much, one wonders what would've been covered).


I think that contradiction is what makes Anubha interesting. That she's not able to shed that conditioning of sorts or not to let it get to her. I think dadi would've needed to be hospitalized if her daughters would've come to know of her low BP post dadi rant😆 Viveka for sure would've let her have it. Even Naina, actually what she had said once about how they should stop bothering about what dadi and bua would say, or living in fear of what they may say makes total sense.


You're right, living away does not make the expectation go away. But it does make it easier to ignore lot of the time😆

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Posted: 4 years ago

Daughters take was spot on P 😂.

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Posted: 4 years ago

Expression

“Bhabhi shaayad car rakhna chahti hongi, main lekar aa gayi” Garima cackled in the safety of Bua’s house

Anu was right there listening

“Koi baat nahi, Delhi itna unsafe hai” Anu said calmly

She thought Garima was being childish

“Jeeji ko tumhari chinta hai” savi said with pride

“Umm.. hamey to nahi lagta” Garima sighed

“Abhi main kaise prove karoon aapko” Anu said distractedly looking at her phone

She had texted Veev , no response

She should have gotten home 5 hours ago, it was almost 9 PM

“Aapki baat hui Veev se?” she texted Akash

“Nope”

“She is not answering”

“Umm.. hafte baad gayi hai, ghar ka kaam hoga” he said politely

“That’s fine… I wanted to know what we should buy for him”

“Let her rest”

“Oh…”

Anu realized what Akash meant

She leaned back and stared at Savi’s expansive kitchen

Harsha and Varsha were in a corner trying to beat each other in a video game

Piyush was on his phone

She wondered if Viveka and Raanav had the same camaraderie

To Anu Raanav seemed like a great guy, the way he tolerated Dadi alone, he deserved a gold medal

She missed Viveka, she would be in Kamal’s library with her nose buried in a book

She worried about every inequity and injustice, a rare kid indeed

It was ironic that she married into a family that was extraordinarily wealthy, Viveka didn’t know where the Parashars were on the fairness scale, Satyen seemed like a decent man

He employed 10s of thousands across India

He certainly could not be a tyrant or a crook

She herself was learning to loosen up and let go, Naina did not conform to her ideas, what use was rigidity

Anu sighed and reached for a pakora

“Jeeji abhi bhi jet lag chal raha hai aapka?” Savi enquired serving sizzling pakoras

“Abhi ek do din aur” Anu laughed

“Beti ki soch mein hain? Yeh bhi keh rahe they, library khali hai aaj” Savi smiled

Anu teared up

“It all happened so fast”

“Khush hai maine suna”

“KIS SE?”

Anu wanted to know real bad

“Piyush usko SMS karta hai raat ko mostly SOYI hoti hai” Savi whispered conspiratorially

“Pichhle 4 5 sin se to Rohini mein hai”

“Arey nahi Jeeji” Savi was sure all was well

“Achha?”

“Main keh rahi hoon”

“Thank u” Anu smiled

“waise aapko DAR kis baat ka hai?” Savi asked suddenly

Anu froze, “Oh how could she tell her she had anxiety from the fact that her daughter had rushed into marriage with a man who she had safely rejected not too long ago”

“Umm.. mujhe u know, Varsha ki Ma bhi chinta karti hongi”

“KIS BAAT PAR?” Savi whispered and winked “Varsha subah kamre se 10 baje, 11 baje, nikalti hai”

“Hmm.. nahi Veev to subah 7 ya 8 baje Shahpur Jat mein hoti hai”

“Oh why?” she wondered

“waise Bhayya ko chance miley to samdhi ji se baat karwayen ki Raanav ki responsibility thodi dino ke liye kam kar dein, bache hain enjoy karenge”

“Enjoy” being the synonym for s—among middle class mothers

“Akash?” “Is janam mein aisi baat nahi kar paayenge” anu laughed

“Main INKO keh doon?”

“No way… no… no”

“Agar who log enjoy nahi karenge abhi to kab karenge?”

“waise Amma ne taana maara Raanav ko ki hamari beti ko soney dein aap”

“Ammmaaahhh” Savi laughed and laughed

“To who hasker baat ko taal diye”

“To phir? Sab theek hai Jeeji” Savi hugged her and groaned “Aap Delhi mein nahi hotey to mujhe achha nahi lagta”

“Mujhe bhi” she teased

“Mandir ki mannat baaqi thi is liye gayi main Jeeji”

“Naina aayegi?” Anu asked her cautiously

“Kaha to hai”

“Koi achha ladka ho Varsha ki side batao” Anu whispered

“Pakkka? Phir mukarna nahi” Savi was all excited

“Ma did you call?” Veev texted

“Yeah beta”

“Sorry I was asleep”

“Dadi ki baat maan li Raanav ne” Anu smiled as she got up to go speak in another room

Varsha’s parents were entering with a another couple

“Kaafi obedient hai Ma” Viveka shook her head

He had NOT let her sleep and that was the point, but too awkward to let Ma know she was having a romp the first 2 hours after returning home

“raanav kaise hain?”

“Ma AAP MILI HO 4 ghante pehle”

“I know I know… its courtesy”

“He is asleep”

“Good”

“hahahaha”

“Achhha Lohri mein kya dein usko hum?”

“Kyon?”

“We never gave him anything nice”

“Why do you need to, is this dahez?”

“Pagal ho?”

“Phir?”

“GIFT HAI BETA”

“Hmm… I don’t know”

“Great, itni interrogation ke baad nothing?”

“hahah sorry I can ask him”

“Pay attention.. I said GIFT”

“Oh haan haan” “Umm… I don’t know, hes a picky eater, he runs, just give him shoes”

“Maroongi tumhe, first gift son in law ko shoes dein?

“He will like it”

“Tumse baat karna beqaar hai I will ask Piyush” “Or Harshu”

“Ma…Ma Ma Ma Ma Ma”

“Bolo”

“I missed you” Viveka said softly

“I did too jaan”

“Raanav said “My eyes light up when I am around Papa, but for the first time they lit up when I saw you”

“Chalo rehem hai” Anu mumbled sadly

“Can I get him something?” Viveka asked

“yeh MAIN bataoon?”

“Sorry I am thinking out loud” Viveka mumbled

“Haan ruko” Anu spoke into the phone “Veev baad mein call karti hoon”

“Dadu theek hain?”

“Hes fine”

Viveka hung up

Walked over to the bed and climbed on and leaned over him

“My Mom likes you” she whispered on his cheek

Kissed him and got off the bed and went to her corner

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Posted: 4 years ago

"To phir? Sab theek hai Jeeji” Savi hugged her and groaned “Aap Delhi mein nahi hotey to mujhe achha nahi lagta"


Savi and anu🥺🥺🥰

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Posted: 4 years ago

Ra and obedient 😂 Vi is rational and logical.."give him.shoes" The guy has a pair of running shoes in his cube...loves running... he will use the gift Anu...gift him sneakers 😍

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Posted: 4 years ago

“Raanav said “My eyes light up when I am around Papa, but for the first time they lit up when I saw you”


The guy understands his wife's look. Does he also figure out that Viveka loves him and how she goes weak in her knees on spotting him.

Finally Ranaav is sleeping in peace and aaj bande ko neend aachi ayegi.

Waiting to see what Viveka gifts him. I am sure this will be surprise for us all which Nisha has planned.


Nisha, these guys have never celebrated each others birthday together till now. Can you include either of their birthday celebration or some surprise ?

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