NivRen: Missing love in relation - Page 16

Originally posted by: ashred12

Many including myself were upset at nivi for not offering to make karela. But did u guys notice one thing? Wen no1 offered to do it, cc on her own will was ready to do something 4 her son. If nivi had offered, cc wudnt 've done dat. It'd be only nivi making effort n not any1 fm d family. So in dat sense, atleast his mother has started d effort, if not d others. Nivi is already doing her part, except 4 d confession.

Hi ashred.... Thanks for pointing this out... But that is precisely our question... If cc as a mother wants to change what she did wrong... Firstly she shoul have offered making Karela right after Viren said I want to eat Karela. But she didn't . No one knows what he likes neither mother, an nivi inspire of knowing it didn't make it herself. What is frustating is not nivi not offering to make Karela , but letting Viren Listen to dadi's nonsense and moreover Viren reminding everyone that he has been hearing the same excuse since childhood. Had he not said this .... Cc would not have realized it and not offered to make Karela. So cc is basically hiding her guilt only after he reminded her. So how is anyone playing their parts .... I don't see how nivi or Chanchal have played their parts here

Originally posted by: Cutie-NivRen

<font color="#990066" size="2" face="Comic Sans MS, Times, serif">True Sahuja I agree with you if Nivi will tell him few times he will listen but according to precap Nivi started this that's why Viren said that he doesn't believe in feelings.</font>

The precap we saw doesn't tell us what Nivi said to Viren... So will have to wait and watch... But it could also be his anger and frustation coming out in the form how many tomes has he asked he why she does things for him.... And what does he hear,...her responsibilities.... So how can he be sure that her feelings are true now... As we agreed.. Saying once won't do here bec neither the circumstances are similar as before and nivi has taken too much time to reciprocate her feelings... Rembr Viren said to nivi... Ki Itna time mat le Lena ki time hi nickel jaye... So for him his is happening.. For him it's over ... An just saying won't do now... She has to act... Show him that she cares and loves.. Support him.. Fight for his place in the family

Originally posted by: sahuja

The precap we saw doesn't tell us what Nivi said to Viren... So will have to wait and watch... But it could also be his anger and frustation coming out in the form how many tomes has he asked he why she does things for him.... And what does he hear,...her responsibilities.... So how can he be sure that her feelings are true now... As we agreed.. Saying once won't do here bec neither the circumstances are similar as before and nivi has taken too much time to reciprocate her feelings... Rembr Viren said to nivi... Ki Itna time mat le Lena ki time hi nickel jaye... So for him his is happening.. For him it's over ... An just saying won't do now... She has to act... Show him that she cares and loves.. Support him.. Fight for his place in the family

I really wonder why the Soods are only depending on Nivi to bring Viren back, Why efforts are they making, Even they should make an effort to bring him back, They say that they love him, but they dont do anything to show him that they love him and care for him, on the contrary they keep quiet the moment he enters the hall. I only see effort from Nivi's side and a little from CC and Vandana, Wat about Sid, He had told Nivi that he will do all possible ways for Viren and he also says he loves Viren a lot, but he is doing nothing about it, I feel whole family should become one and make an effort in getting back Viren, this way he will believe that his family loves him a lot. How much will Nivi alone manage, They are doing as if they are doing a favour on Viren by keeping him in the house. I personally believe they should start concentrating on Viren a bit rather than seeing to their own selves for a few days, YD being the dadi is showing no effort from her side, It is said younger grandson is the heart and soul of the house but here it looks as if they dont even need him, Its only CC, VD and Nivi making an effort, This is just my POV,

Originally posted by: Cutie-NivRen

<font color="#990066" size="2" face="Comic Sans MS, Times, serif">Agree with you sahuja but she has started now and moreover now this Divorce thing lets see what is store in that but that will happen next week maybe we get some strong episodes next week.</font>

I too hope the divorce papers will really shake her up and she will realize what is is abt to lose I she doesn't express herself and do something fast. Being quiet and patient is nit something for Viren. She has forgotten he is a jet speed guy and loves everything that way. She needs to roll up her sleeves and think of some good ideas to bring him and his family together.

Originally posted by: friendforall

I really wonder why the Soods are only depending on Nivi to bring Viren back, Why efforts are they making, Even they should make an effort to bring him back, They say that they love him, but they dont do anything to show him that they love him and care for him, on the contrary they keep quiet the moment he enters the hall. I only see effort from Nivi's side and a little from CC and Vandana, Wat about Sid, He had told Nivi that he will do all possible ways for Viren and he also says he loves Viren a lot, but he is doing nothing about it, I feel whole family should become one and make an effort in getting back Viren, this way he will believe that his family loves him a lot. How much will Nivi alone manage, They are doing as if they are doing a favour on Viren by keeping him in the house. I personally believe they should start concentrating on Viren a bit rather than seeing to their own selves for a few days, YD being the dadi is showing no effort from her side, It is said younger grandson is the heart and soul of the house but here it looks as if they dont even need him, Its only CC, VD and Nivi making an effort, This is just my POV,

I completely agree and I mentioned the Same thing earlier today also ... That alone nivi can't pull this of and if they don't know what to do ... Someone has to tell them what to do then.., hopefully Nivi realizes it after the divorce drama.

Originally posted by: friendforall

I really wonder why the Soods are only depending on Nivi to bring Viren back, Why efforts are they making, Even they should make an effort to bring him back, They say that they love him, but they dont do anything to show him that they love him and care for him, on the contrary they keep quiet the moment he enters the hall. I only see effort from Nivi's side and a little from CC and Vandana, Wat about Sid, He had told Nivi that he will do all possible ways for Viren and he also says he loves Viren a lot, but he is doing nothing about it, I feel whole family should become one and make an effort in getting back Viren, this way he will believe that his family loves him a lot. How much will Nivi alone manage, They are doing as if they are doing a favour on Viren by keeping him in the house. I personally believe they should start concentrating on Viren a bit rather than seeing to their own selves for a few days, YD being the dadi is showing no effort from her side, It is said younger grandson is the heart and soul of the house but here it looks as if they dont even need him, Its only CC, VD and Nivi making an effort, This is just my POV,

@Sahuja Even I agree with u that the Divorce papers will give her a Jhatka, I really dont want that scene to be shown, its just tooo painful to watch, I feel so sorry for NT Dadi and KS. Poor people how long will they have to bear up the insults of the Soods. They keep quiet and bear up all problems and this is why they keep crushing their feelings, But I hope Viren has a strong Motive by doing all this, because I could clearly see pain in his eyes when he was telling Nivi to tell the family how much he has troubled her, he was not happy doing all this, May be by doing all this he wants someone (dont know who) to speak up) he is creating such situation that some major secret will be out,

Originally posted by: friendforall

@Sahuja Even I agree with u that the Divorce papers will give her a Jhatka, I really dont want that scene to be shown, its just tooo painful to watch, I feel so sorry for NT Dadi and KS. Poor people how long will they have to bear up the insults of the Soods. They keep quiet and bear up all problems and this is why they keep crushing their feelings, But I hope Viren has a strong Motive by doing all this, because I could clearly see pain in his eyes when he was telling Nivi to tell the family how much he has troubled her, he was not happy doing all this, May be by doing all this he wants someone (dont know who) to speak up) he is creating such situation that some major secret will be out,

hi diya.... i know it would be painful to watch...but i think it is necessary....now ..bec i am frustated with the way nivi is reacting..and she needs to be shaken up... for good... before it is too late...i dont know how nivi will stay back in sood house after that... but atleast i expect to see her feelings for viren after this... her tears in this scene were one sign... also as per today's article...it is forsure she will stay back and be successful in getting viren closing to his family..and then make her way in his heart..so lets see how they have it all planned... i just hope this is over with jet speed..and we can finally have our real loving and smiling viren back....

Originally posted by: milee1014

I saw most of your posts about Nivi should Confess or Not? I would say NO to it, please don't throw chappals at me😆I have my reasons girls.

Viren did an unpardonable mistake that is stalking his wife and torturing her mentally and emotionally and you girls want her to forgive everything and confess her love for him just because he has a traumatized past. Isn't that kind of wrong?

And right now he too knows that Nivi is with him because of her love and care for him and its in her character, she will be always with him because at the time of HM she revealed her love to him, and in the park after confrontation she asked him "how can you ask me to leave, you were the one who made me fall in love with you" and she told him that "he was the one who gave her happiness and reason to live" even though its acting for you but not for me.

But right now, Viren is complete denial mode. He thinks he is not worthy of any love from her specially her love because he kind of I think given up on his family love (and we are seeing it with our own eyes how the family behaves)

And I think couple of days back Navi wrote too, that if she confesses her love to him now, he will not take it properly because he is ina mode that he is not worthy person for her and her love, that is the biggest reason he started pushing her away from the day of confrontation. WE could see his pain after Nivi left from the park how much pain he was bearing inhis heart for sending her away but he had to do it.

And right now he is behaving so rudely with Nivi just because she is not leaving him and he has to hurt her even more after all he did to her with MP thing, and she is trying to patch up with his family but how can he patch where noone from family showing any genuine love towards him, so he is getting more irritated with her.

So first, I want Nivi to show him the mirror so that he himself sees that he is good person, she needs to show him he is wrothy enough to be cared and loved by one and all. Then only he can feel the love, and at that time I want him to work on winning back Nivi's trust and Love. At that time the confession will be genuine from two sides, it will be blissful because they are doing it for their happiness not with any manipulations or any other stupid reasons. Its for their own happiness.

Right now, in the situation Viren is I want Nivi to always stand by him, showing him how much she cares and loves (confession is not necessary here, there are so many ways you can show other person you are loved)for him as a wife,friend. Not just by cleaning after him, she needs to work differently to show the real Viren to the family, she is not trying from that angle at all. Up until now what was she doing other than cleaning after him, manipulated him to sit in pooja which he doesnot like,standing with the family when they are ignoring him altogether. I don't think it will help at all to bring out the real Viren. She needs to plan a strategy and work on it.

I know you girls may say if she confesses her love he may turn around, but is it the right way of it? he will do it just because of Nivi but will he ever can forget what emotional hell he went thru all those years back.

I know I saw some posts saying she should confess and leave the decision to him, but he is not in his right mind at all right now. HE will say something stupid which will make it worse already there has been a knot created intheir bond being a compassionate girl Nivi did not break and still standing with him and understood his pain and hurt. I want the knot to be cleared very carefully so that the bond will not break and I know Nivi has that capacity but she needs to follow someother way rather than following what the family says and all. She needs to show something different to him.

So in conclusion, I know many of you or everyone of you maynot agree I want NivRen confession at the end when they settle this current situation and their Love should be for their own happiness and not for anyone or any other reasons.

Sorry girls If I hurt anyone's feelings. But I will say one thing though that there are many other ways to show your partner that you love him.

I agree 100% with u.. TG u've d same opinion in dis matter..