Rule l: Trust Is Key
Bollywood is full of handsome men and beautiful women. Ironically, it's our job to pretend to be in love. Imagine watching your man declare his undying love for another woman. It's bizarre! But that's our job, and that's why trust is critical in our industry.
Rule 2: You and Me Time
Holidays are the only times that Saif and I really get to escape the world and reconnect with each other. No pressure of unfinished scenes, box-office success, brand endorsements ... We can do all the things that our star status doesn't let us do back home. Simple things like walking hand-in-hand or shopping together are impossible if you're famous. We'd be mobbed every second in Mumbai. But up in the Swiss Alps in Gstaad, we're only as famous as we want to be!
Rule 3: Just You Time
This is probably going to sound rather selfish but you occasionally need some alone time. Just you and whatever or whoever makes you happy-but not your partner. If you aren't happy with yourself, there is no way you can be a good partner.
Rule 4: Suprise Each Other
When Saif and I started dating, we would buy really expensive presents for each other all the time. We would never bat an eyelid at spending lakhs of rupees buying each other dazzling diamond necklaces and expensive designer suits. Now, of course, we may not go overboard like that but once in a while, if I see a gadget that he's been meaning to buy or a watch that he really likes, I will pick it up just to surprise him.
Rule 5: Seduce Each Other
... And I am not talking about lace lingerie and scented candles only. Those are always nice but, at times, the best way to get into the mood is just listening to some really great music over a glass of wine. The jazz (or soul, or blues) and the wine might just lead to some dancing. And the dancing to, well...
Rule 6: Check Your Ego Out!
Imagine your salaries making headlines, especially when you both have the same jobs! Comparisons can create major insecurities and huge fights. But we both know we're great at what we do and we're honest. When Saif shows me his films, he expects my opinion -- good or bad or ugly. I've learnt how to be honest yet tactful. With Love Aaj Kal, I instantly knew it would work. 'lt will be a blockbuster!'I shouted. But if I know something has gone wrong, I'll say, 'I'm sure it'll be a hit,' like with Agent Vinod. Saif knew what I meant, but I didn't need to bash his efforts for the sake of honesty.
Source: Style Diary of a Bollywood Diva
Tashan bombed but it gave me my two biggest hits: Size 0 and Saif. I'd always thought Saif was one of the best looking men ever but we weren't friends till we started working on this movie. We had a casual 'hi, bye' relationship, as he'd been Lolo's co-star earlier. We do have a ten-year age gap!
We were shooting in Ladakh's blistering summer and the posh prince of Pataudi was melting. He'd complain constantly while Akki and I tried to distract ourselves. But what instantly drew me to him was his sense of humour and love for adventure. If you ask him, he'll say I made the first move! Which is so not true because he was flirting with me quite shamelessly but in a unique way. His first compliment to me was, 'I like the colour of your car. It isn't very girlie.' (It was gunmetal.) When a guy remembers the colour of your car, ladies, he's been keeping an eye on you!
A few days later, we went on a motorcycle ride through the countryside. I think I surprised him by asking if I could go along. The Kareena Kapoor he'd heard of wasn't much of a biker chick. He kept checking me out in the rear-view to see if I were enjoying or freaking out. It was tough to keep a straight face when my head was full of images of us plummeting down a sharp slope! Ladakh is the perfect place to fall in love, and that ride was the moment we both realized we had more in common than we thought. Soon, we were spending all our time together, shopping for wooden boxes that Saif is obsessed with or hunting for Chinese food to satisfy my craving.
By the second schedule in Jaisalmer, everyone knew that something special was afoot. When the media found out, it made headlines. The minute people realized we were dating, their only question was: 'When's the wedding?' Before we even got to know each other well, people were willing to marry us off. Then Saifeena was born. I genuinely want to meet the person who invented this term and ask him or her -- WHY? It annoyed me. I never wanted to be one of those couples without separate identities. But, with time, I learnt how to ignore it.
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